If your a woman and your tickled

[tickleteasing]

While being blindfolded, naked and tied spreadeagle, or in some intense way that you are vulnerable. I want to know does it make you feel feminine and beautiful? I wish I could find a woman who feels that way in regards to being tickled, its almost like she sees being tickled to orgasm as sort of a way for her to just enjoy being a woman. I get very very lonely a lot so I just wanted to ask this. I guess another reason I am asking this is I am a 35 year old man who wants to meet an older woman who sees tickling this way. I fantasize about meeting a woman like this.

 

[Loxxy Loxx]

While being blindfolded, naked and tied spreadeagle, or in some intense way that you are vulnerable. I want to know does it make you feel feminine and beautiful?

I don't see how it could.

 

[aurora5150]

i don't thing it has anything to do with feeling feminine. that comment, to me anyway, implies that women in general feel more feminine if they are vulnerable. i actually think it would be the opposite depending on the woman. when i'm tied up i feel powerful. if i felt vulnerable in any way i wouldn't ever do it. imo generally women don't like feeling vulnerable. it evokes unpleasant feelings and i don't think it would lead to an enjoyable tickle session. please understand that this is just my personal thoughts and in no way am i saying all women feel this way. every woman is different and has her own opinion. this is just mine.

 

[tickles]

If I am with someone who I trust and care about....and vice versa...tied, blindfolded, nude, spread eagle, erotically charged, ticklish.....I am beautiful.....and vulnerable.....and trusting....and intimate.....so to answer your question as far as this female is concerned...ABSOLUTELY!

 

[aurora5150]

am i misunderstanding the question? 😕

cuz i've been known to do that.

 

[Loxxy Loxx]

am i misunderstanding the question? 😕

cuz i've been known to do that.

I think I must have misunderstood it as well.

 

[kis123]

I think tickles got it and I'm starting to catch on myself.

I'm mostly ler, but since my SO's (former and current) aren't as ticklish as me, I've been thrown to explore my lee side. It's a strange feeling since I had so many negative experiences with being tickled in my marriage.

Now that I had and have someone in my life that I can trust and won't hurt me I can give up control and get lost in the moment. It is a beautiful thing to be with someone that you can submit to and know they won't hurt you or use it against you as a weakness.

And when you're tickled to the point you're begging for release is just simply hott as hell to me! You know you're not getting cheated in the bedroom, if you know what I mean!!

 

[tickleteasing]

Let me explain the question a bit more. This is just my opinion and women can disagree but I am only saying this because this has been my experience with women I know. Depending on what generation you grew up in, sex is not something a woman is supposed to enjoy, or for that matter ask for because she enjoys it. Furthermore, the women I know at least have a natural resistance to what I call unconditional pleasure. Now let me explain why I feel this, and again I am NOT trying to be condescending its just something I have noticed. Lets say your a woman and a man sensually kisses the nape of your neck, well my opinion is the woman has a natural reaction to first think to herself ok I do not deserve this, so she might get butterflies in her stomach, then her immediate reaction might be "Ok what do I give him in return, what is expected of me".
I have known some women who feel like being a woman is something like an anvil your supposed to carry around. You can not enjoy the fact that your female. Now I think why some women find bondage liberating is this, if your restrained, nothing is expected because you can not give anything in return. All that is expected is your reaction, in a way all that the man is asking is you feel the pleasure. The only thing he requests is that you feel pleasure, not pain. Its unconditional, and I think the ropes kind of get over the resistence.
So what I am saying is I think when your tied up and tickled, your being told that someone wants you to feel unconditional pleasure, and enjoy being a woman with nothing being expected in return. A man simply wants to watch you be tickled to a nice orgasm not because he wants something in return but simply he thinks you look feminine and beautiful in pleasure.

 

[kis123]

Since I've never been restrained before, I'm not sure if I should be responding. My former SO is a big guy and could pin me and tickle wherever he wanted (and believe me he did).

But he had no expectations of me except I enjoy the pleasure of it all. It was pretty embarrassing at first because I felt I could be heard by the downstairs neighbors. The more I begged him to stop, the more relentless he was until I begged in frustration for "release." Then.....well....you can use your imagination from this point.

