How to get into this...

[knicks255]

There's no easy answer. I noticed earlier in the thread somebody shouted at you, "DON'T TRUST STRANGERS!" Ignoring for the moment the disturbing psychological profile that such a panicked plea suggests, I would point out that everybody on the TMF is a stranger to you. There's no way to tell who will be a gentleman and who will be a cad.

My recommendation is to find somebody who is only interested in tickling and not into the whole master/slave trip.

Well, considering one of the guys who has reached out to her has just stated in another topic he considers women "first and foremost sexual objects", I'd say she's right.

But yeah, BDSM stuff can be a little much, especially if you're just getting into this sort of thing. Avoid it if you aren't inclined towards it.

 

[paracarl44]

Have you met anyone yet?

 

[FFT32]

Like everyone has already stated, trust is everything. Plus your first encounter (and quite possibly a few after that) is going to be completely new with lots of thoughts (and feelings, lol) running through your head, so it may be pretty intense even with light "break the ice" tickling.

Take it slow, do your homework and trust your instincts.

Good Luck and Enjoy!

 

[MiG31]

BrownEyes5, the way it went for me (I'm a guy) and my (female) partner, is that we met twice before doing a session, just to hang out and do stuff together with no tickling involved. Then when she felt comfortable with me tickling her, we did a session and she even let me tie her up. She trusted me and I made sure not to disappoint her and we're still friends today. So that's what I advise, if you get in touch with a guy from your area about a session, go on a few "dates" together to see if he's a cool and trusty guy. If he's too impatient, that might be a big red flag he may not be able to control himself when the action comes up. My partner told me about a guy she'd had a session with before who did not stop when she said the safeword, and although he apologized afterwards and it went on okay in the end, she clearly told me she didn't want to get tickled by someone who wouldn't respect her limits. State clearly what you want, and see how he reacts.

And avoid travelling. It will be a lot safer for you to do a session in your area with a guy you can see often beforehand.

The first girl said she would not have me over again because during the session, so I could run my fingers up her back as I tickled her when she was face down, I had unsnapped her bikini top. She said nothing at that moment; in fact the session went on (I refastened her top!) and after we finished she even made me something to eat. But the next day she wrote to me saying she did not want me to tickle her again because of that.

I think you made the huge mistake of assuming she would be okay with it instead of asking. Even though you clearly had no mean intentions (you refastened her top), you went with it without asking and she thought you were taking advantage of her. She must have said nothing on the spot because she was too surprised/embarrassed to react. As a tickler, always ASK before doing anything out of the ordinary.

That question to your second lee about her virginity may have been inappropriate and embarrassing to her as well, especially if you didn't talk about sex before. Keeping a gentlemanly attitude as a ler is always the better, safer way.

 

[ticklehound]

I wish you the best of luck BrownEyes5!

You have a lot of good advice posted earlier. The main thread is to trust the person who's gonna tickle you. That takes time and open communication. I've only had 3 women tickle me:

the 1st was my then-girlfriend back in grad school (where I wasn't tied up).

the 2nd was KellyLynnSage when I went up to NYC. She's a consummate professional. That took a few emails and text messages in the week before I flew up. I was nervous being tied up, but seeing as it was a business relationship, I could trust her more easily.

The 3rd (and likely last) is my current girlfriend. Within a few weeks of being together, my trust in her solidified & we've engaged in tickle play quite a bit (not in the last several months though, due to fuckin' work and our shitty living situations - roommates suck, esp when they're family).

So, if you want to engage in tickle play really quickly, finding and hiring a pro might be your best bet. OR, if it's not sexual, how about asking a close friend or someone else you already trust?? If you're nervous about disclosing your ties to this forum or the whole "fetish" angle, just say "I don't know, I just reeally like being tickled."

 

[bftlvr]

Just checked her profile, she hasn't been on since late April, any more suggestions are probably a waste of time. Just saying.......

 

[moose]

its hard to trust people that's why I recommend Kik you can build a trust like texting without giving away your number and info or anything like that

mine is thegamemaster5501

 

[MiG31]

Just checked her profile, she hasn't been on since late April, any more suggestions are probably a waste of time. Just saying.......

I didn't actually read the time of the original post, thought it was a recent thread ^^