I need help

[smoothacer409]

I have had mulliple opportunities to tickle this one girl i know. and another one has presented itself tomorrow night. However when i try to tickle her i keep thinking that she has a boyfriend. Now this has never bothered me before and i don't really think of tickling as sexual. So i figured i'd turn to my tickling brothers(and sisters) for help
So my question is...is it wrong to tickle girls that have a boyfriend????

 

[NavelTickler75]

If it bothers you, then you might have a fear of it turning sexual. If that is the case you should ask yourself, do you really want to go that far.

 

[smoothacer409]

thanx

your words do bring a valid point i just never thought my fetish had that strong a grip on me

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

personally i dont think it is wrong, but my belief is that as long as it stays playful it maynot jeopordize the relationship

 

[milagros317]

Speaking for myself, I don't think it's wrong, as long as you and the young woman think of it as playful tickling.

Her boyfriend may have a different opinion, and may express it forcefully.

 

[ShadowTklr]

I have had mulliple opportunities to tickle this one girl i know. and another one has presented itself tomorrow night. However when i try to tickle her i keep thinking that she has a boyfriend. Now this has never bothered me before and i don't really think of tickling as sexual. So i figured i'd turn to my tickling brothers(and sisters) for help
So my question is...is it wrong to tickle girls that have a boyfriend????

your words do bring a valid point i just never thought my fetish had that strong a grip on me

It sounds to me like you're just having a difficult time admitting to yourself what most people with a tickling fetish already know: Your "fetish" is sexual, or at least it brings about sexual titillation. Here are a couple of clues I picked up in your two posts.

• This has bothered you before: If by bothering, you mean, you've been consumed with the idea of tickling this girl, but you're confused about how that tickling will be perceived, then you already recognize that tickling has some sexual association, or at least, intimate association.

• You're concerned about her having a boyfriend: You already recognize subconciously that tickling her would be an intimate interaction that could also be perceived as such by her boyfriend.

• You're looking for "opportunities:" This signifies an above average degree of focus on the idea of tickling her, i.e.; waiting for the chance. If tickling is strictly playful, there is no need to be on the lookout for opportunities, or attempt to recognize those opportunities beforehand.

• You didn't realize your "fetish" had such a grip on you: Notwithstanding the possibility that you use the word "fetish" as a buzzword, rather than for it's true definition, if you think about tickling often and find yourself desiring to tickle someone, then you probably have a fetish, and in that case, it is already sexual in nature.

Don't worry. It's perfectly normal to be gripped by it. However, it's best to recognize this now, and incorporate it into your life, rather than continue denying it and creating a whole lot of confusing issues for yourself later.

 

[isabeau]

well crap i voted no before i read the post...if you feel it is wrong, then you won't enjoy yourself..

 

[aun_existe_amor]

If you knew you were doing the right thing you wouldn't ask if it's right or wrong. Deep down you know that it's wrong. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You're just looking for excuses from other people to satisfy your conscience.

 

[StevePerry4Ever]

Dude, if it feels wrong... it is. You say it's not sexual but you call it your fetish. Would you like it if you had a girlfriend and some other guy acted out his fetish on/with her?

 

[Mistress Aura]

Dude, if it feels wrong... it is. You say it's not sexual but you call it your fetish. Would you like it if you had a girlfriend and some other guy acted out his fetish on/with her?

Aye, there's the rub! Like SP4E implies, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"...

I learned the hard way a long time ago that if you're doing something, anything, and the word "caught" enters your mind, then yeah, it's wrong for you
, no matter if it seems perfectly innocent to the rest of the world. Your own conscience already answered you.

I know it's probably not what you're wanting to hear, since the majority is pretty well telling you "Try a different girl"...But truthfully, the bottom line is, allegedly "playful" or not, you're wanting to put your hands on another man's woman, and it's not in a medical/professional situation. Better think long and hard--especially if said boyfriend is the possessive type.

Mistress Aura

 

[kered]

If you want a broken nose, go right ahead.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Gray area....so long as it is not behind the back of the boyfriend of the girl and it dosen't become MORE than tickling.
If either of those lines are crossed.........that is NOT good and just plain wrong.

 

[steph]

"Being" wrong is everyone ELSE's (irrelevant) opinion.
"Feeling" wrong is YOUR definition. If it isn't sexually intended, you're no threat to boyfriend and it's just playful fun, what's the problem?
The most important question~how does SHE feel about all this?
XOXO

 

[ticklesenseless]

Morality is always interesting. I have been tickled by married ladies. However, their husbands knew what they were up to. Is that wrong? No. Nobody was hurt and everyone knew what was happening.

Now, the more interesting question in the dating world is does your friend really like her boyfriend or is she looking to trade up? After all, dating isn't marriage. It is or should be a time of exploration to discover what you want in a partner.

Of course, I wouldn't try to explain that to her boyfriend as he beats you to a pulp.

 

[Mike3355]

my thoughts would be since you stated you think she has a boyfriend, is find out if she actully does or not...