how to start having some tickling Experiences? (help for a pretty shy guy)

[QtipSoftness120]

what could be some ways that i could start having some Tickling experiences in real life with Girls? because i have only had about 2 or so in my life and im 20 years of age now. i know that my sound sad but i haven't been the most talkive social guy at all. i have always been mostly shy and kept to myself when it comes to girls all the way through-out school and even now. But with my guys friends im ok with but even then they have all left me and gone off to college and what not now 🙁 so im pretty much all alone really. But its really hard for people that are shy and not that talkive to try and break out of that. But if your a talktive and easy go person then its comes nature for you and you have no problems with it. But for shyer people its pretty hard. so what are some things that you guys here would suggest me doing or ways that i could tickle girls so that i could over come my shyness a bit? and feel more better about myself. and i have NO girl friends so that really wouldn't work out.


Thank you for listening




David
bye

 

[tommytikl]

First things first...

First hello and welcome to TMF QtipSoftness120, cool screen name.

Second, I will also say that I was a shy guy in my high school and early college years myself. I do know how difficult it can be to even THINK about talking to a girl, let alone tickling her.

Here is the thing...girls don't bite!!! Talk to them, simply say hello, smile when you walk by a girl you would LIKE to talk to...make yourself more open to converstation. Hang out at a coffee shop, go to a college band, go OUT and talk to people.
I know what you are thinking QtipSoftness120, "I can barely talk to MYSELF in a mirror, let alone a girl!" Well you know what, if you don't ask them you will never know what she will say...
you ,probably(I DID), have a pre-conceived notion that you will be shot down without mercy...maybe but probably not, just be yourself and friendly and see what happens. If they blow you off immediately they have more issues than you have, if you are consistently blown off however it might be something you are doing and think about it and change it, might just be your approach...tickling the hell out of her might be great for you but not so great for her...unless she is Crydun 😉 LOL

Heck, here is an idea, go into the TMF chat room and start up some converstation there with guys and girls...in the TMF chat room everyone has a common interest so use that as your base and go from there.

Anyway, my 2 shy cents.

 

[crydun]

hello Qtip!

I agree with a lot of what tommytkl said. If you would like to talk sometime, e-mail me at [email protected]

P.S. I'll get you at NWOG Tommy

 

[QtipSoftness120]

Re: First things first...

First hello and welcome to TMF QtipSoftness120, cool screen name.

Second, I will also say that I was a shy guy in my high school and early college years myself. I do know how difficult it can be to even THINK about talking to a girl, let alone tickling her.

Here is the thing...girls don't bite!!! Talk to them, simply say hello, smile when you walk by a girl you would LIKE to talk to...make yourself more open to converstation. Hang out at a coffee shop, go to a college band, go OUT and talk to people.
I know what you are thinking QtipSoftness120, "I can barely talk to MYSELF in a mirror, let alone a girl!" Well you know what, if you don't ask them you will never know what she will say...
you ,probably(I DID), have a pre-conceived notion that you will be shot down without mercy...maybe but probably not, just be yourself and friendly and see what happens. If they blow you off immediately they have more issues than you have, if you are consistently blown off however it might be something you are doing and think about it and change it, might just be your approach...tickling the hell out of her might be great for you but not so great for her...unless she is Crydun 😉 LOL

Heck, here is an idea, go into the TMF chat room and start up some converstation there with guys and girls...in the TMF chat room everyone has a common interest so use that as your base and go from there.

Anyway, my 2 shy cents.

Thank you tommy for all your Good advice. yeah i have always pretty much felt that girls would tell me to get lost or not talk to me. or That they even would tell me that they already had a boyfriend. plus i have a tendency studder at times when i talk. so that kinda is embarrassing as well😱 so that plays into as a factor also. plus my last and ONLY girlfriend only last for about 2 weeks at the most. so i haven't had to many encounters with girls as you can tell. i have never even kissed a girl let alone gone out on a Date with any girls. i have only gotten hugs. But i find myself to be a pretty good looking guy but still girls don't even apporch me and start talking. so i must be doing something wrong😕 i don't wanna be one of thoses people that stay online and try to look for love online for the rest of thier Life. im not saying i wouldn't try that because i might at some point. but for right now i don't want to.


David
bye

 

[Angelo]

Hey QtipSoftness..that really is a hot name...but anyway.I really sympathize with you. My behavior exactly mirrored yours when I was in highschool. I studdered and never had clue on how to be spontaneous when speaking with the ladies. As for studdering i read a menshealth article that said the cause was your tongue being too slow and getting and getting in the way of your words. They suggested tongue "exercises" where you stick your tongue out with your mounth open and move your tongue from your top lip to your bottom lip as fast as you can. Practicing this when you wake up and before bed. It sounds unorthodox and I can't guarantee it's effectiveness...but even if it doesn't work u'll get a new skill when you get the confidence to talk to the ladies *wink*...Check out this website www.becomeaplayer.com it has alot of advice that an older brother would give you. Good luck bro...oh..allways be yourself!

