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How to meet people who also have this fetish?

TCKLBoi

TCKLBoi

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Hey im new here and just wanna ask is there any way i'd be able to meet others with this fetish effectively? I'm a male switch looking for females but i find the idea and process of trying to open up about this to someone who might not be into it very daunting and was wondering if there's anything or any way i can use to streamline the process? thanks!
 
It’s difficult but possible!
Get to know people / have people get to know you by commenting on public forums/posts.Don’t thirst in peoples DMs.
Depending on where you live, your local kink community probably hosts weekly/monthly munches (not necessarily tickling focused but it’s a good way to meet open-minded people and get involved).
 
I'm relatively new here as well, but like @SugarSoaker said, you have make yourself known on here in order to meet people. That doesn't mean you should be attention-seeking, because that will only make you come off as desperate. Just treat others respectfully, even if you may not get along with certain people on here. I'm trying to practice what I preach, but there are times where things get taken the wrong way and it leads to an argument with someone.
 
Patience, patience & more patience. It's something that is very underestimated but immensely important.

I see many newcomers going "all in", which is not a way to go in my opinion, regarding anything. Balance is key. I am someone who lives tickling. It's my biggest fetish and I love everything about it and this community. With all that said, I take breaks from here (currently am/was in one) since I prioritize other things in life right now. Because I know I need to.

It's never a good idea to put all your eggs in one basket. See tickle fetish as a lovely component of your life but not a necessity you can't be without.
 
Some pretty sound advice in this thread

Like Sugar said, try to get to know people and most importantly don't thirst in PM's. If you're gonna PM someone ask how they are and make sure they want the same things. You're looking for females yeah? Make sure they're not F/F only (Reading bios is a good start, it seems a lot of people don't do that) if you want to get to know people in the community. Ask them what they like, rather than assume they like what you like or assume they even want to talk to you in the first place, some people simply don't like to be PMed and prefer talking in main chatroom or the main forums. Thirsting in PMs or in any way though is always a red flag for people and that's a fast way to get a bad rep, it's bad form and simply just disrespectful. Most of this is probably relitive to the chatroom if you do go in there and I recommend you do, there are some decent and fun people in there, just don't expect the main room to be tickling related 24/7, because a lot of people like to just chat and chill, however that's a great way to meet people and break the ice. You'll get to know people pretty quickly in there, but don't expect to make friends immediately, it takes time, took me years but I met one of my best friends in life through TickleTheatre chat room (which has now long gone) so it does happen.

Like David said don't be attention-seeking, that's another red flag because as David said, it comes off as desperate. Respect is key, care about other people's needs and not your own. Plenty of times people have had a tantrum just because they didn't get what they want, again, that's bad form. Respect what others want and are in to and like I said above never assume that everyone wants what you do.

Like Elyos said, patience, it was a looooooong time ago but when I was a newbie I barely talked and it took me some time to actually meet people and get involved but once you do, and people see that you want to interact, are respectful and are just like them they'll welcome you with open arms but patience will be required, as will respect, two key points of what Elyos and David said. Also like Elyos said, new comers going "all in" is not the way to go.

It can be hard to find friends on here, or even people to chat to, but it doesn't necessarily need to be hard. Take the key points points of Sugar, Elyos and David, don't thirst, be patient, be respectful etc and it will happen.

Hope this helps
 
-Venom- said:
Some pretty sound advice in this thread

Like Sugar said, try to get to know people and most importantly don't thirst in PM's. If you're gonna PM someone ask how they are and make sure they want the same things. You're looking for females yeah? Make sure they're not F/F only (Reading bios is a good start, it seems a lot of people don't do that) if you want to get to know people in the community. Ask them what they like, rather than assume they like what you like or assume they even want to talk to you in the first place, some people simply don't like to be PMed and prefer talking in main chatroom or the main forums. Thirsting in PMs or in any way though is always a red flag for people and that's a fast way to get a bad rep, it's bad form and simply just disrespectful. Most of this is probably relitive to the chatroom if you do go in there and I recommend you do, there are some decent and fun people in there, just don't expect the main room to be tickling related 24/7, because a lot of people like to just chat and chill, however that's a great way to meet people and break the ice. You'll get to know people pretty quickly in there, but don't expect to make friends immediately, it takes time, took me years but I met one of my best friends in life through TickleTheatre chat room (which has now long gone) so it does happen.

