Have you told friends how you feel about tickling? how did they react?

[Armpitz]

Hello, I'm pretty new on here so apologies if this is a repeat topic that's come up before - I had a quick look at recent threads and didn't see this already being discussed.

Basically, have you [ever] told your 'real life' friends about how you feel about tickling, and if so, how did they react? If not, would you, or why wouldn't you?

For me, I have sort of told one friend in confidence, because I know they have certain 'weird' fetishes of their own (I don't mean I personally think their fetishes are weird. I just mean they're ones that might not be considered totally mainstream and therefore something someone is likely to keep private). I think tickling occupies an interesting place in how mainstream it is, as I think it's fairly 'normalised' and mainstream to give brief/quick tickles, for significant others to playfully tickle each other, and for kids to tickle each other or for parents to tickle kids. But tickling in a more uh... 'severe' way is seen as more strange I think - and people wanting (or admitting to wanting) to be tied up and tickled a lot is not seen as 'normal'.

For me, I have a few friends who occasionally tickle me in that brief playful way - they might poke or pinch me a single time in the side/ribs, or pinch my knee, or do a couple seconds of spider-tickles or something. But I've almost never got more than that and I feel afraid that if I expressed that I wanted to be tickled more, they'd think that was weird and/or feel uncomfortable and decide to stop doing it entirely, or feel weird/strange about me. It's not even a sexual thing for me (it's different for different people, but to me tickling is very intense - but also platonic). Unfortunately, as I am -very- ticklish, I tend to make a big reaction/jump in response to it, and unfortunately they're all kind enough not to then pursue tickling me!

I have had a few exceptions to this but they've been rare. One time the other year in the summer, two friends began tickling me when I was lying on the grass. It was quite light/playful tickling but they did keep it up for a good minute or so. Another time (longer ago - I think maybe 8 years ago now) a friend trapped my arms behind my back and tickled me for quite a few minutes. She often tickled me in a playful manner before and after then as well. Sadly, she has moved away (as in, out of the country, and we've since drifted apart) as... they're someone I might have felt able to discuss this thing with!

 

[Tsmith153]

I haven't. Eager to see responses to learn from everyone else

 

[Mitchell]

Most of my real life friends except one person I deal with knows/knew I belong to this site.

They were okay with it.

A couple of them have different fetishes as well.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Yes, but the draw is that most of them either found out about it on their own somehow (generally through my video site) or were asked to participate outright.

A handful found it interesting enough to try, others thought the videos were a neat business but had no interest in giving it a go themselves, the rest straight up didn't care and never mentioned it more than once.

 

[Ovda]

I told my best friend waaayyy back in summer of 1994. I agonized about how he would respond. He was cool with my fetish and said that we all have out quarks.

 

[Yanks129]

I told my co-worker about my fetishes, and she thought it was awesome. Never got to tickle her feet

 

[tickle_prince]

I did, years ago in my case like similar people they kinda guessed it, I mean I have not with friends I have now since I got older because I felt like it is not the social normal and people would not understand it I don't think. But when I was younger my old childhood friend Rachel found out, and tbh she kinda of just took it in her stride really and just said to me 'I thought do' we use to rp and cosplay a lot too so we use too just kinda go with the flow I had some awesome rl rp with her tbh they were gd times

 

[duderino84]

If I'm interested in dating someone, I tell that person "it's likely I'll tickle".

As for friends....a few know. Guy friends are just whatever and a couple have given me shit over it or tried to blackmail me.

Girl "friends" know but it doesn't really impact anything.

I'm of the mind lately the more you try to treat something like a "fetish" the more you're ultimately separating yourself into your own personal niche. Which if your prospects aren't looking hot, doesn't help.

 

[Yote]

I've never told any of my real life friends and it's probably going to stay that way. I'm very closeted about my fetishes in general offline, and I personally don't think there's a need to tell someone that you're into tickling unless you plan on engaging in "serious" tickling with them. The only situations I'd be comfortable with talking about it would be at a fetish convention or in a relationship, once I've known my partner for enough time.

 

[ticklishmikey]

Reserving this to friends and not people I have dated or been in a relationship with. I have told a VERY select handful of people in my circle about it and even fewer have found out on their own over the past 15 years. I have had a wide spectrum of responses. I have been been talked about behind my back because of it with people saying it was and will be the reason girls will always leave me. That one hurt... a lot and honestly it still kind of sticks with me... I have been told it's unhealthy because it automatically means I am only interested in that and not the woman, herself. I hear that about a multitude of fetishes though. I had a friend in college who thought it was fun. She would tease me, but in playful ways. Very accepting. And most recently, I told my friend because I was going through some serious loneliness depression and I go into modes where I believe what my "friends" said about a woman not staying with me because of it. So I brought it up along with other horror stories surrounding my fetish that attacked my self esteem. The most she did was raise an eyebrow. We are still good friends and it never came up again. So... I've had from semi-embrace, to acceptance to no acceptance. It's always risky. It really depends on you more than it does others. I know there are some people who are very carefree and open about it. I am NOT that person. I am almost the complete opposite, so I am extremely conservative and work to ensure my friends don't find out unless I want them to. But that's me. You have to figure out where you are in the spectrum and then gauge your friends and how much you trust them.

