how much do women share?

[Happyman]

ok ladies, help a guy understand you more...Ive been wanting to tell my girlfriend about my tickling fetish, but I got one big thing holding me back. Im pretty sure she tells her best friend everything, and I work with the two of them.

am I right on guessing theres a 99.943% chance she will tell her friend 2 minutes after I leave her house? this is sort of a catch 22, because if I make her swear not to tell anyone what im about to tell her then thats just going to freak her out, and make her think im into actual torture. But if she does mention it, and then she mentions it to someone else...well Im a lifeguard and swimming instructor, I work with lots of kids, and for the uneducated people out there with fetishes, they might get bad ideas and not realize how these things work.

alright, thats all I have to say, let the comments flow.

 

[ticklethisangel]

I think there is a 99.99% chance that she will tell her friend, however if you love her and want her to share this part of your life then you have to tell her. I think you should explain to her your fears of the way some people may feel about your fedish because of you working with and around children, be honest and she may not tell anyone. Good Luck!

 

[scorpionldr]

ok ladies, help a guy understand you more...Ive been wanting to tell my girlfriend about my tickling fetish, but I got one big thing holding me back. Im pretty sure she tells her best friend everything, and I work with the two of them.

am I right on guessing theres a 99.943% chance she will tell her friend 2 minutes after I leave her house? this is sort of a catch 22, because if I make her swear not to tell anyone what im about to tell her then thats just going to freak her out, and make her think im into actual torture. But if she does mention it, and then she mentions it to someone else...well Im a lifeguard and swimming instructor, I work with lots of kids, and for the uneducated people out there with fetishes, they might get bad ideas and not realize how these things work.

alright, thats all I have to say, let the comments flow.

do you tickle her regularly? I say if it's not a problem now, don't make it a problem now...i just don't think if your going to if you want absolutely noone to know about it that you shouldn't share. I'm in the same position with friends I'm close to, but really, people think I'm weird enough already

 

[Happyman]

I never tickle her for that long because I know if I do it to a point she does not like it. I love to be ticked, so not being able to tickle her tons isnt too much of a problem. I have been with her for about 2 and a half years now, and not telling her something like this bugs me, but at the same time I would hate for it to get out and have people (including her) have the wrong impression about it.

Its annoying how people have such a bad connotation with the word fetish. Take foot fetish for example, I dont have one, I actually consider myself completly neutral to feet (neither like or dislike) but I know its a body part, and bodies are sexy to different people in different ways, so why do people find it odd? as for tickling, its just touching, your not causing harm, so it shouldnt be a big deal

 

[method11236]

so it shouldnt be a big deal

oh but it is... it is.

 

[minerva]

Why so obsessed with the word 'fetish'? Why make such a big deal out if it?
What exactly is it, you want her to know? You want her to tickle you? Start a playful tickle fight and once she starts getting you back just casually tell her how much you enjoyed that. She'll get the idea. You don't have to make it a big 'confession'. The more natural you behave the less reason she will have to think its something weird or some big secret. 🙂

 

[Em Es]

Men gossip, too

Happyman, to be fair to women, men talk, too. The biggest gossip I ever knew was male.

Anyway, I am guessing you want to be the tickler, as opposed to having your girl tickle you.

It was no secret to the thousands of women I've tickled that I'm a tickler. So why bring it up verbally, Happyman? Test the waters by trying to stir up some tickle fun with your girl. Depending on how cool she is with it, gradually pour on the intensity until you playfully suggest tying her down to tickle her.

What matters most is how much your girl likes you. Because if she wants to keep you, bro, her limits will be close to your wildest dreams. The most powerful force I know is a woman who wants to please a man.

Who knows if she will tell her friends. Let's say she does. But if she tells them in the context of what she does to please you - as opposed to, "You won't believe what Happyman wants to do to me!" - I'm guessing you won't fall victim to a gossip campaign. And, for all we know, one of her friends might want you to do that to her, too!

By the way, this advice comes from a guy who was always a FLOP with women. Yet through the years there were still a handful of girls who put up with a hell of a lot of tickling from me, including two I tied and tickled.

Good luck and please let us know what happens with your girlfriend.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Yes, She is going to tell her friend. Dur. And you shouldn't tell her not to tell anyone, You should just sit her down and explain how you feel about it, and what it means to you, I'd also recommend showing her this forum as proof that we aren't just freaks who get hardons over it.

 

[Anna6-9]

I do understand your fear with your job. She's more than likely to tell her friend but you need your GF to understand that its not a bad thing or she will convey it that way. I would avoid the word fetish! Most people (myself included) dont understand the word at first. I do think showing her this site may help (it helped me in the begining) but maybe not right off the bat. Let her know you didn't tell her because you didnt want her to think you were weird but that you didnt like hiding it either. I think she will appreciate your honesty. I hope this helps I've never been in your boat but I've been in her's.

 

[Lea28]

I never tickle her for that long because I know if I do it to a point she does not like it. I love to be ticked, so not being able to tickle her tons isnt too much of a problem. I have been with her for about 2 and a half years now, and not telling her something like this bugs me, but at the same time I would hate for it to get out and have people (including her) have the wrong impression about it.

Its annoying how people have such a bad connotation with the word fetish. Take foot fetish for example, I dont have one, I actually consider myself completly neutral to feet (neither like or dislike) but I know its a body part, and bodies are sexy to different people in different ways, so why do people find it odd? as for tickling, its just touching, your not causing harm, so it shouldnt be a big deal

After 2 1/2 years I am amazed you have any secrets from you gf???? Why tell her anything...if she lets you tickle her and vice versa, why discuss it?

I never understand these things...2.5 years???

Lea

 

[lk70]

Yes, She is going to tell her friend. Dur. And you shouldn't tell her not to tell anyone, You should just sit her down and explain how you feel about it, and what it means to you, I'd also recommend showing her this forum as proof that we aren't just freaks who get hardons over it.

Mmmm. Careful with that. There are sections of the forum, where at a glance, it might seem a bit freakish.

My advice, which is worth absolutely nothing, is to not highlight it as a "fetish." Asking for trouble there, I think.

 

[WorkInProgress]

You're missing something here. If the relationship is worth having at all, as opposed to merely being kids playing at having a relationship, then it should be automatic that when you tell her that you want something kept private, it's kept private. The fact that you're conducting an international survey on the habits of women to understand your girlfriend raises the question of whether you know her very well, especially if you're suggesting that telling her about your fetish could get it spread all over town. If the relationship's worth having at all, you won't have to worry about that. And it's not a matter of being ashamed of your fetish; it's a matter of privacy in a relationship. (Don't get me wrong: I'm not saying I'd be surprised if she told her friend, but she'll also say "Make sure you don't tell anybody, because I promised him I wouldn't even tell you," and if her friend values the friendship it will stop there, or at least it won't go too much farther.)

 

[ticklebutterfly]

Me and my friends are so close we're like sisters but still I've never shared anything that my boyfriends told me privately. No matter how much the urge to gossip really is. And likewise with them and their boyfriends. We share everything, weird sex positions and stuff but I know they wouldn't tell me if their boyfriends confessed a fetish. Never know, they might have confessed a fetish and they might not have told me!
Trust her not to say anything. She deserves your trust.

 

[tcklft]

Yes, She is going to tell her friend. Dur. And you shouldn't tell her not to tell anyone, You should just sit her down and explain how you feel about it, and what it means to you, I'd also recommend showing her this forum as proof that we aren't just freaks who get hardons over it.

Hey, speak for yourself....