Like David said don't be attention-seeking, that's another red flag because as David said, it comes off as desperate. Respect is key, care about other people's needs and not your own. Plenty of times people have had a tantrum just because they didn't get what they want, again, that's bad form. Respect what others want and are in to and like I said above never assume that everyone wants what you do.

Like Elyos said, patience, it was a looooooong time ago but when I was a newbie I barely talked and it took me some time to actually meet people and get involved but once you do, and people see that you want to interact, are respectful and are just like them they'll welcome you with open arms but patience will be required, as will respect, two key points of what Elyos and David said. Also like Elyos said, new comers going "all in" is not the way to go.

It can be hard to find friends on here, or even people to chat to, but it doesn't necessarily need to be hard. Take the key points points of Sugar, Elyos and David, don't thirst, be patient, be respectful etc and it will happen.

Hope this helps
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Thank you, my friend 🙂
 
RussoGlass said:
Go to a gay bar, or just any bar where only adults are admitted. The most difficult part is just overcoming being shy. The best way to overcome that is to just make it a routine. Get out there and talk to people at adults only bars. Any bars(especially LGBTQ+ friendly) will probably have advertisements on walls for adult only events, where you can most likely meet lots of people who are into tickling!
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That'd be a first if there was a bar where all of the ticklephiles hung out
 
Getting involved in your local kink community via munches and get together is a great way to find people of a variety of kinks. My husband and I go once a month. Our kinks don't exactly line up, but it's not too hard to find play partners willing to do a little give and take even if tickling isn't their specific fetish.
 
GarnettRose said:
Getting involved in your local kink community via munches and get together is a great way to find people of a variety of kinks. My husband and I go once a month. Our kinks don't exactly line up, but it's not too hard to find play partners willing to do a little give and take even if tickling isn't their specific fetish.
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Thank you so much! I'll give it a go! <3
 
My advice? Don't chase. Try not to think about tickling. Make conversation with people. Be nice. When they get to know you they'll come closer. And then you'll have opportunities.
 
In response to @MeatyBreastedDullness's comment, I'm not going to say you shouldn't go onto Fetlife, but just think about what kind of tickle partner you want. This site is mostly vanilla, whereas Fetlife is more hardcore.
 
Not to ruin anyone's good time but if you're lonely and don't have a routine, you're going to feel like a kid with his nose pressed up against the glass on Fetlife. It's very much geared for people in the lifestyle with something to show.
 
So, everyone pretty much covered the bases in terms of getting to know people here, going to munches, etc. Obviously here, the TMF, and you could try FetLife with a focus on tickling I suppose.

Another possibility, though I know its not necessarily the answer you were asking for, is just to go out and meet someone. Allow me to explain. Just go on regular date slike you normally would and try to get closer to someone. If it works out and you two get really close, I don't think being into tickling is going to break it. I realize you said you're nervous about it, and find it daunting, but there are quite a few of us on here who met women without tickle fetishes and ended up getting them into it just by first getting to know them and treating them as human beings (not fetish objects), falling for each other, and slowly introducing tickling into the relationship.

My wife's previous relationship, and almost husband before me, told her she had ugly feet and wasn't into tickling or anything. Before I came along, she never did any of this stuff. As we became friends, and flirted, and eventually grew closer, I slowly introduced tickling into it, and now she enjoys being tickled and will let me tickle her whenever I want. She also loves tickling me, and she now thinks she has nice feet and lets me play with them.

The point I'm trying to make is, some people on here feel like their only option to find a tickle partner is on a fetish site like here or FetLife. But it is completely possible outside of these sites to find a girl who may be open to the fetish and end up loving it as well. There are also some women on this site who didn't know about or weren't into tickling before and ended up being converted. The key is time, patience, and respect.