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[moonlitedrive5]

No way, lol, not me. Very private about it.

 

[Wesker28]

Years ago I told my then best friend in secondary school. We had a sleepover one night and I don't remember how I brought it up but he felt the same way. In fact we spent all the hours of the early morning talking about it. He went on to tell me the amount of girls that had been tickled by so and so and even his previous gf that he tickled a lot, once with a feather duster. It was quite interesting finding out how many girls in our year were ticklish and had been tickled.

 

[FFT32]

Hello, I'm pretty new on here so apologies if this is a repeat topic that's come up before - I had a quick look at recent threads and didn't see this already being discussed.

Basically, have you [ever] told your 'real life' friends about how you feel about tickling, and if so, how did they react? If not, would you, or why wouldn't you?

For me, I have sort of told one friend in confidence, because I know they have certain 'weird' fetishes of their own (I don't mean I personally think their fetishes are weird. I just mean they're ones that might not be considered totally mainstream and therefore something someone is likely to keep private). I think tickling occupies an interesting place in how mainstream it is, as I think it's fairly 'normalised' and mainstream to give brief/quick tickles, for significant others to playfully tickle each other, and for kids to tickle each other or for parents to tickle kids. But tickling in a more uh... 'severe' way is seen as more strange I think - and people wanting (or admitting to wanting) to be tied up and tickled a lot is not seen as 'normal'.

For me, I have a few friends who occasionally tickle me in that brief playful way - they might poke or pinch me a single time in the side/ribs, or pinch my knee, or do a couple seconds of spider-tickles or something. But I've almost never got more than that and I feel afraid that if I expressed that I wanted to be tickled more, they'd think that was weird and/or feel uncomfortable and decide to stop doing it entirely, or feel weird/strange about me. It's not even a sexual thing for me (it's different for different people, but to me tickling is very intense - but also platonic). Unfortunately, as I am -very- ticklish, I tend to make a big reaction/jump in response to it, and unfortunately they're all kind enough not to then pursue tickling me!

I have had a few exceptions to this but they've been rare. One time the other year in the summer, two friends began tickling me when I was lying on the grass. It was quite light/playful tickling but they did keep it up for a good minute or so. Another time (longer ago - I think maybe 8 years ago now) a friend trapped my arms behind my back and tickled me for quite a few minutes. She often tickled me in a playful manner before and after then as well. Sadly, she has moved away (as in, out of the country, and we've since drifted apart) as... they're someone I might have felt able to discuss this thing with!

There are a small hand full of friends I told about my foot/tickling fetish and the responses were good. Two of them lead to tickling and one did not because she was just "way too ticklish to even think about it" according to her. The only male friend I told was someone who admitted they had a thing for tickling pretty girls, so that was an easy conversation...

 

[SmashTV]

Only some close female friends who I knew were open-minded and had a taste for the alternative. They were cool with it and slightly curious, even allowing me to briefly tickle them a few times.

Cheers, everybody,
SmashTV

 

[MeatyBreastedDullness]

No and I most likely never will.

 

[duderino84]

They don't sound like very good friends to me

And you'd be quite right. Yet people still wonder why I want to start a clean slate somewhere else.

 

[Sharkiegirl]

I’ve told some, but not others.

When I was in my late teens/early 20’s I had a VERY kinky group of friends that would wrestle, tickle me and other friends, and talk about sex openly. I was clear about being kinky, and showing them some bondage techniques, but waited FOREVER to tell a select few that I was into tickling. After a lot of build up, and picking a few friends to tell in confidence, I had the same response from all of them: “Well, duh! Why do you think we tickle you all the time?”

After that, even when I would be swatting at them, or telling them to stop in the throes of ticklishness they’d scoff at me and just say “Oh shut up, you know you love it!” LOL! Worked out well for me!

Otherwise though, friends I’ve made in the workplace I do not tell. Some of the folks I am closest with know I like kinky/rough sex but I don’t get into those particulars with people I work with.

I’d say that’s a pretty good rule to follow in general, if your career is involved, but it just depends on who you work with I suppose!

 

[duderino84]

I’ve told some, but not others.

When I was in my late teens/early 20’s I had a VERY kinky group of friends that would wrestle, tickle me and other friends, and talk about sex openly. I was clear about being kinky, and showing them some bondage techniques, but waited FOREVER to tell a select few that I was into tickling. After a lot of build up, and picking a few friends to tell in confidence, I had the same response from all of them: “Well, duh! Why do you think we tickle you all the time?”

