Three-ways discussed..
I don't know why people always feel such worry over such things. It's human nature, human sexuality- and you're human. Experience it.
Live it. It's
your life too- you need to be you... don't limit yourself on anything that you can reach for. Taste and feel everything there is that appeals to you (within moral reason) and live life to the edge sometimes. I have. There's little I haven't done in this scene, and it's probably more than most others will ever even get to if they limit themselves... and I also mean far outside of this tiny community too. In fact one of the reasons I met my soulmate is because I have such a variety to my life: She loves stockcar racing, and I built and raced a stockcar. Everything else just fell into place.
Now, lest you feel I don't know what I'm talking about, don't understand female bisexuality, or that I may be handing you the 'typical guys answer' (yes, granted, most guys think with their dicks), here's the experiences behind where I'm coming from--
Now three-ways and live-in threesomes may differ slightly... but not by much. And usually the former leads to the latter.
Long ago when the TK world was young, it was well known (and many were envy of it) that I lived in a three-way relationship. Tracy and Cindi-
two of the first females to enter the fetish world and two of the best this scene has EVER had- lived with me for 6 years (and for a time Tabbi lived with us too, making it four).. and thats where some of my best creativity and deepest scenes sprang from. Lady, it was hot. We built new devices together, beach buried parties, renfaires, Cindi is the one who got me started doing the Sorority initiations, we pushed limits to the edge and sometimes just had plain old fast fun.. and hosted some fabulous theme parties for TK and BDSM over those years too. They were both very active online and posted all the time about our adventures- with photos- and hosted chat rooms.
Our private times (much like your own) went from great to fantastic due to the third person. Scenes are so much easier.
However, neither one of them had ever felt bisexual prior to this! Yet, when I opened that door...those feelings flooded into them. I showed them a different edge to life. So the addition of another person can be wonderful
IF all the personalities mesh.
People who came to our parties were in heaven because of this set-up. That was a wonderful time in my life. But in time, life has it's way, work and family situations pulled us to various ends of the USA so that we parted our living situations-- but never our deep friendship and spirit for this fetish. We are still friends to this day, they speak to my GF, and are a big part of the Yahoo Ticklepalace group, and attend events.. and yes we still play and get that thrill occasionally. This is the very definition of the word open-minded and a healthy and intelligent approach to sexuality.
And if that isn't enough-- following that era, and without any deliberate attempt on my part, I fell into yet another three-way relationship.. again live-in. This time with Ticklegal and another lady who has since left the scene. They had no prior bisexuality feelings at all... but it sparked a new passion. This too was magic, we mixed well.. and many grand and glorious times sprang from that.. new ideas, inventions, scenes, the highest passionate times you couild imagine, and equally so the theme parties again. Another magical time in my life.
Eventually life sifts it's way in-- Tgal and I split off from the other female and had another wonderful era, from which the TicklePalace was born, as were it's parties. And then as work, touring, family and life pulled us in whacky directions.. we wound up on opposite sides of the country, and then she too left the scene (tired of the cliques and cheap people).
However, and yet also again-- we all remain friends and close to this very day. A very healthy intelligent approach to human sexuality.
My point being- if any of them had felt guilty or worried about their feelings.. backed off... or asked anyone online for advice (always fatal to ask ticklers on a message board for relationship advice because ticklers feel EVERY issue on earth can be solved with tickling!).. none of those times, none of their feelings, and none of their hidden passions would ever have seen the light of day.. they would have limited their experiences.. and they would have gone to their grave always wondering "what if?"... a fate no one should suffer.
True, I was already known and very experienced coming into those relationships and could ease the path getting into this scene a bit.. but they brought their own intelligence, their passion and spark with them as well, things I couldn't have created in them. That would include any bisexual feelings...sans any guilt.
Now- that said..... three-ways have a bad side. You've got to leave any jealousy and envy at the door. It's not all "up" times.. most likely you have to hide it from friends and family.. you'll also have to be accepting if your BF has decidely more fun some times with your GF. To make this relationship work for a long time you're going to have to give
them alone time, just as he is going to have to give you two alone time. Anyone with a suspicious or insecure nature will sink this quickly (we never had those issues). Not everyone is always going to be happy... and many times, without the right mix, someone is always going to feel left out or unsatifised. Not getting enough attention. It
will happen, despite any great feelings or that 'high' you may have now: It
will happen.
The best thing is to be prepared for it, discuss it with adult intelligent reasoning devoid of emotions PRIOR to it happening (not during the time) ..and when it does happen you'll be able to fly right by it. Thats what we always did.
Many of the ladies I've mentioned are still online, and you can talk to them, go to them for advice too. We've all remained close.
Now, with Karmagirl, who is by far the best match for me in this fetish, and we now indulge the the greatest times I've ever had yet, we've discussed (and indulged in) three-ways.
Although I don't have the desire to be in another live-in three-way lifestyle any more, I've surprised her when she came home from a trip by telling her to jump in the shower because I had a present for her in the bedroom... and there waiting, so tightly stretched out on our rackbed, gagged, toes tied, naked sex ready to be feathered insanely.. nipples lovingly clamped... was a sexy young female... not bisexual
yet.. all wide-eyed and
scared and in total headspace- just as Karma dreamt about.
I kissed them both.. and unlike most men would do- I walked out, and closed the door behind me.
Their dream needed to happen. I went to Dunkin Doughnuts. I didn't ask what happened. I didn't have to.
Now that kind of strength is what an open three-way adult sexuality is all about.
So ask yourself if you can handle that (in any variation) and you'll have a pretty good assessment of what's right for you.. or what isn't.
And don't sweat the bisexuality issue. Cuz it really isn't an issue. Just enjoy life as it comes at you.
So, my boyfriend and I have been talking about how to spice up the bedroom. Of course tickling and bondage, etc...but he brought the idea of a threesome, bringing in a girl. Well we found one and did it. I really enjoyed it, but...I have a feeling I might be bisexual especially for this girl.
Since we had the threesome I've been texting and hangout out with this girl. Don't get me wrong I will never leave my boyfriend, I love him with all me heart, it's just I feel like i'm more bisexual then straight. I love the sex we have and there are no complaints about it. Like i get turned on when I'm with him and in bedroom, but when i look at picturesw of girls modelling or tied up, or in minimal amount of clothing i get turned on as well. Especially pictures on my guest page.
Is that enough proof that I might be bisexual. And its a silly question but is it ok to be? I haven't discussed it with my boyfriend. If i tell him would he be accepting of it. I feel kind of lost
