"I'm too ticklish" - bullshit or not?

[cabalist]

I don't think the tolerance of pain has squat to do with it. Just because women give birth by no means that have a high pain tolerance. Ask many women who have given birth -- they'll love to tell you how freakin' awful it was. Myself, I have no pain tolerance. I cry at paper cuts, but can be relentlessly tickled. I think it all has to deal with the individual and how they interpret tickling.

Also, as far the M/F orientation, I believe that has entirely to do with gender roles. Men in control, women as submissive. As much as I'm a femininist and say, yea, tickle the dudes, I still have issues with F/M scenes or M/M. I enjoy the dominant male; it's attractive to me. I also enjoy the dominant female, which is why I like F/F scenes. But to have a man switched into such a vulnerable position, my mind reels against it. Maybe yours doesn't; that's great. But ultimately, those ancient gender roles are still very much alive in our sexual preferences even now.

I have little doubt that it varies with the individual regardless of gender, as do most other tendencies to various characteristics which might vary as between the sexes. Although you might say my above observation was semi-tongue-in-cheek, short of actual scientific research into the question, which I'm not sure how easy it would be to find a method of doing, one might only speculate.

But while I have little doubt that the suggestion might raise some self-proclaimed feminists' ire, I personally consider it quite the "norm" for the male to play the dominant role. And I say that as probably one of the least "macho" males I've ever known, even though generally inclined toward a "dominant" role (although I once scored a "perfect balance" on an "androgyny" personality test).

Of course, because it is the "norm" (and "feels" "normal" to myself as well), doesn't mean that those with different "orientations" are "wrong" -- just perhaps more "out of the mainstream" and in the minority for certain "natural" reasons -- just as I don't consider, say, homosexuality "wrong", just because I don't "go that way", although of course, likewise, there are also "natural" reasons why heterosexuality is more "the norm."

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I can't really judge other people's ticklishness, but as far as my own body, the answer is no. There are spots/techniques that I'll sometimes blurt out that it tickles "too much" but really that just translates to it tickles alot, and it's not necessarily a bad thing.

I've never experienced being tickled or having something tickle "too much."

 

[cabalist]

I can't really judge other people's ticklishness, but as far as my own body, the answer is no. There are spots/techniques that I'll sometimes blurt out that it tickles "too much" but really that just translates to it tickles alot, and it's not necessarily a bad thing.

I've never experienced being tickled or having something tickle "too much."

Which might seem to verify my above hypothesis. That is, if one case had statistical significance. Which, of course, it doesn't. Which, of course, isn't meant to diminish your "significance". But, after all, who wants to be a statistic. 😀

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Which might seem to verify my above hypothesis. That is, if one case had statistical significance. Which, if course, it doesn't. Which, of course, isn't meant to diminish your "significance". But, after all, who wants to be a statistic. 😀

😉 werwe

 

[cabalist]

I don't think the tolerance of pain has squat to do with it. Just because women give birth by no means that have a high pain tolerance. Ask many women who have given birth -- they'll love to tell you how freakin' awful it was.

I forgot to say, I think you more or less made my point here. Of course, I never meant to suggest that childbirth wasn't painful. In fact, that was exactly my point. So if it's that painful for women, just try to imagine how painful it would be for men. 😉

But I'm being somewhat facetious. Actually, I'm not sure how one could easily measure "tolerance" to pain -- or tickling. But it was a theory, which seems to make at least some sense. That is, as I said above, that a (extremely) low "tolerance" for it might make one more prone to avoiding it -- and hence possibly more "suitable" to being a ler than a lee. This could be the case apart from, or in addition to, any "natural" tendency to male dominance.

Of course, being a "wimp" to pain (or tickling) isn't in accord with what some people might prefer to think of as a "male trait". But that doesn't necessarily prove that it couldn't be so. That is, because males tend to be physically stronger doesn't preclude the possibility that they could, on average, have a lower pain threshold. Nor does the fact that they may be less prone to outwardly showing a reaction to pain, for the same reason that they may be less likely to cry, thanks to male "conditioning".

 

[lovestotickle10]

...her boyfriend is "not allowed" to tickle her because she is "too ticklish."

Viper it seems as if you tore this page right out of my own life. My girlfriend is SOOOO ticklish and it absolutely kills me that she hates being tickled. I mean I can tickle her upperbody and stomach because she's not too ticklish there but when I move toward her feet she straight threatens me. It's quite sad really.

 

[tkltease]

if someone says there to ticklish it may just have been they had a bad experience with tickling and maybe a good and respectful tickler can help her to enjoy it .

