We DO have both kinds of parties. 😀 The FootNight parties are the first sort, and gatherings & SM play-parties are the other! The challenge has always been to get something close to gender balance at the second kind. The SM community has gotten pretty good about that; tickling parties are still climbing the learning curve in that regard.xylo said:Maybe if they had both kinds of parties, one where people pay and one kind where they don't, that way people can just go to whatever they feel comfortable with.