How do I tell him?

[YouDontKnowMe]

I have a tickle fetish. I want to be tied up but I don't know how to tell my boyfriend. He knows I like the whole tied up thing, but how do I bring in the tickling part of it?

We always playfully tickle eachother, but thats it. He actually tickles me on a daily basis, but for like 5 seconds! He is an average joe kind of guy so I don't want him to think im weird. We've been together for two years so Im not worried about freaking him out, but I just want to know how to let him know about my fetish.

Any suggestions??

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

If he knows that you like being tied up you could say next time he tickles you just jokingly say "Wow, if you ever tied me up, I'd be totally at your mercy which I guess wouldn't be such a bad thing."

 

[Bound2Switch]

I have sooo been in your position and it's hard. Without knowing your guy personally you probaby won't get the best advice. But from another girl... here ya go...

My opinion. I think that guys are more open to girls being a bit "freaky"... lol. He already knows about your interest in bondage and he's okay with that. This is a good thing because it shows he has at least a bit of an open mind. Sometime when he tickles you I'd bring it up. Maybe something like "you know, that is great foreplay!!!" Describe how touching like that is tons of fun and since you already like being a bit of a sub that tickling just enhances it. Sub=submission=being helpless=tickling which makes you feel more helpless... it just works. try it????

Best of luck

 

[Ticklish_Cop]

The next time he has you tied up, tell him, "Boy, if you tickled me now, I would be in big trouble." See what he does.

 

[leeboy]

Wow ! Why can't I find a woman like you ?

 

[AffectionateDan]

I can't speak for *ALL* guys, obviously, but...

...I'd be willing to bet that *MOST* guys'd back me up on this.

If you're getting frisky and you're both very turned on, there's not a lot he'll say no to if you suggest it in the bedroom. Once your man's best friend is wide awake and ready to play, he's making most of the decisions for your fellah, LoL. Plus, you may want to think about the possibility that he may actually be dying to tickle you, but thinks that you'd be freaked out by too much of it, so he keeps it short and sweet. God, how many tickling opportunities did I pass up on or cut short over the years because I didn't want to let out my deep, dark secret? Countless.

Be honest. Tell him what you want. If he cares about you, he'll do it with a twinkle in his eye before you have time to take a second breath. Or change your mind...

 

[ViperGTS]

You know, there was a recent addition to our forum called regularjoe. Sounds like you're his girlfriend and he never told you about this! 😛

I agree with Dan. Just TELL him, once the both of you are all worked up. Otherwise, this usually works when you're sitting around, not doing much.

YOU: Hey, you know what would be REALLY hot?
HIM: Hmm, I can think of a few things, but whats on your mind?
YOU: You can tie me up like usualy, but tickle the hell out of me...like, tickle torture me.

Betcha it works. 😉

 

[Mimi]

I don't have much to add to the great advice you've already received, but I did want to quickly and formally welcome you to the forum. Good luck with your boyfriend! I hope it all works out well for you!

Mimi 😉

 

[milagros317]

Weldome to the TMF, YouDontKnowMe, and congratulations on your first post. 😀 This is a wonderful place, have fun here.

As Susan Saradon's character in "Bull Durham" says, men will do almost anything if they believe it's foreplay. Just tell your boyfriend that being tickled turns you on, gets you excited, and he will be very happy to accomodate your wishes. 😀

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Any suggestions??

Yeah, leave him and come over to my house... 😛 (just joking)

 

[Tickle horror]

Try bringing up ulitmate fantasy's, ask him what his are. He'll ask you, don't be afraid to tell him!!! Guys love making thier girl happy, and if this is what you want....I'm sure you will get it. Since it turns you on, it should turn him on too. I don't think you'll freak him out at all! Good luck! 🙂

 

[Mitchell]

Personally, being the straightforward kind of guy Iam, if I was in your situation, and had a girl such as your boyfriend, I would simply be honest with her. I would sit down, and calmly explain my "interest", as I like to call my enjoyment of tickling, and try to get my significant other to understand my position, and work with me, even ever so slowly, and build up, to a point, where they wouldnt feel like they were being put on the spot to do something all the time, but also where they were satisifying me, and making me happy. Isnt that what relationships, love and romance are all about? Sacrifice, compromise, and making your partner happy, so you can be happy? Correct me if I'm wrong here, but this is how I see it.
Anyhow, Good Luck with your boyfriend, and I hope it all works out for you. Please keep us updated.

All the best,
Mitch

 

[Vae]

I'm going to second the honest thing here. I mean, shit, if he's already tying you up, tickling isn't a leap to take here. It's more like a bunny hop. I find that people are usually more freaked out by the submission/domination part of tickling, not the tickling itself. If he's already cool with tying you up and getting freaky, tickling the shit out of you shouldn't be some leap of faith.

Also, being a woman myself, it is much easier on the girl end to reveal it than it is for guys. Like some have said, when they start thinking with their junk, you could ask for about anything, aside from shitting on their chest, and they'll probably be all for it.

But I will do something that not many people have done: BE PREPARED for the fact that if, for one reason or another, he's not into this idea and maybe really taken aback from it. We had someone post here just recently of his girlfriend "coming out" to him about her tickling fetish and it kinda blew him away. The difference was that he wasn't tying her up already. 😉 I doubt you have to worry about this, but it wouldn't hurt to keep yourself ready, if it happens. If it doesn't happen, all the more to ya and definately... keep us posted. 😀

That's my two cents. Hope it helps. 🙂 Good luck!

 

[Redmage]

Maybe I'm wrong, but I think that if he enjoys tying you up then tickling should be easy to add. For most "vanilla" guys the bondage is a much bigger hurdle than the tickling. So I would suggest that you just tell him. You could say something like "I've heard about people using tickling as part of a bondage scene, and I'd like to try that." Or if he's tickling you playfully say something like "I bet you could do that even better if I were tied down."

One way or another, you've gotten past the toughest barrier already. Tickling should be a cinch.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Since he likes to tie you up. You could say to him something like my fantasy is to be tied and tickled, it's such a turn on! That's what I'd try to do! I agree with a lot of what other people are saying also.

 

[YouDontKnowMe]

Thanks guys!

Thank you to everyone who replied with their thoughts. I have not been able to tell him yet. I am still really shy about it even though I know he would probably be into it. I will keep everyone posted on how it works out. Afterall, Im only 20 so I have my whole life ahead of me to tell him lol. I love him and he loves me and I know he would do anything, well almost anything, for me (sexually that is). We'll see how it goes...

 

[isabeau]

Thank you to everyone who replied with their thoughts. I have not been able to tell him yet. I am still really shy about it even though I know he would probably be into it. I will keep everyone posted on how it works out. Afterall, Im only 20 so I have my whole life ahead of me to tell him lol. I love him and he loves me and I know he would do anything, well almost anything, for me (sexually that is). We'll see how it goes...

good luck YouDontKnowMe and welcome to the forum.

isabeau