Have you ever shared the tickling with a friend?

[ticklebutterfly]

One of my good friends has been my good friend for about 5months now. We're pretty close and she is actually a fetish model - not tickle fetish tho. I think I could talk to her easily about the tickling because she's very open minded but wouldn't know where to start.
I couldn't exactly just blurt out "ILIKETICKLING" lol!
I was wondering if anyone had shared what they like with their close friends and what sort of reactions you got?
I'd like to experience being tickled by a woman to see how i felt over it. I've only ever been tied and tickled by my boyfriend. And recently I've told him I'd like to be gang tickled by others. So we're thinking of maybe creating a scenario to get see if she would be interested in helping him tickle me because she's so open minded and fetishy herself.

 

[ticklebutterfly]

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🙁 waiting for a reply.... 🙁
lol

 

[drnkntklr]

If she is a fetish model it sounds to me like you can be very open with her.

 

[RavenMoon]

I would venture to say that she wouldn't be repulsed by the idea. As you said, she is a fetish model and, knowing from personal experience, they tend to be open minded. Now, as far as asking her to join in, just practice a few times with another person who knows or in the mirror so you can approach it respectful and proper. And I may not ask her until you are certain she is cool with your tickling play. You may know right away or it may take a bit to be certain.

My sister is my best friend and after five years in BDSM, I couldn't take keeping it from her any more. So I eventually told her. I was so nervous and afraid, which was silly when I think about it. There wasn't a chance of her disowning me. She laughed and told me she was jealous! My mom was cool about it to. You know- "what ever makes you happy, dear" type of cool. And then there was the laughter too.

Good luck to you in this!

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

I've told a few friends of mine that I love to be tickled and cuffed up, I'm too honest for my own good sometimes lol, at first they just looked at me then they listened to me, I think they know I'm a bit different anyway, in my views on all sorts of things. If they are true friends as long as your not a murderer or anything as serious, I think they should listen and not judge you.

I think you should just tell her and then hopefully she'll agree to a tickle sess with or without your boyfriend joining in, be good to hear if you do tell her and what you would like to be done and then report back?

Good luck.

 

[WorkInProgress]

If she's already an insider to the general realm of fetishism, and if you're really comfortable in the closeness of your friendship with her, then I don't even see what there is to be uncertain about. From where I sit, there appears to be an absolute guarantee that she'll respond favorably to hearing about your fetish and a fairly high probability that she'll be delighted to tickle you.

That said, the fact that you perceive more of a potential barrier than this raises the question of why. Is she difficult to talk to about personal things? Is there still some distance in the relationship?

I've shared my own proclivities with friends on a case-by-case basis, and every once in a while I miscalculate whom I can share them with, but when the person I'm talking to is in any part of the fetish world already, there's already a context and I don't have to explain nearly as much or give it nearly as much of a preface. It's more analogous to "Oh, you're a literary scholar too? Cool! My specialty's Chaucer, what's yours? Ah, American transcendentalism? Cool!"

 

[ticklebutterfly]

Distance still

There is some distance between us still. (ive only known her for 6months but we quickly became best friends.) and plus i'd be nervous if she went round babling anything. (again made mistake of telling friends secrets and theyve told EVERYONE)
i guess im a little bit embarassed over enjoying tickling and stuff.
ive only ever shared it with my boyfriend

 

[WorkInProgress]

You know what I'd say, then? You'd probably do well to hold off until you do feel comfortable. Thing is, from what you say of the structural circumstances of the friendship, it sounds in theory as if it should be easy, but if you feel uncomfortable bringing it up, there's probably a reason and your instincts in the relationship are probably your best guide to what to do when. What is true is that telling her about the fetish and inviting her to participate in it will have the effect of transforming the relationship into something different from what it was before, as in, you'll be asking her to deal with parts of you that she hasn't before, and to give the relationship a degree of physicalization that she hasn't before. One question that might be helpful to ask is this: Does she talk to you about her fetishistic proclivities? If she doesn't, it's a pretty good sign that she sees the friendship as one that doesn't, at this time, entail sharing experiences in that realm. If it simply hasn't come up yet, then maybe a good way of testing the waters would be to see if you can get her to talk about what she does and see where that goes. But again, I have found that one's own instincts in a relationship are a much better guide to what will be smooth and comfortable in that relationship than outsiders' suggestions with limited available information. You're the one who's actually there.

Good luck. I'll be the first to cheer if it happens, because some of my fondest fantasies are about female best friends who, while not lesbians, suddenly surprise themselves and get physical with each other.

 

[ticklethisangel]

I am very open with all my friends and I just told them. My friends thought it was cool they thought I was a freak anyway. They are just upset cause I won't let them tickle me.
I don't think it is that hard to talk about it and if she is into fedishes she would seem to be easier to open up to. You should give it a try, just talk to her she may turn out to be a great tickler!!!!

 

[amkes]

no 🙁
I wish that I had a friend who was told me tho so I could say that I do too

 

[amkes]

no 🙁
I wish that I had a friend who was a fetish model I would tell them about it maybe they know a way to make it more fun you never know.

 

[ticklebutterfly]

i honestly think she might take it the wrong way.
she talked to me about the whole leather thing she does and shes so open about everything but then she talked to me about fetishes she finds weird.
she wouldnt do a foot fetish shoot where she had to touch other feet because she hates that but when we were talking she stuttered on a T bout a fetish she finds weird...
and i thought "ohmygod shes going to say tickling."


but it ended up being toothpaste fetish :S
lol

my blood ran ice cold to be honest!

 

[amkes]

i honestly think she might take it the wrong way.
she talked to me about the whole leather thing she does and shes so open about everything but then she talked to me about fetishes she finds weird.
she wouldnt do a foot fetish shoot where she had to touch other feet because she hates that but when we were talking she stuttered on a T bout a fetish she finds weird...
and i thought "ohmygod shes going to say tickling."


but it ended up being toothpaste fetish :S
lol

my blood ran ice cold to be honest!

Mine would too. but why not ask her about fetishes she likes or one she is into and well she will ask you and well be like it might seem weird but I have a tickling fetish. who knows she might tickle you?

 

[tcle1]

Hmmm...

My friends thought it was cool they thought I was a freak anyway. They are just upset cause I won't let them tickle me.

That's odd. If u like bein tickled SO much, y wont u let ur friends tickle ya lol? Dont tell me u feel it's only somethin that u shud only have done wiv ur bf 😱 lol 🙁!! 😉

 

[FeatherFeet]

i think its amazing how the length of time it takes to be labeled good friend seems to have shrunk. 5 months? it's a growing trend

i see people who are like "this is my best friend" one semester, then next semester they hate them and have a new best friend. how many friendships last longer than a year? It's really getting scary how all this "personal" communication has made us all so impersonal

 

[Carsomyr]

Am I the only one noticing this thread is over a year old?

i think its amazing how the length of time it takes to be labeled good friend seems to have shrunk. 5 months? it's a growing trend

i see people who are like "this is my best friend" one semester, then next semester they hate them and have a new best friend. how many friendships last longer than a year? It's really getting scary how all this "personal" communication has made us all so impersonal

Since I'm posting here anyway... Some people bond really quick. Besides, the OP said "good friend", not "best friend".

Some people I met on here I got really close to in just a matter of days/weeks, and I'm a typical introvert. Sometimes people just, you know, "click".