I hate bondage!!!

[hotchytick2]

Hey I never said it was bad or wrong, I just don't get it, and I don't like it. I'm open minded to understand what makes people in to it, I just have never seen the point that's all. Wasn't trying to offend...

 

[Violetta]

While you never condemned the practice outside of anything but your opinion, you did say that you thought it was "sick" in your own words. And hopefully, looking back, you understand that that would be the exact same thing as if you were to come out about your tickling fetish to someone, and they told you that it sounded kinda disgusting to them. You might be open-minded, but the words you chose both for the title and the content of your original post were certainly good ones to get us bondage lovers worked up quickly.

 

[Kalamos]

And hopefully, looking back, you understand that that would be the exact same thing as if you were to come out about your tickling fetish to someone, and they told you that it sounded kinda disgusting to them.

If said someone were to do that to me, I would just laugh.

:super_hap

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I mean, we tend to give too much importance to words themselves, and way less to facts.

Fact is, bondage is a turn-off for hotchytick.
Period.
No amount of diplomacy is going to change that.

Sure, he could have said "gee dude, I'm fine with your fetish, it's just not my favourite cup of tea, but I'm still cool with you."
He chose to say it sickens him, instead.
Maybe it is what it really does.

After all, we all have likes and dislikes.
He was just being blunter than some.
Not that being subtler works, anyway...

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So, let us put things back into perspective: he simply expressed dissent, however bluntly.
He was not trying to have your favourite fetish site closed down, or take your adult toys away.

He could have showed a bit more respect, but talking him down is not really making him respect you/us any more.
Likely, a bit less.

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We have to put up with fanboys everyday...
Let us not become fanboys ourselves, eh?

😉

 

[Violetta]

I think it'd be a bit difficult for me to become a fanboy in the first place. 😉

 

[Kalamos]

I think it'd be a bit difficult for me to become a fanboy in the first place. 😉

Well, at least part of the problem is solved, eh?
Just avoid the fan thing, and you'll be fine.

😉

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Anyway... I tend to use masculine designations just for the sake of simplicity.
"Let us not become fan-youths" just does not sound quite as effective.

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Besides, you know I don't really care much for genders, online, "man".
Unless I can touch the good old quivering flesh, gender is of little consequence when chatting...

 

[P[a]pi]

He said this at first:

It seems kind of sick to me, even on a fantasy level. I know what you are going to say, some people liked to be t and t'd but even on some level I thing there is something kind of screwed up about that.

Meaning he thinks bondage is sick and people who like to be tied up and tickled or people who like to tie people up and tickle them are screwed up. Even if it's consentual.

Then he switched to this:

Hey I never said it was bad or wrong, I just don't get it, and I don't like it. I'm open minded to understand what makes people in to it, I just have never seen the point that's all. Wasn't trying to offend...

So this statement...

You might be open-minded, but the words you chose both for the title and the content of your original post were certainly good ones to get us bondage lovers worked up quickly.

...definately applies.

 

[TKLVR181]

People too often associate bondage with non-con---maybe that's where the problem lies

 

[hotchytick2]

wow...I touch off a few rockets with my statements. Sick was too strong of a word, sorry for using this term. But I think my opinion is what it is, and I'm not going to apologize for it.

 

[P[a]pi]

People too often associate bondage with non-con---maybe that's where the problem lies

And what's funny is that tickling some girl out of nowhere is non-con and asking a girl if you can tie them up and tickle them is obviously con.

I've seen plenty of chicks get mad when a guy just starts tickling them in public.