Afterwards, he'd just look at me (I must've had one helluva expression on my face). He was so satisfied to just be able to look and know I was "pleasured."

Tickleteasing, I don't think your last post was condescending but rather interesting. I'm not sure of your age-are you an older gentleman? Because you might find more mature women with some of the issues that you listed. The younger set are more educated in their womanhood IMO and find sex enjoyable because they were taught better. My mother never taught me anything about womanhood and sexuality so it left me with some of the feelings you described. So there is some truth to your statements but I see the times a-changing.

 

[Vae]

This may be a bit off-topic, but Teasing brings up a beautiful point. I have recently experienced something like this, and not just with tickling involved, but any kind of sexual contact.

In most of my sexual experiences, the man I was with gave me pleasure only because he expected something in return. In essense, "get her off, so she'll get me off." For a very long time, I thought that's what sex was. Sex became very unenjoyable for me; I would belittle myself when I would like certain things that weren't normal (read: tickling) and wouldn't like other normal things. I lived with this the absolute entirity of my four-and-a-half year relationship that I ended this past August.

In my current relationship, where I am with someone several years younger than me, things became sexual active fairly quickly. What boggled me is when I didn't like something, he wouldn't push me to keep going. My ex would constantly push me, tell me to keep trying, almost force himself on me. It felt like rape, in a way. So I would scream, push him off, ruin the moment and that would be that. My current? The moment things seem uncomfortable for me, he stops. The moment it seems like I want more, he keeps going. And in the end, he asks for nothing in return. As he put it, "I get pleasure from pleasuring you."

What Teasing brings up is an amazing thing that I think we forget in our sexual lives. He talks about pleasuring a woman, via tickling, making her feel safe in her vulnerability and pleasuring endlessly just because that's all he/she wants. That's absolutely beautiful and something I think everyone should strive for more often.

In response, I did have an experience similiar to this. My boyfriend is not into the fetish; he's the most ticklish male I've ever encountered and the sensation is too much for him to handle most times. I've told him about my fetish and he tickles me a lot when we're together (it's currently long distance -- we see each other every six weeks or so). Last time, he learned that me squirming or saying 'Stop!' is more just a reaction, not an actual desire. I was lying next to him, my arm trapped between us. My other arm was lying across him (we were cuddling at the time). Both of his arms were free and I don't remember how the moment started, but I realized one of his hands grabbed my bicep and clamped it down while he dug two fingers in my underarm. Then, as I began to squirm, he trapped my legs in between his knees and no matter how much I tugged or pulled, I couldn't move. So I could do nothing else but laugh hysterically. Even though I'd had plenty of tickling experience before, this one was closest to bondage; it made me more sensitive when I realized I was rather trapped. In my hysteria, I remember him saying with a chuckle, "You are absolutely delirious!" But I couldn't even form words to be respond.

When we were done, and I was covered with sweat, I didn't feel embarrassed. I made a comment on how weird I can be and he said that it was nothing. He asked if I enjoyed it and I said I did. He kissed me and teased me, saying how sweaty I'd become. I blushed then but he completely dismissed it. To him, what was important that I liked how it felt and I had fun. In the end, I felt gorgeous. I was completely vulnerable to him, but I never once felt uneasy because I trust him so greatly that I have nothing to fear.

Good idea, Teasing. One of the more unique posts for this section. 🙂

 

[tickleteasing]

I guess thats why I have never really gone to a gathering or saw tickling as fun. I like the idea that if forces a woman to feel pleasure but does it because she deserves it. Its like your telling her when she is tied up and naked and blindfolded. That I am going to make you experience pleasure, your going to experience it, hopefully I can tickle you to orgasm. Because YOU deserve it, your a woman, and for once your not a woman for someone else, your just taking time to enjoy the fact that your female by laughing and orgasming. Its not what you do to me its what I do for you when your restrained,

 

[aurora5150]

okay i think i got it now. it was that work vulnerable that was throwing me off. i took it as a negative. i really liked your clarification. and that i do agree with. i love being tied up and being dominated by someone i trust. but there are times that i want to return the favor.

