Has this ever happened to you? your thoughts...

[barefeetarebest]

You're experiencing the discintigration of your marriage or relationship....

Do you find it amazing, as i do, that if throughout the entire existence of your relationship your S.O. was a supportive and creative willing participant (most of the time) who, initially, discovered your hidden secret fetish early on through her own snooping, rifling through your possessions when you weren't there?

Over the years the subject has become a basis for arguments?

Point of ridicule?

Does it give that person the right to blab about it to others and kind of "blow your cover", then bring back comments from the narrow-minded peanut gallery of vanillas with whom they associate?

All i'm saying is that we are a large community and, aside from the bonafide BDSM and actual "foot fetish" communities, we are probably the largest online. When will it be deemed acceptable to have this fetish and not be looked at as an affliction or liability? (because it certainly does make dating more difficult)

Kind of galling, huh?

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I'm fortunate enough to have never had to go through that...though I did have a couple of "friends" act in similar fashion. No matter how accepted this may come to be in general, I suspect there will still be plenty of closed minded people who will still look down on it/us.

I don't give it any more importance than if it were any other area of my life. They are who they are. I am who I am. Neither of us is likely to change the other. Annoying...? You bet. But, not all that surprising. We need to learn to accept one another whether we happen to agree with one another or not.

 

[Adam]

Fortunately, no. Though I'll tell you this much about the questions you posed... if anyone has the gall to go blabbing about your fetish to others, you might as well return the favor and start bringing up their likes and dislikes that may differ a bit from the norm, provided they have any. While this may sound a bit childish, I'd likely be furious enough to do it.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

While I can't answer your question about when will everyone love us - I will say that that sounds like an uber shitty relationshit, and the faster you run the better.

 

[TicklerChampion]

I, personally, couldn't care whether our fetish is acceptable or not. My likes and dislikes won't be influenced by what our world thinks is "good" and "bad". As for your relationship, I've never been in that spot myself. My last g/f(now my ex as of 3 months ago), was never supportive and the main issue was she never said anything. she went with it. If I'm going to be with someone, they need to like it too, not fake it. And trust me, one day you'll find that special girl who fits into your likes and lifestyle perfectly.

 

[duannewalton]

I'm thankful to say that's one thing that DIDN'T get blabbed.

 

[venray]

IWhen a relationship comes apart it matters not whether you have a fetish or not...

A mean spirited "partner" will always use whatever they can to put you down in order to "justify" the ending of said relationship....

Sorry to hear this is happening to you Bro......

(feel free to PM me any time)

 

[Sandrock74]

Yes it has happened to me. I didn't (and still don't) understand it, since what happens in a bedroom should remain private, period. Friends and acquaintances never need to hear stories about that kind of stuff...it doesn't involve them. It's just a spiteful thing to do.

 

[rhiannon]

I don't believe fetishes will ever be totally 'accepted', but I also think they don't need to be! What I do in my bedroom is just my business and mine alone!

Several of my friends know about my fetish and none of them ever thought I was weird (or any weirder that they already think I am 🙂 ) or treated me differently. But then, maybe being passive makes the difference here.

 

[MrTicklefeet]

Well, snooping through someone else's stuff and then blabbing it does show disrespect. Don't have a very strong base for a relationship. That would screw up trust issues for me.

 

[barefeetarebest]

While I can't answer your question about when will everyone love us - I will say that that sounds like an uber shitty relationshit, and the faster you run the better.

Without a doubt, that is what i have done, been doing, and will continue to do! Thanks you guys for all the supportive responses. Love ya's and missed everyone @ nest; next year, 'tis on!

 

[ticklemepls]

that is definately a sucker punch to the gut. you have every right to be upset. never had that happen to me fortuntely. it may be strange to some people, and it always will be unfortunately... the only people you can trust with your secret are all right here....!