 

[Em Es]

A couple suggestions

QTS120, you have a few good suggestions from previous posts.

In particular, I agree with the person who recommended talking to girls ABOUT THEMSELVES rather blathering on about yourself, something too many folks do. Your public library or any good bookstore should carry HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE by Dale Carnegie. That book changed my life, as the author teaches similar principles. Read it!

Also, I agree with the advice be a little mysterious (goes hand-in-hand with asking girls about themselves rather than telling your life story). Check out articles by "Doc Love," a great dating coach whose articles appear every Thursday on the www.askmen.com web site. Every young single guy should read Doc Love! I wish he was around when I was your age (I'm 43).

Last but not least, concentrate on the girls WHO LIKE YOU, not the girls you like. Understand the difference? Sure, the beautiful ones are the most exciting on a fantasy level, but life ain't fantasy. Build your confidence and techniques (including tickling techniques) with the girls who make it easy to meet them, not the stuck-up ones. True, the ladies who chase you usually aren't as attractive as the ones you chase. But you have to start somewhere.

Further, I would rather have a plain Jane who lets me have her way with her instead of the knockout who is too much pain for the pleasure.😎 Any day!

Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected].

 

[QtipSoftness120]

Re: A couple suggestions

QTS120, you have a few good suggestions from previous posts.

In particular, I agree with the person who recommended talking to girls ABOUT THEMSELVES rather blathering on about yourself, something too many folks do. Your public library or any good bookstore should carry HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE by Dale Carnegie. That book changed my life, as the author teaches similar principles. Read it!

Also, I agree with the advice be a little mysterious (goes hand-in-hand with asking girls about themselves rather than telling your life story). Check out articles by "Doc Love," a great dating coach whose articles appear every Thursday on the www.askmen.com web site. Every young single guy should read Doc Love! I wish he was around when I was your age (I'm 43).

Last but not least, concentrate on the girls WHO LIKE YOU, not the girls you like. Understand the difference? Sure, the beautiful ones are the most exciting on a fantasy level, but life ain't fantasy. Build your confidence and techniques (including tickling techniques) with the girls who make it easy to meet them, not the stuck-up ones. True, the ladies who chase you usually aren't as attractive as the ones you chase. But you have to start somewhere.

Further, I would rather have a plain Jane who lets me have her way with her instead of the knockout who is too much pain for the pleasure.😎 Any day!

Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected].

Thank you as well Ems Es for the Good and kind advice. you guys have been so kind to me here on the TMF so far since i've joined. its very heart warming and i apperciate you people reading my threads and repyling to them as well🙂


Take care everybody
bye

 

[cs217903]

Welcome! It's good to see some new faces!

Sorry for the cliche everyone! Anyways, it always seems to me that I answer these threads too late! All the wisdom has been shared! So yeah, basically what those guys said....::bangs head on wall::

But yeah, it's difficult trying to meet new people and starting new relationships. I myself am a very outgoing person, but unfortunately, when I meet people, I have a tendency to make a complete idiot of myself. Basically just be yourself and be who you want to be. If a person doesn't want to accept you for who you are, then forget 'em. They're not worth your time, because they're missing out on a great guy. Like everyone said, get to know some of the girls here on the forum. I know I'm willing to chat 24/7!!! 🙂

 

[Traveler]

Let's see you see a girl you run up and grab her and start tickling...oh wait don't do that it's a crime to do that forgot about that.First,of all if your like me you don't have a significant other right now and this means tickling is far and inbetween.The question is do you want to have a relationship or do you just want to tickle and have fun.I have been to clubs and bars and have had some success.But,there also you can't let tickling be the main focus or you might come off as strange.When,I have been lucky I see a woman buy a drink and try talking,believe me spent some money and got no conversation,and then,have gotten to talk and meet some women.Talk like you were just trying to make a friend.I know this sounds corny but has worked for me.Maybe play some pool or something,but like I said don't make tickling the focua of you wanting to meet a woman,cause I have found it just doesn't work.Or,for me it didn't anyway.

Again,if tickling is what you want I have been to places,and paid and tickled women.A bit more expensive but,have got those tickling desires cured.Or,you can find one of those friendly ladies,if you know what I mean.But,there you could be shooting in the dark.But,I would say define what you want in tickling and work from there.So,ends the rambling.😕 😉 😉

 

[MaxSpeer]

How to Have a Tickling Experience

1) Get a girlfriend
2) Tickle her
3) She laughs
4) Repeat step (2)

It really works. I've tried it about 8 skillion times and found that step (2) works if she's ticklish. If she isn't then go right to step (5).

