How do we prefer our Lee/Lers?

[Tickleslave83]

I'm a major lee here's my ideal ler.

Appearance & Personality-I'm a fairly large guy but very submissive so am mostly turned on by the opposite, a ler who is quite petite but extremely dominant. Love the thought of a tiny little girl completely dominating a large guy like me. Also adds another important factor. I'd like her to be deceptively gentle and demure in public, someone you'd never suspect in a million years. Basically small girl, shy, quiet voice, maybe the type who collects little stuffed dolls and comes across to almost everyone as innocent, sweet and passive. However soon as we're alone she changes completely. We go into her room, she shuts the door turns around and says, well demands, ok strip lol. Proceeds to strip me, inspect me and treat me as her sex slave while still remaining clothed. Then proceeds to have her way with me totally. I'd want her to be sexually aggressive and dominant to the core. However shy she may be in public she is as forthcoming and straightforward as possible in regards to sex to the point of when she's in the mood just tearing off my clothes and begin tickling me without so much as asking. I want her to have hardly a submissive bone in her body-always on top, always initiatiates sex/tickling etc. and is an absolute addict with great stamina, "me begging means I've earned triple torture!".

Maybe occasionally she'll let me tickle her or strip for me but always in the understanding it will be very brief and only cause she wants her desire for payback stimulated. I'd prefer she be not very ticklish herself though and regard submitting it to be largely unthinkable except rarely. I want her to regard my ticklishness as my vunerability to her dominance, a weakness she can exploit to have her way with me. I like her being able to do to me what I cannot do back to her.

I'd like her to proceed slowly building up. First, before we do anything else she either demands I strip or does it herself. She has me be naked for her pleasure and gets off on the level of power this gives her over me. She also restricts my access to the bathroom and just controls me totally. Every moment we are alone she calls the shots and makes me her basic slave. Then after I need to use the bathroom the tickling begins slowly at first but then much more intense. Prefferably I'd be tied up. Then she would straddle me using that position to tickle me without restraint until I lose bladder control. I'd prefer this to last for hours on end. I'd like her to have many many tools but mostly her fingers and hair. Open her draws and they'd like a secret stockpile of tickle torture toys, her shy public persona masking her ultra kinky secret life. I'd like her to be very teasing and taunting taking pleasure more than anything else for her position of dominance. Maybe have her strip for me and say would you like to tickle me oh it seems your tied up at the moment, guess I'll just tickle you instead! I'd like her to ask me to beg and plead maybe even bow at her feet but have her tell me forcefully no. I'd like her to mock my position of weakness and delight in it totally and tell me to be quiet. I like the idea of her talking and teasing but me being not allow to make any noise but laughter.

I too like the contest idea, giving some impossible task. Like each day we'll decide who will be the dominant and who the submissive but that the odds are I will be the one to lose and be submissive 99.9% of the time and when I'm not is brief. EX: I have to beat her flawlessly at chess 5 times to get to tickle her for 5 minutes. If I lose even once she gets to tickle me naked for hours on end for a week etc. This legitimizes that she has a legal right to dominate me. Would even sign a contract. I'm very shy too so I'd like a girl who exploits that. Not just with the nudity I mentioned above but I also like her to be voyueristic and have a large feminine ego, basically be a female chauvenist who regards me as sex objects to be persued. Hell she can even smack me on the ass and grope me like a guy would harass a girl. Would be fun to hear her boast openly to her girlfriends about all the things she did to me or even force me to give a demonstration. Want them to regard me as her sex toy. Also because I'd be extremely embarassed I'd love her to secretly videotape our sessions and show it to her friends espicially while I'm there. As a very shy private person this would make her domination total. Ok I'd better stop there I'm getting carried away now!

 

[terorizer]

Dan and some others basically said it. Some thoughts:

She loves to laugh...
She craves the tickle...
She adores the tickle...
She adores the way the tickle makes her react...
She adores the way the tickle makes her FEEL...
She welcomes it...
She fights it...
She welcomes it until she can't help by fight it...
She adores not being able to fight it anymore....
She wants more...
She will want it again soon....
She honestly thinks SHE is the lucky/fortunate one!