 

[ViperGTS]

Viper it seems as if you tore this page right out of my own life. My girlfriend is SOOOO ticklish and it absolutely kills me that she hates being tickled. I mean I can tickle her upperbody and stomach because she's not too ticklish there but when I move toward her feet she straight threatens me. It's quite sad really.

If tickling is a major, undeinable, unignorable part of your life, then I suggest (and almost the entire TMF will back me up here) that you have a discussion with your lady. You need to explain to her that you have a tickling fetish, and she should be able to accept that. No matter how ticklish she "thinks" she is, the two of you should be able to come up with a way so that you are able to indulge your fetish and share it with her (and hopefully show her why you find it so enjoyable), while she still retains an aspect of control so that you both find a happy medium.

Anyone who is in a relationship where one person refuses to let their significant other's interests be shared to some extent is a relationship that is unfair and unbalanced. I have got to be honest with you my friend - if she refuses to even try to see why you enjoy it, it might be time for you to start thinking about losing the girl. If she's that close minded and uptight about tickling, who knows what SERIOUS things she will fight you about later in your relationship.

If she is interested though, don't be afraid to show her the TMF. 😉

 

[Phineas]

There is such a thing as too ticklish. My ex-sister-in-law was a textbook case.

She told me that when she was younger, she'd jump anytime a friend put a hand on her knee. Having personally tickled her, I knew that in most cases it was an uncomfortable, painful, possibly even traumatic experience for her - she'd yelp, scream, and make all manner of angry noises which, I have no doubt, would end up in hysterically crying if it lasted more than five seconds.

Of course, she eventually did trust me to the point where the occasional tickle got a laugh out of her, and she did let me rub her feet once (which, for her, was a *major* trust thing) - but there's no way she would have made a good 'lee for anyone. I'm pretty convinced it would have given her a nervous breakdown.

 

[BellaRisa]

If tickling is a major, undeinable, unignorable part of your life, then I suggest (and almost the entire TMF will back me up here) that you have a discussion with your lady. You need to explain to her that you have a tickling fetish, and she should be able to accept that. No matter how ticklish she "thinks" she is, the two of you should be able to come up with a way so that you are able to indulge your fetish and share it with her (and hopefully show her why you find it so enjoyable), while she still retains an aspect of control so that you both find a happy medium.

Anyone who is in a relationship where one person refuses to let their significant other's interests be shared to some extent is a relationship that is unfair and unbalanced. I have got to be honest with you my friend - if she refuses to even try to see why you enjoy it, it might be time for you to start thinking about losing the girl. If she's that close minded and uptight about tickling, who knows what SERIOUS things she will fight you about later in your relationship.

If she is interested though, don't be afraid to show her the TMF. 😉

It seems to me as though they *do* have a happy medium. She gets her upper body tickled and he doesn't get dead. Being in a relationship does indeed mean compromise, but it doesn't mean subjecting yourself to something you despise just to satisfy your partner's kinks-that leads to resentment and you sooo don't need that in a relationship . Sticking up for yourself doesn't make you closed-minded, provided you're willing to do what you can do to keep you both happy 🙂

 

[natural tickler]

It seems to me as though they *do* have a happy medium. She gets her upper body tickled and he doesn't get dead. Being in a relationship does indeed mean compromise, but it doesn't mean subjecting yourself to something you despise just to satisfy your partner's kinks-that leads to resentment and you sooo don't need that in a relationship . Sticking up for yourself doesn't make you closed-minded, provided you're willing to do what you can do to keep you both happy 🙂

that's why I wuv yoo....you're so smart...


I think that's the key...a happy medium...somthing is better than nothing...she is compromising, to an extent

 

[ElephantEye]

I've known a couple girls who would rip their arms and legs out of their sockets and burst their throats screaming were they tied down and even barely tickled. They would/could not submit to it for any amount of money, and would likely kill to avoid it. Even wiggling fingers at them or saying "tickle" would make them glare with rage.

Then again, my buddy had an old GF who was off-the-charts ticklish everywhere (a light tap on her knee made her jerk wildly and shriek like a banshee) and was constantly tickled by her older brother as a child, yet she loved to be tied up & lightly tickled, so there you go.

 

[trace1984]

ticklishness

iv tickled this girl and her armpitts she doesnt laugh just spazzes out,, which is funny but she hates that spot touched and i like watching and hearing her laugh and fight etc,, so yes i think there is such a thing as to sensitive..idk if thats even called tickling,or a ticklish spot , more like a nerve ending lol

 

[Raytheon]

I think 'im too ticklish' is really sad (in a 🙁 way). girls and friends who've said that to me in the past have gone on to say, when i talk to them about it, that they have had bad experiances with tickling and built a negative view to it. Its kinda cool we have a heart to heart about it and end up having a 'soft' tickle fight where i end up loosing and they like it a little more than before. I shared a house whith someone who was like this a while back and she went from being a 'touch me and die' to a ruthless tickle tease which was fun!