5) Break up with gf if she isn't ticklish before you get too involved.

God help you if you marry her. Then step (5) gets expensive. I suggest you simply repeat steps (2) thru (4) and enjoy life a little bit.

Max

 

[QtipSoftness120]

Thank you to everybody thats been helping me out with Good advice from people more wiser then me😛 Yeah im not really looking for a girlfriend right now. Im just kina sorta looking towards female friends that i can hang out with and talk to when ever need be and just enjoy it all. and far as Tickling goes Traveler because i think thats what your Question was😕 i was just wanna partake here and there in Just more tickling experiences and enjoy tickling like im sure every single member on the TMF have. you all enjoy tickling very much in some sort of shape or form or you ALL wouldn't be here at all. so i just wanna experience that to in my life and have fun with it since i haven't had many Tickling adventures and hope to find some sweet nice girls like that tickling too. Since i have only been searching online for them right now and have some success suprising as that may sound 🙂 since some people even online are uncomfortable about even simple things like '' tickling ''

 

[The Pianist]

Hey, QTip... once again, I can only sorta mirror what the other guys have said... well... Em Es' suggestions are not quite my type though 😛

Basically, set yourself up to make a friend. Be nice, approachable and idealy yourself. If you go to work or uni or something, just generally acknoledge the people you work or study with. If you have to ask someone about something... go find someone you don't know to ask and then after say "cool thanks.... Oh yeah, my names David..." and there you go you've introduced yourself to someone. Even if you don't immeadiately have a huge, in depth conversation with that person, they'll be easier to talk to the next time. And of course, no one's gonna think you're wierd for saying hi like that (more likely they'll think you are nice and normal)... but if they act negatively, you can choose to perhaps avoid them next time.

Basically, don't concern yourself with trying to find a ticklish girl. If you just go out and meet people you'll eventually find one.

And about the whole girlfriend thing... I beat you 😛 I am 19 and my so called relationship with the only girl I asked out... lasted no more than 30 minutes from the 'offical' start. Its rather long to go into detail about, but I didn't manage to actually get to go on a date with this girl either (it wasn't long enough to even go somewhere)... and the way that things went after the 30 minutes was over I wish she actually hadn't had kissed me. But as that is, I don't consider that at all sad... because I was perfectly happy before I met her, eventually I was happy again after it all... and I am still happy and single now. It only becomes sad if you insist on being sad about it yourself.

...yeah... that made sense I think...

Be the girlfriend situation as it may... it hasn't stopped me from getting tickles in on other girls. Basically, if you find that one of the friends you've made is a girl... and she is giving you flak (making a little fun of you... for fun) and is just in the wrong/right position, give her a short poke if you can't think of anything to retaliate with. If they're fine with that and even better yet they still make fun of you... well, theres another door thats been opened.

 

[Em Es]

Qualifying what I said

QTS120, let me qualify my response in light of what the Pianist said: If you play an instrument, your magnetism with women multiplies. Male musicians get more tail than a convention of farmers!

I don't play a note. Nor do I have the other shortcuts to success with women - height, looks, money, athleticism. So I have to play the percentages, as I outlined in my previous response to your question.

"I should have learned to play the guitar. I should I learned to play them drums."

"All women around the world want a phony rock star, who plays guitar."😎

 

[MaxSpeer]

If you play an instrument, your magnetism with women multiplies. Male musicians get more tail than a convention of farmers!

I have had some of my best experiences on gigs so I agree. Get into a band and see how accepting people are to your fingers. I also met my last 2 girlfriends at a gig and the tickling that ensued from those relationships were the stuff dreams are made of.

Max

 

[Em Es]

Right on, Max

Max, the facts speak for themseleves, don't they?

By the way I was quoting songs by Dire Straits ("Money For Nothing" and John Mellencamp ("Play Guitar").

 

[QtipSoftness120]

and Thanks again everybody that keeps repyling to my post. I'll take all theses things into heart and Try my Best to put them to use🙂

Thanks again



take care
bye

 

[The Pianist]

If you play an instrument, your magnetism with women multiplies. Male musicians get more tail than a convention of farmers!

Uhhh.... I will agree that that works for quite a lot of people, but they do need the personality type to make it work like that. Being mostly a classical pianist that isn't currently in a band... being a musician has mostly provided me with another group of people that obviously share my interests and another conversation point.

One of the things I do when I'm meeting someone new, or getting to know someone better, is to ask them what type of music they listen too.... and just really hope that either they don't listen to 'bands' like Blink 182 and Brittany Spears... or are good natured enough to let me argue with them about how their music is crap 😛 like for example some new kid at my supermarket, he spent half his shift telling me how crap all of my music was and that R&B was the only stuff worth listening to. 😛 Gave us something to do (as well as pack shelves) for a few hours....