Hmm do I want to?

[ticklesndimes]

Maybe it's just me, but I have contemplated telling a few guys that I enjoy being tickled. Part of it is because I want him(a hypothetical "him") to tickle me because it's in the moment and he just wants to, not because he feels like he has to just to please me, or get self conscious because he feels like I'm judging his skills when before he didn't think twice about it.I don't think telling someone is a big deal but still... I feel that him knowing I like it will change the tickling and the mood of it... Which can be good or not so good but I can't quite put my finger on it. I hear about people who share this information and then things get boring, monotonous, and or awkward and forced which leaves me wondering if I even want to tell the person I'm in a relationship with.

It's not really the telling him part that bothers me,it's the effect it would have afterwards.


Does this ever cross your mind? Or if you've told someone you've been in a relationship with: Did it change? For better or for worse?

Or maybe I'm just on my own island over here..🙂

 

[DCXIII]

Nah, I think we've all been there. It's always been the sorta thing, for me personally, that keeping it mysterious makes it hotter. Like tickling a girl when she forgets to put pickles on my sandwich or something. Punish her with my fingers, mwahahaha.

But I'm also ****ing weird so who knows.

 

[gigglemakr]

As someone who loves to tickle a ticklish girl, I would think that would have the opposite effect. If the guy is "vanilla", however, you could be right.

 

[AlexEmpire]

You never know, you could get a convert and find someone who really really loves to tickle you.

 

[ticklesndimes]

True... I mean the "mysterious" aspect that DCXlll mentioned is probably part of the reason why I might feel this way because then they know.

But hopefully I find someone who enjoys it, at least the playful aspect.

I just don't want him to feel forced ya know? Because at that point we're both uncomfortable and it might lose the fun and the thrill.

Thanks for the input all who has replied! 🙂 got me thinking in a more positive way.

 

[ialwayseatsalmo]

Here's my story:

I dated a girl for about 4 months and in month 1 I told her about my fetish. She was immediately intrigued. Told both of her roommates, and they were confused. She said she defended it the whole time and got more interested in it the more she talked about it. She asked if she can tickle me, and I said ehh, I'm not that ticklish. She tied me up with my hands behind my back just to tease me sexually, but then started tickling me and found out I'm actually a little bit ticklish. She got so turned on. She was being so sadistic and taunting me and stuff. Everyone has tickled someone before, just usually not sexually. If you show that you like it sexually, it might initially weird him out, but once he gets to do it, he'll probably enjoy it.

 

[NoixdeCoco]

ticklesanddimes I know exactly what you're saying! I really lucked out with one guy I was dating, I didn't tell him just how much I was into tickling (he kind of figured it out on his own eventually) and when we first started dating it was just little squeezes and pokes and then it escalated into more intense tickles within a month or so. What made it so exciting was that I knew he was doing it because he wanted to. After I told him/he figured out how much I was into it we started doing more bondage and toys and stuff. And that never got awkward or boring. In fact he just kept getting better at it!

Actually most of the guys I've dated I've told pretty early because any more subtle hints to get them to tickle me more weren't working. Some it worked out great with, turned into fantastic lers who were really into it and not just for me. Others, it did get weird and was clearly forced and if I'm sensing they're just not that into the tickling, it completely kills it for me. Now that I think about it, some were great lers when it was more casual tickling, wrestling around, but the second they tied me up it was like awkward city.

The one I held off telling was fairly recent in my dating lineup (lol) so I suppose that's a new standard I try to hold, waiting for a bit to see what he does on his own. I would say if any of these guys you're thinking about telling have known you for awhile and don't really go for it, it's worth the chance. Its a gamble no matter what. Good luck!