Since there is such a security concern in real-life meetings of online friends, I am wondering who out there has actually met online friends for real-life tickling, if you would consider doing so, and what security measures you feel necessary in making an online friendship turn into a real-life meeting.
I have had the pleasure of meeting 4 online friends in real-life meeetings and each time resulted in a strong and lasting friendship. In my opinion, I believe that the keys to making such meetings safe and possible are:
A) Communication. Chat, Chat, and Chat with the person until you
feel that you have a very good read on the type of person you are
chatting with. Do you feel comfortabnle with him/her? Once you
have established a comfort zone with this person, graduate to the
telephone. A lot can be learned by listening to the way a person
responds to your questions and concerns. Emails lack inflection
and can easily cause misunderstanding when the written word is
meant to be read one way and it is interpreted another way. The
telephone (or Voice chat) is very effective in advancing a
growing friendship.
B) Respect. No matter what your desires, always respect the other
person. Respect their feelings. Respect their comfort levels
and comfort zones. Respect their likes and dislikes. Respect
their desires. Without respect the meeting can be desastrous.
You might find that you disagree on too many issues to meet.
that is ok. This will not be a good meeting so don't try. On
the otherhand you might find it very easy to operate within the
other persons comfort level - this will always result in a
positive meeting and a good friendship.
C) Trust. Along with respect, the best way to arrive in the other
persons comfort zone is to earn their trust. The only way to do
this is to be open, truthful and honest at all times and follow
through with your promises. If you engage in deceptions or
headgames then you have doomed the potential friendship. When I
chat with ladies who I hope to meet with in the future, I always
promise to be open, honest and truthful from the get-go. As we
chat online or speak on the phone, I reinforce it so that when we
do eventually meet, they already have an great feel for who I am
and what I am looking for. They know what my likes and dislikes
are and I know theirs as well. By the time we meet, there is an
established trust and respect which helps to insure a wonderful
time.
D) Security. This is, perhaps, the trickiest issue. If you
actually have nothing to hide it becomes a very easy issue to
resolve. By the time I meet somebody, I have already estblished
a comfort level with them. I have an established level of trust
and respect. Now I focus on what they feel is necessary to
insure a safe meeting. Some of the things which I feel can help
are to give a trusted friend or family member information such
as: name of the hotel you are meeting at, trip itenerary, Code
words (If you feel threatened and by the person you are meeting,
call your friend and use code words to alert you friend (name of
pets, name of school teacher, vacation plans...)
color/make/model/license plate of the car belonging to the person
you are planning to meet, name of the person you are planning to
meet. I also recommend meeting the person in a neutral site and
chatting for a while before actually meeting behind closed doors
for the tickling treats. You should ALWAYS have the opportunity
to change you mind if you do not feel comfortable.
By following this course of action, I am very happy to have 4 new friends. Unfortunately, one lives out of state, on lives about 500 miles away up north from me, and two are single mothers who don't seem to have the opportunity to get together when the kids are out.
Oh well, I am always open to meeting new people. What about you?
I have had the pleasure of meeting 4 online friends in real-life meeetings and each time resulted in a strong and lasting friendship. In my opinion, I believe that the keys to making such meetings safe and possible are:
A) Communication. Chat, Chat, and Chat with the person until you
feel that you have a very good read on the type of person you are
chatting with. Do you feel comfortabnle with him/her? Once you
have established a comfort zone with this person, graduate to the
telephone. A lot can be learned by listening to the way a person
responds to your questions and concerns. Emails lack inflection
and can easily cause misunderstanding when the written word is
meant to be read one way and it is interpreted another way. The
telephone (or Voice chat) is very effective in advancing a
growing friendship.
B) Respect. No matter what your desires, always respect the other
person. Respect their feelings. Respect their comfort levels
and comfort zones. Respect their likes and dislikes. Respect
their desires. Without respect the meeting can be desastrous.
You might find that you disagree on too many issues to meet.
that is ok. This will not be a good meeting so don't try. On
the otherhand you might find it very easy to operate within the
other persons comfort level - this will always result in a
positive meeting and a good friendship.
C) Trust. Along with respect, the best way to arrive in the other
persons comfort zone is to earn their trust. The only way to do
this is to be open, truthful and honest at all times and follow
through with your promises. If you engage in deceptions or
headgames then you have doomed the potential friendship. When I
chat with ladies who I hope to meet with in the future, I always
promise to be open, honest and truthful from the get-go. As we
chat online or speak on the phone, I reinforce it so that when we
do eventually meet, they already have an great feel for who I am
and what I am looking for. They know what my likes and dislikes
are and I know theirs as well. By the time we meet, there is an
established trust and respect which helps to insure a wonderful
time.
D) Security. This is, perhaps, the trickiest issue. If you
actually have nothing to hide it becomes a very easy issue to
resolve. By the time I meet somebody, I have already estblished
a comfort level with them. I have an established level of trust
and respect. Now I focus on what they feel is necessary to
insure a safe meeting. Some of the things which I feel can help
are to give a trusted friend or family member information such
as: name of the hotel you are meeting at, trip itenerary, Code
words (If you feel threatened and by the person you are meeting,
call your friend and use code words to alert you friend (name of
pets, name of school teacher, vacation plans...)
color/make/model/license plate of the car belonging to the person
you are planning to meet, name of the person you are planning to
meet. I also recommend meeting the person in a neutral site and
chatting for a while before actually meeting behind closed doors
for the tickling treats. You should ALWAYS have the opportunity
to change you mind if you do not feel comfortable.
By following this course of action, I am very happy to have 4 new friends. Unfortunately, one lives out of state, on lives about 500 miles away up north from me, and two are single mothers who don't seem to have the opportunity to get together when the kids are out.
Oh well, I am always open to meeting new people. What about you?
