Oh boy. Well, all tears and emotion aside, I guess I'm going to be the oddball here on this thread and bashed to ribbons.
Not to be rude and no offense, because I'm proud of your "bravery" I'd guess you call it-- but-- I simply don't get it. I'm confused.
I've read things like this before. Why "come out"? What is always the big deal to ticklers and just ticklers alone?
I mean, your private life is YOUR private life. Whether you personally act upon it or not, a fetish is part of your sexual makeup. That's a fact. Just as some people desire oral or some other sexual act to excite them, why should they feel guilty and need to come out about that to anyone not involved in your sex life directly? You wouldn't tell your Grandmother those things, would you? I wouldn't want to feel that I have to come out and tell anyone my personal private tastes on the other side of the bedroom door. That's my private sexual affair, not theirs.
Please know that I am not attacking you or putting your decisions down at all. We each have our own lives to live and need to do what makes us feel right.
But I notice that Ticklers in general always seem to feel some overriding guilt as to what they like, like they always need justification or something- whereas bdsm people never do. Why I wonder?
Ticklers online for years have tried to make me feel guilty due to my intense or deeper emotional level tastes, or even because I do sometimes like noncon as oppossed to totally consenting and preplanned. But again- that's my affair and my tastes. They're not in my bedroom- so I have no guilt- and don't have to come out or prove myself. I just need to be myself.
You're obviously an intelligent and warm human being with deep emotions and comittments. Be "you". You don't need to come out to anyone, justify anything, or feel guilty. Answer to yourself alone.
Just be you and what you are- you're perfect as is.
Kay 🙂