A lot of guys will meet women and dump the feet and tickling thing on them right away and they head for the hills terrified and creeped out. Not the way to do it. Then they turn around and complain about how women hate them and they cant find a tickle partner. Not saying you're guilty of this, not pointing any fingers. Just commenting on some things I have either seen in chat in the past or in posts on this site.

But good luck! I hope you do find someone!
 
BlueLine7045 said:
So, everyone pretty much covered the bases in terms of getting to know people here, going to munches, etc. Obviously here, the TMF, and you could try FetLife with a focus on tickling I suppose.

Another possibility, though I know its not necessarily the answer you were asking for, is just to go out and meet someone. Allow me to explain. Just go on regular date slike you normally would and try to get closer to someone. If it works out and you two get really close, I don't think being into tickling is going to break it. I realize you said you're nervous about it, and find it daunting, but there are quite a few of us on here who met women without tickle fetishes and ended up getting them into it just by first getting to know them and treating them as human beings (not fetish objects), falling for each other, and slowly introducing tickling into the relationship.

My wife's previous relationship, and almost husband before me, told her she had ugly feet and wasn't into tickling or anything. Before I came along, she never did any of this stuff. As we became friends, and flirted, and eventually grew closer, I slowly introduced tickling into it, and now she enjoys being tickled and will let me tickle her whenever I want. She also loves tickling me, and she now thinks she has nice feet and lets me play with them.

The point I'm trying to make is, some people on here feel like their only option to find a tickle partner is on a fetish site like here or FetLife. But it is completely possible outside of these sites to find a girl who may be open to the fetish and end up loving it as well. There are also some women on this site who didn't know about or weren't into tickling before and ended up being converted. The key is time, patience, and respect.

A lot of guys will meet women and dump the feet and tickling thing on them right away and they head for the hills terrified and creeped out. Not the way to do it. Then they turn around and complain about how women hate them and they cant find a tickle partner. Not saying you're guilty of this, not pointing any fingers. Just commenting on some things I have either seen in chat in the past or in posts on this site.

But good luck! I hope you do find someone!
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Exactly! Though I don't necessarily have the time or money to do it, I've started to get into the habit of going out to bars to meet women. Rather than hoping to find my future wife there, I'm simply working on my social skills, while also making some kind of effort to get over this crush I had on my former coworker. Although I haven't met any yet, what I've been doing in hopes of getting their attention is bringing my drawing pad and pencils, as well as my laptop to work on various tasks. As they begin to see me more frequently there, and also notice my consistent productivity, they're bound to start up a conversation with me, and once they find out I'm an artist and a life coach, as well as an engaging person, then it flow very easily from there. Obviously I'm not going to tell them about my tickle fetish right away either, because I live with enough guilt of accidentally scaring women away, and I don't want to reenforce the stereotype that bars are where sleezy people go for one night stands. Another thing you should do IRL if you don't already is dress suavely and smell great because women are attracted to men who have those features. This may not apply to you, but women also find accents attractive. I'm an American and I've lived in the southwest suburbs of Chicago my entire life. Yet, for almost 3 years now, many women are convinced at first glance that I'm British because I've been using what's called a Transatlantic Accent (a combination of British and American English) as a way to overcome speech problems I've had since I was a child. Even after I tell them I'm not British, they still find my reasons for having my accent fascinating. I'm sure the women I meet at bars will respond the same way.

I hope this also helps!
 
You may try to look for women in the fetish forums. I just found that there are lots of forums about different fetishes.
 
I’ve met some lees on fetlife, and one of my lees put me onto TMF.

Lately tickling is what I’ve mostly been doing, but I have other kinks and have been active in the BDSM community for a while going to munches, parties, etc.

I’m a sadist at heart, but tickling is a great outlet for my sadism.
 
Munches are always the best as you can meet people in a real setting, i.e the pub and any awkward kink talk is kept at a minimum, real people, having a pint, having a laugh.

Also most events, in the Uk, anyway, have a munch day, the day before, no play, just get to know folk
 
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