I want a woman's opinion here

[tickleteasing]

I was chatting online with this woman in to tickling, I was not saying anything crude or anything but what I did notice is in the past during the conversations we have had she has logged off suddenly without any warning whatsoever. Not saying goodbye or anything. I asked her why she did this and she told me that being I was not her mother she did not owe me an explanation. Well maybe being I was not her mother she did not owe me an explanation. But one time I was talking to someone else who was also in to tickling and she said I had done the same thing to her a few times and it was annoying. So in the future I made it a point not to do that. Now do you think it is rude if a person logs offline without saying goodbye or talk to you later or anything?

 

[Deleted member 66627]

It all depends on circumstance..

She might have been called away.
She might have a child who woke up, and went off to tend to him/her.
She might have had a parent/aquaintance enter the room who was not aware of her interests.

Or.

She really just logged off for no reason what-so-ever.

Yes, I have been at fault of doing it. But I have personal reasons behind it. If I was 'done' talking with someone I would have just told them.

 

[ShadowTklr]

I was chatting online with this woman in to tickling, I was not saying anything crude or anything but what I did notice is in the past during the conversations we have had she has logged off suddenly without any warning whatsoever. Not saying goodbye or anything. I asked her why she did this and she told me that being I was not her mother she did not owe me an explanation. Well maybe being I was not her mother she did not owe me an explanation. But one time I was talking to someone else who was also in to tickling and she said I had done the same thing to her a few times and it was annoying. So in the future I made it a point not to do that. Now do you think it is rude if a person logs offline without saying goodbye or talk to you later or anything?

If she does this all the time, then, of course it's rude. It is no less rude than if you were having a phone conversation and she simply hung up on you in mid sentence. It appears that the finer points of consideration and civility are lost on some people today.

I have always made it a point to let people know when I am leaving during a conversation. When people do that to me, I ask them to be more considerate. If they don't, then I stop chatting with them.

 

[chicago]

I'd say it depends on the relationship between the two people. If you've talked for a while and would call yourself friends, it'd seem weird for the other person to sign off suddenly and give no explanation and thus possibly rude.

But if you've only talked a few times prior, or not at all, I wouldn't be too upset. People have a knack for forgetting that screen name is a person.

 

[Saeria]

I have been known to do this very same thing, to be honest (yeah, i'm one rude bitch). in my case it's all about confrontation. When i decide to talk one on one to someone, i don't really feel comfortable talking about personal things, tickling being one of them, for quite a while in an intimate setting. More often, it seems, those i'm talking to just want to jump right into the fetish discussion. Because i lack both nads and social skills, i will opt for abruptly ending the conversation instead of telling someone i'm uncomfortable. The fear of confrontation is a big monster for me. I'm honestly not trying to be rude, i'm just uncomfortable and don't have the skills needed to express this in an adequate and effective manner. So, maybe if you're really interested in talking to someone who does this alot, try shifting the conversation to something general instead of something that could be taken as intimate.

 

[Babbles]

Rudeness is too common, not merely online.

TT,
This also happens to be a "pet peeve" of mine, so I'm glad you brought it up.


You are absolutely right, that is simply very rude behavior.
It's been done to me while chatting over the years, even to a limited extent,
--- by guys --- it's not a gender-related malady 🙄
and if there is no apology, and/or the person just disregards it, that's One Strike.
They don't always get to Three.

There is a rare exception, but at the very least I lose respect for people who behave that rudely, and unless that person writes back to me, preferably with an apology, I'm done.

So while I agree there can be extenuating circumstances (esp. w/a child, as Crystal mentioned) I let the other person know *immediately if I will need to vanish abruptly. If there is a situation like that, even if it's private,

all the person needs to do is inform you first that,
for private reasons, he or she will possibly need to get off REAL FAST, for a child, a parent, hopefully not an unsuspecting spouse, *whatever ----
They don't even need to give a reason, that's their business,

but minimum common courtesy dictates they should let you know if they may need to do that,

and I know *I certainly apologize if I accidentally do anything related to anyone, such as taking too long to organize thoughts to reply to an email, I'm not claiming perfection here either.

But I won't just drop a person in the middle of a live conversation.

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

To me if you are in a conversation with someone and its flowing freely back and forth and suddenly you get the 'offline' notice from this person, then quite frankly to me, that is rude, plain and simple.

If there was a good reason for it and you started chatting the next day for example and they didn't give you a reason, I would still think that was bad manners and rude.

It also pisses me off when you speak to someone and at the end of the conversation you are saying your goodbye's and they just hang up and there you are chatting to a dead line, some people are so friggin rude, where's your bloody manners were you dragged up or brought up to respect others, hmm

 

[phfttklr]

It is rude, unless they had to leave without enough time to type 'goodbye" or lost connection. If they are nice and you speak with them again, they most likely will opologize. They also could have been bored and rudely left without a word.


...orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, it could have been a male, who was done getting off on the cyber talk and you were used. Sleep well, with that one.



Don't let it bother you. If you don't talk with them again, oh well, there will be others.

 

[minerva]

It is no less rude than if you were having a phone conversation and she simply hung up on you in mid sentence. It appears that the finer points of consideration and civility are lost on some people today.

Gotta agree to that 100%.
Lost connection is the only excuse for such behaviour IMO.

 

[tickleshotel]

TT, it is rude and I think if the person is interrupted or called away for whatever reason,they could have at least sent a message " gotta go,brb or chat later " but to just sign off with no courtesy,that is rude and unthoughtful.

 

[Helena]

I still have dial-up internet connection.
Yes, I do get teased because of it; no, it doesn't bother me most of the time.
I was having the best chat ever with a man quite to my liking, and I got booted off the net. My computer just disconnected. This happens occasionally. I think this can be frustrating for me, as well as the person I am discussing something with. I just try and log back in.