 

[P[a]pi]

If I were to let another girl besides my girlfriend tickle me while I'm tied up she would have to be similar to my girlfriend. She would have to be a lee or switch, not a ler/dom. She would also have to tickle me methodically, not eratically. I like light and hard scratching, not digging or squeezing. Also, I'm not into "tickle-talk" or teasing.

As a ler, I like my lee to be relatively thin and I have to be able to tickle her everywhere, or just about everywhere. I like to put my lee in tight bondage, including blindfold, gag and collar. I don't like her to be a deep laugher or a screamer. I also like her to take really good care of her feet, and I prefer long, thin feet with long toes.

My girlfriend has all of the above, so you could argue that I only like all of that cus of my girlfriend, but whatever. Either way, that's what I like, who cares why.

Also, I described how I like my lee to be. That doesn't mean I'm not willing to play with others who aren't exactly that way. Of course, my girlfriend would have to approve of the girl as well (whether she was a lee or ler), and she would want to watch, help, etc.

 

[tickleshotel]

As a Ler, I like the lee to not be totally submissive as I like some or alot of dominance,authority that resists letting me have complete control over him,her. But a lee who will submit willingly and make smart comments in manner of " Is that the best you got?,have you started yet? " will bring out the devious ruthless Ler who will tickle the right way using my techniques tormenting the lee not only physically but also getting into his ,her mind ,using my words and the way,tone I use them with mercy but firmly (to the lee's ticklish predicament) that they are just the kind of ticklish lee I love and I am loving their reactions,the trembling of the lips or the slight crook at corners of their mouth ,other reactions as well that I would enjoy tickling them for hours
I have alot of ways,variety and my tickling sessions depends on the lee and the friendship,attachment I have with them and recently in past year I have explored the bondage aspect and love it ,and I am exploring the side of Erotic Tickling as tickling is not only fun ,heightens the sensations and I love giving pleasure in alot of different forms such as tickling,massages,cuddling,so erotic tickling is new to me but quite natural .
AS a Lee, I enjoy the playful spontaneous tickling that happens without bondage when I am being pinned by one person or being ganged up on and while it is playful,it is not childlike as it stirs arousal and brings out the sensual,sensuous being that lies underneath the surface that is at the core of my being . I also love practicing bondage exeriencing tickle torment where I am helpless,vulnerable ,and instruments like blindfolds don't scare me,in fact they intrique me and I love a ler who will not only torment me tickling me all over but telling me what is going to happen beforehand,during which is torment in itself!
It's arousing and sexual yes,but until I find that special connection with someone I feel strong emotions for emotionally,romantically who also shares my love ,passion of tickling,being tickled I can seperate the two,not have sex ,and enjoy sessions with those who want to have tickling and leave it at that and pleasure myself in other ways privately.
No offense to anyone ,and I am envious of those ler's,lee's who have a partner that they can enjoy the tickling whatever style they choose and combine the tickling with lovemaking too.

 

[baldadonis]

Since I usually switch between being ler and lee in any given session, the dichotomy between both partners is pretty fluid. As a ler, I also like a lee who is trying to be difficult. And difficult can mean several things. She can be difficult, being a smartass, struggling a lot, trying to tickle back (I love that option as it makes the shift to lee all the more seemless), etc... But as long as the lee is very ticklish, has a great laugh, and is giving back to me in one of these types of form, I find the ler experience the best and it will usually provide the best segue into being a lee. I definitely love to tease and taunt a lee back, so this will likely make the lee all the ready to switch which of course has been my endgame all along.