 

[tickler4u2]

I think what she did to you was absolutely horrible. Thankfully, I have been spared this in my life. I think blabbering about something so personal and so intimate is unacceptable. Just know that over time, others will look at her in disgust. Most people recognize that certain things are just off limits. This is one of them. Hope you are OK.

 

[Coda]

Galling, yes. I think I've had a couple of moments during conversations with female friends <I>about</I> their boyfriends, and they tell me something that stings a little, and merits the question, "are you sure he's all right with you talking about this?"

It's at least reinforced for me the importance of communicating about the degree of trust that I'd like to have established with my friends if we discuss particularly personal things.

 

[baldadonis]

Most similar thing I can speak of on this topic is when I told a girl I had been dating about a month about my fetish. She was confused but didn't think it was a big deal. She slept over that night. The next morning she dumped me. Fucking ouch. In her defense its a bitch to catch a subway overnight 🙄 But this has been the exception to the rule in my experience. Every other significant other I told about it, whether they loved it too, were curious, or downright hated it, at least accepted it and didn't make me feel bad about it.

 

[Rorschach]

That's totally horrible man, but at the same time, I'm sure she's the kind of underhanded bitch who would have found some kind of weakness to exploit. If it wasn't about tickling, it would have been some other embarrassing secret.

 

[baldadonis]

That's totally horrible man, but at the same time, I'm sure she's the kind of underhanded bitch who would have found some kind of weakness to exploit. If it wasn't about tickling, it would have been some other embarrassing secret.

Appreciate the sentiment. She actually was a very sweet girl in general, she just handled this the breakup exceptionally poorly.

 

[leafstk]

Try going through that with an ex who is a reporter and you yourself are a public figure...

 

[leafstk]

Appreciate the sentiment. She actually was a very sweet girl in general, she just handled this the breakup exceptionally poorly.

I feel your pain and have the same sentiments....

 

[ViperGTS]

That really stinks. Sorry to hear the marriage is strained. Sounds like you need to find yourself another lady.

 

[kis123]

This was one of the top reasons why I left my marriage. Snooping, blabbing confidences, and using intimacies to win arguments is nothing but emotional blackmail IMO. Anyone who does that is despicable and should be put down like a rabid dog!! Okay, that's a little over the top, but this is a huge pet peeve with me.

What is the big deal about tickling anyway?? It's not like we're into anything heavy duty or screw animals or something! What's the big f-ing deal? People need to grow up....really they do!

If you're married, get that crap straightened out. If not, I'd put her to the curb like a sack of trash asap!

 

[TexasTicklin]

I am sorry that happened to you. My ex shared some private information regarding our sexual life and made me sound like a deviant (when he was cheating and doing role play with another woman, etc., and didn't participate in my love of tickling) and it was all recorded for an attorney's deposition. Nice. Even better, when he came to pick up our son from my mom, he asked if he could talk to her and she said yes. He then proceeded to give her details about our intimate life and things that we did and tried to tell her that I was the one forcing the issue. I think I speak for most people that you wouldn't want your mom to know your bedroom routines.
So, again, I am sorry and it is mean what this person is doing. Just keep your head held high. Although it may be embarrassing for others to know things that you would have preferred to keep personal, you haven't done anything wrong. Just because other people don't understand doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with this wonderful community.

 

[qwill]

It has happened to me and it's tearing me apart.

 

[newtype04]

Not fair

The tickling fetish is enjoyed worldwide, if it is so unnnatural and strange why are there so many of us? I don't think that it's fair for someone to judge or make fun of someone's fetish considering we all enjoy at least one of the many that are out there( referring to people that are actually human) I also think that no matter what happens in a relationship you should always respect your partners' feelings and boundaries.

 

[Avenger314]

Crap man, I'm really sorry. Yes it's entirely wrong. No, you don't deserve it.

I've had exes blab about me, which made me murderously angry when it happened. It hasn't happened in a while, thankfully.

Hang in there buddy.. I'm sorry this is happening to you.