How would you approach this type of woman? Is it even possible?

[primetime]

Just thought I would throw this out there to see what the responses will be. A situation I encountered had me wondering. My "logical side" told me, "um, it probably won't happen..", but then there's that side that wants to try it. I feel more strongly to "this will probably not work...", but I figured I would ask people here...

The situation? Recently I met a very beautiful woman. The kind of woman where you just go "damn!". We meet at a social gathering of sorts and I even made small talk. The problem? This particular woman is a POLICE OFFICER. She was in uniform when I met her and in fact, the ONLY time I have ever seen her is in uniform. The social event was at a high school football game, where she is part of the school police.

Now, how on this planet do you even try to approach this type of person? I keep thinking "I will get tasered if I try to ask her out...or nightsticked to death..." Is it even possible? Knowing that I don't know where else to meet her when she is off-duty, I figured "um, it probably will not happen.."

So, is it even possible? Is this the "impossible dream"? She is in uniform, so how on earth could you even approach someone like that?

 

[Daytickler]

The good news for you is that there are plenty of people, like yourself, that are too intimidated to ask her out, so she probably doesn't get hit on as often as someone in another profession. Do you know what she likes yet? If she likes football, ask her out for happy hour for Monday Night Football. She's probably just like any other woman, and will be flattered that you showed interest in her. Make sure that you do this, as you'll kick yourself down the road if you don't do it. The worst possible scenario if you do ask her is that she will thank you for showing interest, and tell you that she's seeing someone. I think our egos can get over that! 🙂 Good luck Prime!

 

[milagros317]

Police officers are also human beings. Approach her the way you would any other attractive woman. 😀

PS: Do not use a line like, "If we go out, will you bring your handcuffs?"

 

[kis123]

If you are really interested in her, just ask a simple question:

Would you be interested in a cup of coffee (lunch, dinner, whatever)? Take a deep breath and stay in control; women love confident (not cocky) men with a touch of that little boy in them. She'll either say "yes" or "no" and it'll be over with. Either way you get it out of your system and you might even have a story to tell us later....

Forget about the uniform, she's a woman and she'll either be flattered or annoyed. You play your cards right and who knows about the possibilities.

Good luck and happy pursuits.

 

[Myriads]

Approach as you would any other person you wanted to ask out. DO however keep in mind that when you see her in uniform she is 'at work' and you will be interacting with her while she is on the clock. Be considerate of that fact.

Myriads

 

[GQguy]

Great advice!

I have to ask, have you guys been able to talk yet? Are you guys acquaintances/friends/strangers? I'd tailor my proposal based on this. If you're friends, ask her out! If you're acquaintances i'd suggest becoming friends. Do you have mutual friends? Use that mutual friend to your advantage and host Sunday football at your place. If you guys are basically strangers i.e. she doesn't know your name i'd reccomend striking up a convo with her.

If you're talking to her while at work....make her laugh.
Any other time....make her laugh.

GQ

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

A uniform is just a dress code for her job. I am sure she doesn't wear it when she is off-duty. I would just ask her how her night is going so far...followed up by do anything fun this weekend? more then likely it will give you a idea of what kind of person she is and therefore allow you the opportunity to build a coversation. if she is non-responsive it probably means she is taking her job seriously so don't take it personal unless it happens more then once.

 

[ticklemetrix]

Ask! i have several friends that are police officers and trust me,.very normal off the clock.

 

[paracarl44]

Try the coffee approach.

You must remember that these people have a social life when they are not on duty.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Yes, police officers are human beings and they have social lives out of uniform. However, when they're on duty and in uniform, it's their job to be aloof and impersonal. This may not be such an issue if it's a small-town football game where nothing's likely to happen and where she's able to recognize that you're one of the upright citizens rather than one of the potential troublemakers, but you still have a built-in disadvantage. Add to that the fact that you have no clue to what she's like when she's off duty and out of uniform. I know you find her beautiful, but what does that tell you about her personality, besides nothing?

All the same, if you want to pursue possibilities, I like what GQ Guy says above.

 

[Bohemianne]

I agree with what the majority suggests about coffee... it's casual and tact.

 

[primetime]

Thanks for all the responses! I was wondering what I should do. There is a game this Friday, so I will see her again. We have talked before at several games, so she does recognize me. She has been friendly. My concern is, "is it weird to try to ask a cop out for coffee or something while they are on duty?"

We will see what happens. I will let you all know how it went down...Wish me luck. I do thank you for your advice...

 

[Bohemianne]

Thanks for all the responses! I was wondering what I should do. There is a game this Friday, so I will see her again. We have talked before at several games, so she does recognize me. She has been friendly. My concern is, "is it weird to try to ask a cop out for coffee or something while they are on duty?"

We will see what happens. I will let you all know how it went down...Wish me luck. I do thank you for your advice...