In a tickle fight tho with someone i think its a matter of respect to the other player if they ask not to be tickled in an 'overly ticklish' place, normaly the feet to avoid tickling them there

 

[huskys]

I've only ever came across one girl who has said that they are "too ticklish", and hated it.
Everyone else I know (and yes there has been some hyper ticklish ones) lol, have admitted to extreme ticklishness if they have it, but have avoided the "too ticklish" part.
I agree with Harbish in that if someone doesn't like to be tickled they don't like it fullstop. It has nothing to do with how ticklish they are.
Whether it be a control thing (as it is with my first mentioned person), or because they have had a bad experience, or just something that the person doesn't find enjoyable, I have to go with the idea that "too ticklish" is just way of saying "back off, not interested".
Which, of course, would be the sensible thing to do!!!

 

[bumblebee]

in my opinion it's possible to be 'too ticklish'. for me those are not the spots you burst with laughter immediately when they are touched, but the spots you really can't stand being tickled at. for me, for example, it's my underarms (strange spot, i know). i don't have to laugh when i'm touched there, it has nothing erotic at all, i just want it to stop. it's so intense it almost hurts and i'm willing to kill if the person doesn't stop. that's what i call too ticklish.

 

[paracarl44]

I started a thread:

It was called: Extremely Ticklish, Moderately Ticklish, Non Ticklish. There are some people who cannot stand to be tickled whatsoever.

Go to: http://www.ticklingforum/showthread.php?t=121935 for a review.

 

[Adam]

In most cases, I find this claim to be overexaggerated or for people who just don't like to be tickled. Not wanting to be tickled is fine, but for the majority of people, I don't tend to believe it myself.

Pretty much how I view it. Good answer.

 

[chicago]

If someone on this website makes that claim, it is most definitely bullshit.

Outside of the TMF, if someone says it, it's probably because the sensations are so intense they cause the person to cry or feel pain or something like that. So basically, still bullshit. lol

 

[rhiannon]

@Bella & Vae: I love everything you said in this thread. 🙂

if someone says there to ticklish it may just have been they had a bad experience with tickling and maybe a good and respectful tickler can help her to enjoy it .

Bella already said something about sentences like this, but I want to say something too!! Some people seem to think they are so great that they can make people like everything! I say: that is BS! If I don't like spinach, I don't like it, and I don't care who cooks it!

Some people maybe don't like to be tickled BECAUSE they are "too ticklish".

Anyone who is in a relationship where one person refuses to let their significant other's interests be shared to some extent is a relationship that is unfair and unbalanced. I have got to be honest with you my friend - if she refuses to even try to see why you enjoy it, it might be time for you to start thinking about losing the girl. If she's that close minded and uptight about tickling, who knows what SERIOUS things she will fight you about later in your relationship.

Viper, you either didn't read what lovestotickle10 wrote, or you are a pretty respectless person!

Plus....I don't know if you ever have been in love, but there is more to a relationship than sex and fetishes!

 

[dad1]

If somebody says they are too ticklish I take their word for it. For me it's thrilling and at times very erotic but most people I know in the real world can't stand it.
XO

 

[ViperGTS]

Lol, excuse me?

Ok, first of all, let me say this - Bella, a close friend of mine, specified ona lovestotickle10's point. I did, in fact, misread lovestotickle10's post, and was under the impression that his lady did not allow him to tickle her under the false pretense that she is "too ticklish." I misunderstood, and Bella corrected my mistake in assumption by clarifying that they have a happy middle ground, in which he tickles her upper body but respects her wishes by not tickling her feet much, if at all. After reading Bella's comment, I understood lovestotickle10's point better, but I did not post again to say so.

Secondly, I would very much appreciate it if you, being someone whom I do not know and whom does not know me, refrained from making assumptions that slander my character and personality. I don't call you disrespectful, despite comments such as yours, so you can do me the same courtesy. Thanks.

Viper, you either didn't read what lovestotickle10 wrote, or you are a pretty respectless person!

Plus....I don't know if you ever have been in love, but there is more to a relationship than sex and fetishes!

 

[rhiannon]

Won't happen again, I apologize if I offended you. Might have had a

It sounded very harsh what you wrote, especially since you misread what was actually said.

 

[ViperGTS]

Quite allright, now we're squared away so no worries.

 

[BellaRisa]

This is an apology?

Won't happen again, I apologize if I offended you. Might have had a

It sounded very harsh what you wrote, especially since you misread what was actually said.

Have you always been like this, or did something happen to you?