 

[tickleteasing]

I guess what I am wondering about is why is it so hard for a woman to ask for something that makes her feel so good. I mean if a man loves you he is going to want to bring you orgasm. I know sex is not everything, and I am not saying it is. What I am saying is if a woman is sexually frustrated why is it hard for her to say being tickled will fullfill her needs.

 

[Bohemianne]

Listen to my spokesman

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^ That's what it says...

Anyway, it is never hard to ask a pleasure tickle favor from someone you're deeply involved with. I just don't know why you have a general notion that women can't. Maybe if the question goes complex like asking for a piece of liver or kidney...😉

 

[kis123]

I guess what I am wondering about is why is it so hard for a woman to ask for something that makes her feel so good. I mean if a man loves you he is going to want to bring you orgasm. I know sex is not everything, and I am not saying it is. What I am saying is if a woman is sexually frustrated why is it hard for her to say being tickled will fullfill her needs.

Let me give you my POV as an answer.

I was raised in an environment where having sex was considered being a bad thing. No one ever told me that sex was normal, natural, and is an expression of love for your partner. I had to learn that on my own, and it's only been in the last few years that I got the revelation.

The day before you posted your clarification, I had an illuminating conversation with my ex. He feels I don't like sex because of our relationship wasn't the most sexual in the world. I initially was offended by his comments, but he made me think. He was right to a certain degree; back then I saw sex as more of a duty than something that was pleasurable. I felt that enjoying sex was *****-ish; religious training will do that to you. I finally joined a church that preached that sex was an enjoyable thing (in marriage) but that was better than the previous stuff I was taught.

I recently began to celebrate my womanhood and my sexuality. I learned that through a relationship I had at one of the worst times of my life. He stepped in and we both learned how to love and be lovers. I had some of the best sex I ever had in my life and to have desire for sexual pleasure. He was also the first man that explored tickling with me so I was hooked on him in a major way. But we were not meant to be or to stay in that relationship; I was horribly hurt but very much changed if that makes any sense.

No one ever asked me what I wanted/needed in a sexual relationship and I really didn't know anyway back then. You better believe that I know now and I'll speak up in a minute!!!!

 

[tickleteasing]

Thanks for all your responses it makes me feel like I am doing something right. The thing about me is I am an obsessively verbal person, when in doubt I talk I say something. Because I love it when a woman gets red in the face but says something anyway. The thing is though I do not know many women who have been able to say to me I would love to be tickled by you, I have thought about it and fantasized about it. No matter how many times I tell them its ok, I love knowing that. There still scared. The thing is though I have found that women in there 20's are actually more nervous, Again I do not mean to be condescending I am just saying they seem scared of me. I guess thats why I prefer older women like women over 40, there is something very sexy and beautiful about women over that age. I started this thread because its really how I see tickling. Its interesting even though we all like tickling we all like it for different reasons. There seems to be a lot of threads like, where are you ticklish or who would you most want to tickle but there is not many this is how I see it. I think for someone to find there perfect ler or lee they need to be able to state how they see erotic tickling.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Tickling and bondage definitely is erotic, sensual!!!

Tickleteasing,
I agree with you I definitely think that tickling can be very sweet, very sensual, very fun and very erotic and very exhilirating! I also think depending on things; tickling can be very sensual and romantic and erotic given being w the right person or persons and the right circumstances and right setting to be honest. Yes, I do agree that there are lots of women that do have a instinctual natural emotional and yes even bit of a social resistance when it comes to sex and enjoying sex and when it comes to enjoying sensual and erotic encounters-where they are receiving and not the givers-but the ones receiving the pleasure and the tickling-other partner is giving and pleasing and pleasuring them.

That tends to be very true, yes I am sure that there are indeed like you said some exceptions to the rule-but also
I have noticed this to be very true too.