Striking a conversation is still the key, but how you will keep it going will be up to you. It's always a make or break. A person who does not like you will be flat and 90% cold. Some 10% is reserved for human courtesy. The rest will depend on how you conduct yourself. If she's really busy, she'll tell you so or NOT, you can't do anything about it. But you can wait for another opportunity. By that time, you could have offered her coffee or so, casually. If you think there is some progress, GQ's idea would be great, but it's wiser to ask her out in a neutral place.

 

[kis123]

Thanks for all the responses! I was wondering what I should do. There is a game this Friday, so I will see her again. We have talked before at several games, so she does recognize me. She has been friendly. My concern is, "is it weird to try to ask a cop out for coffee or something while they are on duty?"

We will see what happens. I will let you all know how it went down...Wish me luck. I do thank you for your advice...

Since that's the only time you see her is at games while working, what other choice do you have?

Don't make a big deal out of it and she won't either. If she looks busy, don't bother her and wait until the next game. If she looks bored out of her mind, be brief and casual; very little else melts a woman's heart than a friendly smiling face so don't forget to smile.

It's a cup of coffee, not a marriage proposal so relax.

Good luck and happy pursuits......this might turn out better than you could've possibly imagine.

 

[GQguy]

Thanks for all the responses! I was wondering what I should do. There is a game this Friday, so I will see her again. We have talked before at several games, so she does recognize me. She has been friendly. My concern is, "is it weird to try to ask a cop out for coffee or something while they are on duty?"

We will see what happens. I will let you all know how it went down...Wish me luck. I do thank you for your advice...

Women are wise to our sneaky ways(sometimes they play dumb). Anyway my tactic for asking a girl out is simple. Hey what are you doing this weekend....usually they know the next question is going to be me asking them out. They have a chance here to make something up so I don't look totally rejected and she doesn't look bad. She also has the chance to invite you to ask her out by making it seem like her schedule is clear. If she says nothing much, how about you?....bingo! She might even go as far as to itemize what she's doing so you can pick a slot!"I have work till 7pm Saturday and church on sunday at noon, other than that nothing much!". Have a plan for morning, afternoon and night...If she frees up 7pm for you...then you're buying dinner! If she frees up 3pm...then it's coffee. If she declines, just let her know it's cool and maybe next time. Keep the lines of communication going! Beautiful women usually have a guy they're seeing or at least talking to.....so this week might be bad, but next week might be good! And do what you invited her to do. If you said coffee, go. If you said hiking, go on the hike. Invite a buddy, another woman or go alone. There's something very attractive about not needing a woman to enjoy your life. It also lowers the stakes the next time you invite her out...like it really doesn't matter if she says yes or no. If she's curious she'll ask how that happy hour or coffee was.

And pick an activity that she's into. If she's a young soul....perhaps something spicier than coffee. Coffee for the older soul.

 

[Amnesiac]

Forget about her and try someone else.

Cops are cops first, people second, human beings last.

Don't ever trust one enough to bring them into your life, let alone your bed.

 

[BBGuy5240]

If you don't see Her anywhere else, then that's the only Option you have man.


I say go for it. If you see Her, strike up a Conversation, talk for a little bit, then ask Her out for some Coffee.

 

[obama666]

Just start licking your eyebrows

 

[Bohemianne]

And pick an activity that she's into. If she's a young soul....perhaps something spicier than coffee. Coffee for the older soul.

LOL... I don't know exactly what you mean by young/older soul with regard to coffee preference. I started seriously drinking coffee at a tender age of 16... 😀 😀

 

[GQguy]

LOL... I don't know exactly what you mean by young/older soul with regard to coffee preference. I started seriously drinking coffee at a tender age of 16... 😀 😀

Ollllldddd sooooouuul! Just kidding. Not everyone is into coffee. When asking a girl out he must tailor it to the woman and how she feels about him and herself. That's all I'm getting at.

 

[primetime]

UPDATE: Well, I got my chance to talk to her last night at the game. She saw me, smiled and waved and we made good small talk. I decided "Fuck it, just ask her out. See what happens." I asked, and...............she has a boyfriend.... 😎 In the voice of Al Bundy, "Of course....."

Well, now I know it is possible to ask a cop out on a date when she is on duty. I gave it the ol' college try.Thanks for all the advice and support! Primetime marches on...

 

[BBGuy5240]

Sorry Man

 

[milagros317]

Sorry to hear that she is already involved with somebody. But you never would have know if you didn't try.

 

[GQguy]

Ehhhh. They're always invloved with someone. Build a friendship with her. Not in hopes of hooking up with her...but just because. You never know, she could be a great friend, she could become single soon or she might have friends!

 

[mabus]

Damn, a woman in uniform would have been so hot to see coming home every night!

Don't give up! Now that you've gotten comfortable, ask the next hot girl out...eventually you'll hit gold, and hopefully, find your soul mate
who'll be as beautiful on the inside as the outside.