When I am a lee, I like it when the lee is willing to give back both in tickling and mentally, verbally, etc... at a level similar to what I gave out. If I merely get tickled back its a mild disappointment (mild, mind you, I'm certainly not so spoiled). I tend to thrash A LOT and laugh very loudly if the ler is doing her job even reasonably well. I like a ler who is not too distracted by this and can keep exploring and looking for new ways to increase my reactions even further and keep pushing me, while of course still being attentive to whether I actually do need a breather. As outwardly as I react, it takes a while to reach that point. I like a ler who can alternate between hard and soft tickling. Sometimes lers have seen how effective digging can be in one spot and just do it everywhere, which in other spots is painful. Most importantly, I want the ler to be having as much if not more fun making me squirm as I am having taking it.

 

[-Hari-]

How do we prefer our Lee/Lers?

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[ticklesaurus]

Exactly.Simply Stunning.

 

[milagros317]

I prefer my Lers to be dominant and merciless. 😀

 

[MrTicklee]

A Very Ticklish Man

Somehow I didn't response to this thread the first time it was around, so since it has been refreshed...

I am predominently a Lee. My preference for a Ler is that she knows how to tickle... from soft, slow and mandening to fast and furious and everywhere in between. She is able to drive me to the point of insanity and hold me there while I laugh, scream and beg, then back me off and head there again and again...and not feel a bit unconfortable in doing so.

Bondage is a necessity for me, so she must be able to secure me well and if not seek my assistance.

My Ler also enjoys the phychological aspect of the torture. Previous posters have talked about the "mindjob". I think getting into my head increases the scene ten fold. Telling me how bad you're going to tickled me and oh my you really are that ticklish, god we're going to have some fun today actually does increase my ticklishness.

All in all, she should be a tickle demon showing no mercy on me and my ticklish spots, which are many.

MrTicklee

 

[trace1984]

as a ler i like differences in females from ones who hate it, playful,dont think i found any that enjoy it yet lol,,,tolerate it, lol....my favorite so far was a screamer and thrasher, but she wass just fun.....as a lee idk havnt had much to base it on......

 

[tommy12]

As a 'ler, I like a 'lee who is okay with being both tied-down as well as held-down with no restraints. I like squirmers, the ones who are easily teased with simple pokes n' strokes. ticklishness on the feet is a key thing for me, but I can live without it. I like 'lees that start playfully begging early on, knowing things haven't even started yet. I like screamers, yellers, laughers, beggers, etc. I prefer a verbal 'lee rather than one who has silent laughs or don't get involved much. I like to have no limits as to where my hands may wander, nudity isn't necessary, but it helps to get in all the little creases and curves. Someone who who isn't afraid to go for a long time ,hard or soft tickling, without a safeword would be really fun. I like a 'lee who is into tickling and into all its aspects (fun, sensual, emotional, sexual etc) I like a 'lee who'll stay with it for the long haul and not just view ticklnig as a once-in-a-while hobby.

As a 'lee, I like a 'ler who is spunky and has a no-mercy approach to tickling. She knows all my vulnerable spots, either from me telling her or from her exploration of my body. I'm more into being tied down when I'm tickled, so I can't fight back, and I 'lers that prefer that. A mischeviousness is aslo a plus-she spiders-fingers my body not letting me know where or when she'll pounce for the kill. I also don't mind a blindfold, but I prefer to see the enjoyment of a sexy 'lee being pleased with my cries of mercy and begging her to stop.
I'd prefer to be tickled hard and for a long time without a safeword or stops. But I also enjoy light fingers dancing on my feet. I like nibbling/biting licking also. especially lickng on my feet, I'd go insane from that after awhile. While tools are okay, I'm more sensative with just hands, but a nice scrubbing in my feet would probably do the trick.
I enjoy the sense of helplessness and I like a 'lee who verbally reminds me that I'm all hers and can't do anything about it. I'd also probably get a kick from a lee who likes to give slight humiliation - in terms of the 'lee calling me names and putting make-up/lipstick on my face while tickling me intermitently and maybe even doodling on me as well. That's about it for the type of lee I prefer.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I like someone who can be playful, but when it's time to put on their game face, is effortlessly intimidating. (Watching somebody try too hard and just not do it is really sad, and makes me feel bad for them.) Also, somebody who knows me well enough to get inside my head, isn't afraid to be a little rough, and someone who, when I say stop, doesn't 😀

 

[chicago]

A 'ler that gets me and can tell when I want to be tickled and when I don't without me having to ask for it. Someone that can be playful and vicious depending on the mood. So many guys I've dated think that if they tickle me, it's going to inevitably lead to sex and honestly, a lot of times tickling is just fucking fun, no strings attached.

