I have a humdinger of a problem

[TickleSimone]

to stay or leave......

Hose,

Is she REALLY into tickling? To have any strong desire (ie, I can't be with a man who ONLY likes vanilla sex), and not find someone REALLY into it, is a doomed relationship I think.

I've met the smartest, nicest people who would worship the ground I walk on but you can't TEACH someone to be tickled or to tickle. 🙁 As such, I remain single and enjoy my work.

That said, IF she's into it and you're timing is off, why not schedule Tickle Night Monday and Fridays? Make it a nice thing for her, do the dinner thing, romantic candles or music then TICKLE TIME!!!!!

If she's still not into it, you're both going to be unhappy and you have to move on as horrible as that sounds.

 

[TickledToDeath]

If THAT is a "humdinger of a problem" then there are others who should be suicidal!
Why won't she let you tickle her with nylons?

Does she allow you to tie her down?

Otherwise, jeeeeeeeeeeze man, just live with it deal with it or pin her down trap her feet, put the nylons on her and tickle away! OR is she stronger than you?

 

[Hosetickler23]

I've been really busy to put it simple I have been going to bed at 9:45 and sleeping alot so this site, IM, and my sim racing career have been on hold but NASCAR in only 3 weeks away and the IRL is 5 but I digress. She is still seeing me and no I have not backed down, even made some plans for Valintines day ( I hate valentines day) she will be dressing up but now I don't even want to tickle her anymore so it really doesn't matter so I let it all go. I'll still be around but I'll be like this guy

 

[WorkInProgress]

It seems to me as if the things you need to sort through in this relationship have a lot more to do with the relationship itself than with the tickling. Neither of you should be giving the other ultimatums about anything, or letting the idiot box get in the way of intimate communication. Whether the problem is tickling or what restaurant to have dinner at, you should both be able to talk everything through with each other until you find something you can both agree on. The ability to keep a dialogue going until you've found something you can both agree on seems to be sadly rare talent, but in my opinion it's what you have to have. I call this a communication problem rather than a tickling problem, and you really do need to communicate and search for solutions together.

I have a suggestion for all couples. At least once a week, you should sit on the couch together, hold hands, look into each other's eyes, and take turns expressing yourselves. Make it a ritual that everything you say will conclude with the words, "This is how it seems to me, and I'd really like to hear how you feel about it." And make it sacro-sanct that under no circumstances will either of you break away from the dialogue if the other still has more things to express.

 

[duannewalton]

Cotton socks are good. If they're thin enough, they're just as effective as nylons. Or almost as effective. 🙄

 

[darkscar]

I'm no Dr Phil but...

How long have you been seeing her?

As I read she lets you tickle her, that’s a Plus!!

You stopped tickling her and asking us is that a good idea?
Um.... are you ok with not tickling her or are you torturing yourself more than trying to torture her?

Um she may not care either way of getting tickled or not getting tickled. She may let you do it because you like it, and she likes you more enough to give in a little.

Drop the Nylons things for a wile you can’t win them all. Maybe as the relationship grows she will give in some more.

The bondage thing - Sometimes bondage is a little scary and intimidating to people. You just started dating and she may be still trying to get to know you. There for she doesn’t trust you enough to let you tie her up. Because when tied up she is helpless and don’t know exactly what kind of man you are and you may try to hurt her. You don’t know what is going though her mind.

Other factors - other than the tickling thing are you 2 happy together doing other activities?


Relationships need to grow - the longer they grow the more opportunities open up and the more she will let you do to her.

Communication is the key.

 

[Hosetickler23]

I'm really not concearned about this anymore it's not my #1 priority

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I'm really not concearned about this anymore it's not my #1 priority

I hear what your saying. A friend of mine tells me his wife won't let him hmmmm how can I say this...perform orally on her. No matter how much he asks. Usually if a woman doesn't like something there is no convincing her otherwise. Sorry bro, it's just the way things are. You just have to let it alone and hope someday she changes her mind or you just lose interest because you get tired of arguing. Which is what probably happened.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Isn't Humdinger the Offensive Coordinator for the Jets?

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Isn't Humdinger the Offensive Coordinator for the Jets?

No I think it was a fork..Oh no that's a Dinglehopper.

 

[Hosetickler23]

I am no Jets fan but I think thats Herm Dinger (I don't like the Jets as a matter of fact I don't like any NY team) Getting off topic. I had my chance Yesterday Valentines Day and I just did nothing and strangly It didn't feel as good I expected, but on the plus side I'm losing weight when I joined 250 currently 220 🙂