After that, even when I would be swatting at them, or telling them to stop in the throes of ticklishness they’d scoff at me and just say “Oh shut up, you know you love it!” LOL! Worked out well for me!

Otherwise though, friends I’ve made in the workplace I do not tell. Some of the folks I am closest with know I like kinky/rough sex but I don’t get into those particulars with people I work with.

I’d say that’s a pretty good rule to follow in general, if your career is involved, but it just depends on who you work with I suppose!

so that's what it's like to have good friends.... shit, I screwed up.

 

[Wolf]

so that's what it's like to have good friends.... shit, I screwed up.

I wouldn't take it personally. A kink like tickling (especially as a 'lee) is more often considered cute/sexy in a woman; with guys, as, classically the ones who inflict* it on others, it can be seen as creepy.

*No, I don't think that word applies in most cases; I'm using it to illustrate why it can be looked upon as creepy.

 

[duderino84]

I wouldn't take it personally. A kink like tickling (especially as a 'lee) is more often considered cute/sexy in a woman; with guys, as, classically the ones who inflict* it on others, it can be seen as creepy.

*No, I don't think that word applies in most cases; I'm using it to illustrate why it can be looked upon as creepy.

True, it would be gay in a group of guy friends. I was half joking, but to get to the heart of what I'm saying, I tended to just date random women in my 20s vs having actual friends that would be close. I met a couple people along the way but they're so spread out it wouldn't be productive. But the way I met people led to a life with absolutes. They're absolutely done or engaged.

Meanwhile my main group devolved into a bunch of guys who because of career woes or marriage woes want to bond with the couch vs getting out there.

So I wish I picked better.

 

[brotherted]

I've never seen the upside of that kind of a conversation. Basically, I think if you just try tickling someone with whom you're close a little, and they don't react negatively, you can gradually increase it from there.

This is all very personal, but just for me, I've always felt just trying it harmlessly and then building on it will get me the answer I want of whether the other person will be okay with it -- without the potential "what a weirdo" downside that a serious discussion about "fetish" might create. Not that it always will. But it might. And even the people who tell you to your face that they respect your right to kinks may then separately talk about it disparagingly to others. Just by tickling your SO low key and then building on it avoids that whole "dive off the fetish cliff and hope for the best" scenario.

 

[Sharkiegirl]

I wouldn't take it personally. A kink like tickling (especially as a 'lee) is more often considered cute/sexy in a woman; with guys, as, classically the ones who inflict* it on others, it can be seen as creepy.

*No, I don't think that word applies in most cases; I'm using it to illustrate why it can be looked upon as creepy.

I was going to add a caveat about me being female, kinks seeming more innocent because of my gender alone, and that changing the perception amongst friends a bit, blah blah blah. It is so situationally dependent that I don’t really like to mention it.

I would think if you are talking about sex already, it’s fair to say that adding in, “I like tickling the fuck out of a girl/guy during sex” would be a pretty normal addition to conversation. If you were discussing the new smoothie shop in town and gravely brought up to your friends that you had to admit one of your deepest, darkest secrets, it may go a bit differently. Context, knowing your friends and their level of openness around kinks/sexuality, and tone of conversation matter GREATLY.

Long story short if you are comfortable with it and own it, it will likely be no big deal to bring it up. Just wait until it feels right, and if that time never comes, don’t!

 

[moose]

Nope tho i think some suspect

 

[The Tickle Room]

I told my friends in high school I had a foot fetish and after I was into tickling. They all embraced it REALLY well and those who did not I cut off. When I became a producer in the beginning I was SUPER hush hush about it. I wore a mask, kept it quiet, went under a shit alias etc. Then one day I spoke to someone and they were super reclusive about their fetish and 2 days after that a guy in my platoon was trying to blackmail me about. So I said fuck it took the mask off, told everyone, gave no shits because its who I was and I have never been happier. Of course people come at me like "O thats fucking weird" and what not but I also get tons of friends and fans asking advice on how to approach kinks and I love it. My best friend went from SUPER quiet and his relationship going to shit to becoming a swinger with her and now they are possibly getting engaged soon. Some people are more private than others but NEVER let anyone use your kink against you. Everyone has one, ranging from mild to wild. If someone does not it means they havent explored enough and eventually will figure it out. I mean shit my fetishes went from Foot fetish for as long as I can remember (I sucked my aunts toes while she was sleeping at age 7 my family still does not let me live this down) bondage at 12 and tickling at 13 (I tied up and tickled my neighbor she was into bondage and it just made it happen for me).

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

I've told a handful of people and received mixed views on the subject but nothing to bad