Yes, this holds very true if you are a woman who grew up in a very traditional and very emotionally and socially and also a very spiritual/reglious conventional family background. Least I have noticed this too also. I can speak on this because when I was younger I grew up with a Roman Catholic background. For the longest time my mother and the rest of my mom' s family have tried to tell me what to feel and what to do and how my life should be. And on what I should say and what I should not say or do with my life. Example: no offense and nothing personal -I am not against those waiting to wait till marriage for sex.

I used to a long time wish to wait till marriage but sadly certain situations and certain experiences in my life proved too rough and too difficult for me to be able to do this. Yet I do commend and give a lot of credit to those that can wait.

Yet sadly I have to agree with tickleteasing: today in our society you are looked very down on if you are a woman and you tend to go against tradition and society's expectations and society's conventional views. And if you happen to be a woman who has grew up in a conventional religious social background it is even worse for you it can be. Sadly it seems that society seems alright and happy
if men enjoy sex and if they wish to fulfill their sexual fantasies and wish to fulfill their certain sexual needs.

Yet most times sadly if a woman tries to do the same thing: she tends to be told if she has grown up in a conventional family background that is religious-that wishing to enjoy a healthy sex life outside marriage is wrong and sinful and bad and a terrible thing to do-made out to be a crime-something she should feel very bad about. That is not for family, friends or society to say I think...sorry not trying to get into a controversial topic forgive me-I am getting to my point. That is between the two persons or persons involved and God. It is a personal choice and it should be about the personal relationship between the person or persons involved, between them and God, not everyone else.

I agree with you tickleteasing: being a woman should not and never should be a emotional burden or a great anvil on a woman's shoulders. And it is a shame that sadly lots of women are feeling this horrible terrible weight of trying to say and to be what society would wish them to be.
A woman definitely should be able to feel happy and to feel liberated emotionally and sexually to say and do what they wish. This also should entail that a woman should and needs to feel that she can be confident as a woman and that she should be able to express in word or action her confidence in her sex appeal-she needs to feel happy and sexy and confident in her feminity, not feel it be a burden or something she has to hide from society.

There is nothing wrong with a woman feeling feminine and feeling confident in herself as a person and feeling confident in herself as a sexual being. That is truly a great gift that many women never get to enjoy and never get to have in their lifetimes. And that is truly a shame. For if it alright and great for men to be able to be liberated to enjoy having a great sex life-it needs to be great also for a woman to be able to have a great sex life.

Both sexes should be able to feel confident and should be encouraged to show with either verbally expressing it or in action-how confident they feel in themselves as being someone's lover. That is a terrific wonderful thing, not a thing of shame and nothing anyone should feel terrible about. Least that is my thought on this.

Yeah, I agree as long as the woman if she is the lee-long as she is totally emotionally and totally comfortable with being playfully yet firmly bound and restrained and totally comfortable with her ler or lers-totally comfortable with her setting and comfortable and her safe words and her limits and boundaries and personal wishes are immediately respected and honored. Then I feel and think that a woman being playful bound and restrained-is a great wonderful thing-great new adventure in store.

As long both or if there are other persons involved are on the same page and going to honor each other's wishes. Then I think bondage is a sweet sexy hot pleasurable activity and that it will bring the two closer-if they have indeed already a great emotional bond/friendship or romanticly wise.

When a woman is restrained and bound, playfully in bondage and when this is done in a gentle, loving, and respectful and honorable way-respecting and honoring the lee (woman's) wishes then I believe this can become a very positive and a very pleasurable rewarding adventure and a very exciting yet pleasurable/rewarding tickle/bondage experience. When the woman who is gently restrained this way-laying on the bed whether she be naked spreadeagled or that or partly covered in clothes or in a really neat tickle outfit, or that or in a sexy negligee-or her wearing whatever makes her feel sexy and comfortable.....then this indeed can be a very erotic and sensual tickle encounter for her-bound to make her come back and beg for more I would say...all depends on how she is treated.

Depends if she is treated like a queen and pampered and feels treasured and loved, cherished. If care and love is not taken-then it being a pleasurable great time will be a disaster.

