How do tell someone about your fetish?

[Aimee]

I don't know if I'd equate being into tickling with getting married. And most people respond with "That's it" because those that tell them about their fetish are all nervous and like, "I have to tell you something. *deep breath* It's kind of weird." They hype it up by overreacting about how the person may respond. Being all nervous and shit. To be honest, I'd prefer that response to "Holy shit, you're fucking sick." and you can't really expect people to be like "Wow! Congratulations!"

haha you're right ...
I guess I just wish they had a bigger reaction.
To me that would make it feel like it's more of a bigger deal.
I like answering questions about it, and showing people the TMF.
I think the first reaction when I tell people they just assume I like
to be tickled and that's it ... when there is so much more to it ...
like here, the gatherings, bondage ...
But if someone did say "Congrats" I'd probably laugh my ass off!

 

[fordtech30]

I think sometimes we make it out to be more than it actually is sometimes. It's all in our heads most times. Much like anything that seems hard.

I've had the "that's it?" reaction myself. And after awhile I realized that what we have is not that bad. Compared to some fetishes out there. No razors or urine or whips involved.

I say if your in or want to be in a relationship with someone, then tell them up front if they really want to get to know you.

 

[WorkInProgress]

I'd definitely prefer "that's it?" over "you're fucking sick." And as noted before, I have (by implication) been called fucking sick.

*LOL* I think there are people here who think I'm fucking sick, though not for my fetish. (See P&R, hehe.)

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I don't know if I'd equate being into tickling with getting married. And most people respond with "That's it" because those that tell them about their fetish are all nervous and like, "I have to tell you something. *deep breath* It's kind of weird." They hype it up by overreacting about how the person may respond. Being all nervous and shit. To be honest, I'd prefer that response to "Holy shit, you're fucking sick." and you can't really expect people to be like "Wow! Congratulations!"

I agree with this...

I always feel like shit when that happens to me.
It's happened 2 times with the "that's it" reaction ...
and it's like "well yeah that's it ... and it may seem like nothing
to YOU but to me it's pretty much everything ..."

I dunno it's kinda like announcing you are going to get married
and everyone goes .. "oh, that's it?"

...but I also understand this. The way that I read it, and the way that I've felt when people gave me that reaction, wasn't really like they should be happy for me, but that I wish they would understand that it's not "that's it" to me. To me it's a very very big deal, so I guess I just wish people would try to appreciate that. I kind of feel like they're minimizing it with that reaction, even though I know their intentions and meaning isn't to do so. They're simply saying, "that's not a big horrible thing, so cool your jets."

 

[tickler4u2]

I have told three women in my life about my tickling fetish. The first time I was freaked out about it and it took me forever. By the third time, I simply said, "look you've been with me for a long time, you've told me I'm a great lover, there is just another aspect to my sexuality that you don't know about yet." She got curious. And, I explained it as a foot fetish and I demnostrated. She thought it was cute and she loved the foot rubs! But, I emphasized that I am attracted to the rest of her too! That's important. A woman needs to know that. When I explained it this way, she had no problem with it! The relationship didn't work out, but that was for other reasons. People get freaked out about it if you seem freaked out about it. Most people today, at least where I live, are open minded. Don't stress over it!

 

[WorkInProgress]

When it comes to relationships, what I would expect a lot of women to say is, "It's cool, I make no judgments, I accept you just the way you are, but don't try tickling me!" Finding a foot fetish cute is one thing, but try telling her you want to hold her down and work her over with your nimble fingers: good luck.

Actually, my last girlfriend was fine with being tickled, for all three weeks that it lasted.

 

[jan]

in bed at my grandparents my hubby tells me he is a ler

my ler hubby told me of his tickle and foot fetishes about a year after we were married. i had suspected since he often tickled attacked me and seemed to luv me being barefoot.
when he told me we were snuggled in a soft down filled bed at my grand parents house.
after he told me and i told him i was ok with his special tastes he asked if he could tickle my feet right then. i said ok.
it was an intense tickling for me cause i had to stuff the sheet in my mouth and use all my will power not to make too much noise since relatives were sleeping next to us and above us and i could just see me waking the whole house up with my out of control laughter.
i made it thru the tickling without waking anyone up (i think).

 

[Time_of_your]

Great responses!

Great responses, I'm getting ideas on how to tell my boyfriend 😉

 

[Phineas]

1. Bring it up early in the relationship. Not the first date, but early enough where you can end things if she's not into it.

I disagree.

Given that I do most of my dating via personal ad, I put it right in the ad; I say I'm a tickler and I have a foot fetish.

You get less responses, sure, but you're guaranteed that anyone who does answer your will be cool with it.

Hell, half the time I do tell people on the first date. I've never gotten a negative reaction. Ever.

 

[chicago]

That's cool. Although, I tend to find that the first date may not be appropriate to delve into stuff like that. Of course, it depends on the person.