Also, I hate when 'lers take themselves too seriously. Like they are all about the dominant shit and when you're tied down and laughing, they talk to you like a prison bitch. God, I hate that. It makes me want to fucking beat the shit out of them and be like, "Who's submissive now, motherfucker?"

 

[Amnesiac]

Hmmmm...I like 'lees who can discuss Kierkegaard and fine wine during a neck tasting--

I like the package arrangement.

I'm pretty flexible as a 'ler: I can go gentle or hard; sexual or platonic; naked or naked; playful or tortuous; waitaminute...that was CLOTHED or naked, etc. etc. So I can pretty much adapt to whatever the lee needs, and as long as the lee isn't a bi-polar psycho hose beast who will rage on me for doing what she asked me to do afterward, then all I pretty much care about is whether they are having fun because I can't have fun if she's not having fun.

But the package arrangement is important: the body, the laugh and the attitude have to sync up for me to enjoy it as much as she is. For example, if you have a lee with a body type and attitude that says "whooper" then you expect a "whooping" laugh...if you have a body and an attitude that says "whooper" and you get a "shrieker" laugh, it doesn't line up and throws me for a loop. That's the big reason I was such a fan of Erin from Yaqisworld because the body type, attitude and laugh all matched, and as a result the video was gold. Lots of times you'll go in expecting a certain reaction and getting the opposite and it kind of deflates the enthusiasm and experimenting you planned to do.

terorizor and Danimal pretty much listed the things that I look for in a lee...although I would like to add that one of my favorite characteristics of a lee is one who just goes with it. Oh, I like strugglers and squirmers and lees who try to fight off their reactions, but when you get a lee who just goes with it and doesn't hold in what they feel...that's AAAAAAAAAWESOME.

My personal favorite kind of lee--the one that just makes me drool--is the kind of lee who gets to silent laughter so hard they can't even move...they're chest just jiggles from the laughing spasms. The look on their faces is pure sadistic heroin. But that's just #1, there's also #2,3,4,5,6,7,8...

 

[tklee88]

I'm not picky when it comes to lers. I prefer lers who are goofy and have me laughing before they even touch me. I don't like lers who are serious when they are trying to ler me...it's just weird. That's really about it. I just like to have fun.

When I'm lering...I like my lee to be having as much fun as me 😛. I prefer lees who giggle or laugh. I'm not much for the screamers...that just hurts my ears. Overall, I just like FUN lees...and a lee who is super ticklish to boost my ler-ing confidence 😛 hehehe.

 

[Miss Serendipity]

Fantastic Thread Jo! I missed it somehow!

I’m more of a 'lee than a 'ler but with friends with I do switch alot because its so much fun. Wheeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Okay I got side-tracked *lulzsauce*

If I am the LER I tend to be very focused. I like to explore the lees body for ticklish areas and I like to find out what techniques make the lee most reactive. I don't really have any preferences except that if the lee tends to thrash about or is stronger than me (most people) then I would perfer the lee to be tied down. makes things safe for the both of us. Otherwise I can have fun with both.