Oh but when a woman feels she is indeed greatly heard, cared for, nurtured, emotionally validated and emot pampered, treasured, and loved, especially feels she is greatly desired-that is when there will be great dynamic tickle/erotic sensual fireworks when there is tickle play and she is playfully bound and restrained, she will love every minute and never be able to get enough!! That is what
makes a woman who is a lee that is playful yet lovingly and tenderly restrained and playfully yet tenderly tickled -that is what makes the female lees beg for more!!

It is true when a woman is bound and restrained in this gentle yet loving direct way-meant and designed for her pleasure-so that she can just relax and enjoy herself and let loose and free her mind and let go of her body and just enjoy all the tickles and all the pleasure heaped on her....allows her to be a woman and to forget the social restrictions that society places on a woman to be what they wish her to be-she temporarily forgets the rigid social rules that society places on her: to be a friend, a mother, sister, mentor and other roles that society seeks them to fill.

Instead she can just bask and savor-take in the love and the wonderful feeling-of being unconditionally accepted and being unconditionally loved and cherished and greatly wanted and greatly desired as just being a woman-being a sexual creature that he finds beauty in seeing her in pleasure. That is an awesome rush like no other.

A great turn on in itself knowing your partner loves you so much-wish to please you and satisfy you-intensifies their pleasure knowing you are happy and feeling pleasure and ecstacy-feeling very cherished and very desired and very loved.

So I totally get what you are saying tickleteasing-totally absolutely have to agree with you on this wholeheartedly!!😉 While it is fun and wonderful to receive it is also half the fun and great to give back. It is great to give back affection and tickles and pleasure to the one that made you soar and made your heart thump and your body tingle and burn and feel wonderful and feel ectasy. There is something to be said about giving back love and affection and pleasure to one that gave it to you-quite a turn on and quite a wonderful sweet joy and pleasure when you get to do this. Just my thought on it.

ticklebunny 2

 

[ticklishscribe]

To add my two cents worth in here, I see a couple of things.

First as you say, "being blindfolded, naked and tied spreadeagle, or in some intense way that you are vulnerable" is a vulnerable position to begin with. But what is the type of women who has been tied. And who has done the tying, a man or another woman.

Does it not depend on whether the tied women is into F/F, multiple F/F, M/F or multiple M/F? Would depending on the woman's preference, say if she was into M/F etc, would a woman or women tying her down in that position, not change the situation?

And would not the relationship between the lee and the ler(s) change the situation at all? Depending on how long they've known each other and again if it's a man/men or woman/women who is/are the ler(s). Lets not forget what they are going to do the lee, and what they have done to the lee in the past if they have tickled her before.

Just some thoughts.​

While being blindfolded, naked and tied spreadeagle, or in some intense way that you are vulnerable. I want to know does it make you feel feminine and beautiful? I wish I could find a woman who feels that way in regards to being tickled, its almost like she sees being tickled to orgasm as sort of a way for her to just enjoy being a woman. I get very very lonely a lot so I just wanted to ask this. I guess another reason I am asking this is I am a 35 year old man who wants to meet an older woman who sees tickling this way. I fantasize about meeting a woman like this.

 

[Capnmad]

While being blindfolded, naked and tied spreadeagle, or in some intense way that you are vulnerable. I want to know does it make you feel feminine and beautiful?

Damn. If I had her tied up like that, and I was playing with her, and she doesn't feel wanted and feminine and beautiful, I'd be remiss in my duties as a 'ler.



...and that ain't happenin'.

 

[Ophelia45]

Older woman for you.

Dear Tickleteasing.

I am new here and have just read your post regarding needing an older woman to tickle. I can't think of anything that would make me feel more feminine and special. Only problem though is distance. I'm in South Africa.
Feel free though to chat with me on MSN. I have cam if you do. My adress is [email protected]
I'm looking foreward to hearing from you.
Love Liz.

 

[Ophelia45]

Dear Tickleteasing.

I am new here and have just read your post regarding needing an older woman to tickle. I can't think of anything that would make me feel more feminine and special. Only problem though is distance. I'm in South Africa.
Feel free though to chat with me on MSN. I have cam if you do. My adress is [email protected]
I'm looking foreward to hearing from you.
Love Liz