your flirting skills need work... all that preying on lovable losers for only your amusement has retarded your flirting!!
Being touchy feely communicates genuine interest, which usually happens after a man's wit cuts right through a woman's bullshit. To be touchy feely before some sort of connection is established communicates something else. The act is suppose to be enjoyable for BOTH people involved... not just used for personal gain.
It's a good thing you can allegedly defend yourself, because you're gonna have to do so with somebody who will push the envelop further on getting physical without a regard to your sexual repression and low self-esteem needing instant gratification ego boosts and free stuff.