How important to you is it that your partner allows you to act on your fetish?

[BlueLine7045]

So I was reading another post on here and became curious. I have seen countless times in the past people on this forum talking about how their partner doesn't share their fetish or doesn't allow them to act on their fetish, causing them to go many months or even years without any type of tickling (or foot stuff for you foot fetishists on here).

It just has me curious. How important is it to everyone here that your partner either be into your fetish, or willing to experiment with it? Honestly, I had always just assumed that when two people got together and loved each other a lot and the relationship evolved that experimenting sexually became a thing as well, but for some people on here it doesn't sound like that's a part of their relationship.

To answer my own question, I think it is very important to me. I have a slight foot fetish and a massive tickling fetish. Will this site does do a good job of satiating my fetish, I feel like if I didn't have someone to actively allow me to act on my fetish whenever I want (within reason), I would not be as happy in the relationship.

Lucky for me, I met an amazing woman (now my wife as of Oct. 6th), and not only is she explosively ticklish all over from head to toe, but enjoys letting me tickle her and returns the favor.

For the rest of you though, I am curious if it's a deal breaker or not and as a bonus, if you feel like sharing, for those of you in relationships where fetishes aren't as openly explored or you not get to tickle or be tickled by your partner often, how do you cope? What do you do?

 

[Oldnewguy]

I’d say that if you’re on this site it is very important that your partner shares your fetish. Personally, I am 66 years old and got married in 1983. Long before the internet. I always thought that I was alone with these “strange feelings”. I didn’t really get into tickling my wife until after we married. She’s pretty ticklish on some body parts more than others. Luckily she does allow me to indulge my fetish. She Loves having her feet tickled. Although They’re not very ticklish, I still enjoy it. Sometimes I’ll text her “It’s tickle time” when she’s sitting close by. I can tel by her reaction if she wants to be tickled or not. Her nipples are Off The Charts ticklish. If she sits in front of me and asks for a back scratch then I know she’s more apt to allow me to tickle her.
Usually tickling precedes sex. I’ll tickle her, she’ll feel how hard I get and call me a perv lol. Then we have sex. After she has her orgasm I will hold both of her hands above her head and position her for tickling. It usually doesn’t last long because that’s how I finish. Something has happened over the years. When I tickle her After her orgasm, she gets Much wetter. When I notice this happening I tell her “who’s the perv now?” She blames me and says that I turned her into a perv. Fine by me lol.

 

[Treelover46]

For me it’s important that she lets me indulge in my fetish. She doesn’t necessarily have to absolutely love it, or she may even not be a huge fan of it. But if she knows I enjoy it and let’s me indulge, even if she isn’t the biggest fan of it, then I think that’s a win.

 

[Doryon]

I have to agree with Treelover46. When I was married, my wife indulged me as often as I wanted. It didn't do anything for her sexually, but she always enjoyed having her feet tickled. Since my divorce, I've dated a few other women. One wasn't ticklish at all, and the other couldn't handle having her feet touched let alone tickled. It's definitely something I feel I need to have in my life.

 

[solarcharger]

For me it’s important that she lets me indulge in my fetish. She doesn’t necessarily have to absolutely love it, or she may even not be a huge fan of it. But if she knows I enjoy it and let’s me indulge, even if she isn’t the biggest fan of it, then I think that’s a win.

I’ll also go along with that!

 

[Comfort Eagle]

If it's 100% a no go, it's 100% a dealbreaker.