When I am the LEE Connection is a huge thing for me. I love the almost instant bonding it creates. That is why I only play with people I am completely comfortable with. If there is none or I am not comfortable with the person, its no longer fun. (this is true as a ler a well) I perfer a ler who can keep me laughing. One who will keep exploring and looking for new ways/techniques to increase my reactions and further drive me to the point of insanity and hold me there over and over while still being attentive to my well-being and whether I need a breather or something. A ler who will find my most vulnerable spots and likes to figure out the most effective ways to tickle me. Verbal teasing is a plus as longs as its not lame LOL. If the ler can break down my mental blocks and barriers then the more reaction there going to get out of me so a ler who can get into my head effectively.(TMI LOL)

As Dave said: "Sometimes lers have seen how effective digging can be in one spot and just do it everywhere, which in other spots is painful."

^ I Completely agree with this. There is nothing the turns me off to tickling more than pain. I prefer a ler who will be aware of this and realize that different areas don't require digging and actually hurt if its too hard.

and perhaps the most important thing is that we both have fun no matter what If were not having fun, it defeats the purpose! It's all about having fun because life is too short to be serious all the time! I want to know the ler is having as much fun as I am and visa versa!

AND HOLY CRAP THIS HAS GOTTEN LONG!

 

[ninontchka]

hmm.. I want my Lers to be very playful when tickling me...especially when tickling my feet. From casual caressing to intense spider-like finger movements.
And most importantly, for me a good Ler is someone who knows my limits...and when to push em 😉

 

[tommytikl]

The lees I like the most are the gleeful submissive, the ones who just laugh (and maybe beg and wiggle) when I tickle them, loving the sensation. I also like the dominant lees who are mouthy and give shit back to me as I'm tickling. I'm not much for the screamers and shriekers because the reason I want to tickle a guy to begin with is to hear his sexiest feature, his laugh.

Well that is me as a lee for sure. I LOVE the sensations of tickling, can't get enough and I will give you shit to induce revenge tickling.

As a lee I also love a woman with some nails but not daggers either...just killer nails that glide over your skin and drive my nerves crazy!

As a ler, my biggest care is the laugh, or should I say, not screaming. Screaming is not laughing, laughing is fun, screaming calls the cops!
Also, one other thing the lee shouldn't be looking to get out immediately or jump right to her safeword. I fully respect the safeword so if you use it as a lee you better mean it!

 

[TicklishGuyLoves2Tickle]

I'm a fit, extremely ticklish 32 year old lee in San Jose. What area do you live in?

 

[porcelaindoll2]

Lol way to bring thread back from the dead. It was created in 2008 and you're also trying to hit on someone as well.

 

[duderino84]

I like Lee's that are hyper-sensitive. I've met girls who can be tickled even on their hands (if they put them up) who Crack up into fits of laughter from my soft touches. Someone open. Physically I guess just medium. ....a little extra or less isn't bad, so long as there's balance. Oh and lately I like super curly hair lol. I guess that's "what I'm after" but nothings ever set in stone.

 

[FeistyAmber]

I'm mostly a lee, and I prefer lers who are female (though that isn't necessarily a requirement); who enjoy upper body tickling, particularly in the midriff area, because that's where I'm most sensitive; who enjoy light bondage; who don't mind that I'm not always the most vocal or outgoing; who enjoy platonic tickling, and don't expect anything sexual to occur; and who enjoy teasing, tickling me when I'm not expecting it, etc.

 

[shippyshippy]

I like my lers and lees to be good. Yep.

 

[ticklishdanny]

Medium rare.

 

[matt62]

Okay, my Ideal Lee:

1) She's female (in fact that's vital, but not difficult to arrange)

2) She's got to be VERY ticklish

3) She's pretty slender: not so much fat on her that it cushions her ticklishness (outside of tickling I like curvy women, but not for this)

4)Underarms and ribs are her off-the-scale places

5)She's got to hate it, even fear it, but be drawn to it like a moth to a flame

6)She's got to make the sexual connection to tickling - none of your "just friendly"/"just light and platonic" attitude

7)Preferably, but not indispensably, she would be a bit of a tickler herself by nature (so that I can say she "deserves" what she's getting)

Yeah, those are the things that come to mind immediately.