Help me please !!!

[angelfantasy]

Okay so, I'm really badly crushing on my work colleague. I feel so wrong for feeling how I do about her as if it's wrong or something but it isn't but I don't know... She's one of the most amazing, lovely, fabulous, caring, generous people I know. She's so admirable. And she's so pretty (and ticklish hehe) and every time I look at her my heart triples in speed... And when I know she's looking at me there's a million and one thoughts going through my head and when we look at each other, with deep eye contact, I can't breathe... I never thought I'd go for someone like her when I first knew her, but quickly I developed a strong liking towards her.. She's so cute I want to hug her all the time and make her laugh and she's just so wow I want to be her favourite person at work and in life :l

Do you think this is just a phase? Because my friend said it was.. I'm not sure if it is though, I don't know what to feel 🙁 helppppp

 

[TheTickleMonster]

I know how you feel.... Of course telling her how you feel might be what some people might say, however that might be awkward, for two reasons instead of the usual one... 1. she might not feel the same, 2. She might not feel comfortable having another woman have such strong feelings for her if she happens to be straight... of course she could be flattered... Do you know if she likes women? Does she know that you're bisexual? If she does, then it might be easier to tell her... otherwise just deal with it and hope it goes away. I don't think it's a phase. That's stupid to say. Liking people isn't really a phase. Unless they're talking about you liking women in general is a phase... but sure it might eventually go away but having feelings for someone isn't really the same as a phase...

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

Sounds like you have a crush on her, it could be a phase, but no one can ever tell for sure. Crushes are tricky things but you won't know until later on. Sometimes that person will just be a friend, that will never give u the chance, other chances are, she might see you, u just don't know it. Just start out being a good friend, get to know the girl more and more, adn see where it goes. Its hard to say if this is a crush or not or a phase

 

[likeasong1]

I gotta agree. It could be just a crush. I had a crush on a cute manager of mine once. She was a lot of fun to work with. Then we along with a couple others, hung out one night, hitting some karaoke bars. After that night, my infatuation with her was over. And there was another manager who I thought was beautiful, smart, urbane... she was off the market though. After she got let go, my feelings eventually subsided. I don't know what to tell you. None of us can tell you if it's more than a crush or not.

 

[Violetta]

Okay so, I'm really badly crushing on my work colleague.

Sounds like you have a crush on her...

It could be just a crush.

You don't say!?

 

[Armageddon185]

If we could all choose how we feel, the world we be a lot simpler. Sounds like you're already having feelings forced on you though. Always complicated when that happens, regardless of who's involved.

Regardless of whether these feelings are a 'phase' or not, it'll probably ebb over time if you don't act on it. Not go away necessarily, just get weaker. You can choose to let that happen, but I say you should go for it. Doesn't have to be immediately, but nothing ventured nothing gained. You might lose the chance to do so if you wait too long.

Whatever you decide, best of luck to you.

 

[FireFoxSF]

Are me and Vi the only ones who call spades spades anymore? Where's the John Goodman meme when you need it, fuck....Yeah, it's called a crush. It's a deeply rooted physical and emotional desire for another person.

What do you do, you ask?

ACT ON IT. Don't be like those friend-zone regulars who act like this requires planning. It doesn't. Start hanging out with her and seeing what's up. If she's into girls, you're good to go. If she's not, then immediately stop before you end up doing some awkward no-no that you'll never live down, and then just find another one the next day. Crushes are very replaceable, worst case scenario. But in the meantime, I'm pullin' for ya!

 

[Regal]

My advice? Grab her in the crotch. If she does the same that's great. If not then at least you know.

 

[the_jimmy_james]

The way nearly everybody completely missed the point and tried to figure out "if she has feelings" or "if it's a crush" when she clearly said that she does and that it is reminds me of Celebrity Jeopardy on Saturday Night Live.

IT'S A FREAKIN' HAMMER!

I'm with the Fox of Fire in saying, do something! Don't let it slip away. When you see a chance, take it!

But in the meantime, I'm pullin' for ya!

YES! Go get 'er!

... urbane...

Wow. Was she genteel as well?

 

[Rox_My_Sox1]

I would recommend asking if she'd like to go to dinner or maybe meet you at a club or go see a movie etc etc? Be brave, be confident, and be willing to move on if she's not interested. In your truly in love then your willing to let go (it's just important to remember that while leaving someone "heartbroken" is slightly cruel leaving someone just plain "broken" is something nobody should do). She sounds totally awesome though hun. So get out there, talk to her, meet up with her, and strike up a dialogue. Who knows, you may have just meet the "one for you". ^_~

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Okay so, I'm really badly crushing on my work colleague.

Sounds like you have a crush on her

It could be just a crush.

You don't say!?

Well, I think it is a crush. 😉

 

[sadi]

Phase or not, you have these feelings now. And, like other people commented, seize the opportunity!
Don't be stupid/a jerk, but advance if you think it right. Right or wrong, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Please tell us how things go!

 

[the_jimmy_james]

I <3 you sadistic.

Dunno why I felt like saying that, but it think we all do actually <3 you.