"I'm too ticklish" - bullshit or not?

[rhiannon]

Didn't get tickled for a while, that might be it.

 

[solescratcher99]

When someone says they're "too ticklish" it simply means they don't personally feel comfortable with the intensity tickling brings. It can be all over or just in specific spots but usually "too ticklish" just tells you that they have trouble letting go of that much 'control'. Which is strange sense being willing to let go of control is actually being in control. This might also explain why when they're willing to let go of control they end up not being that ticklish or its not as bad as they thought it would be.

In other words, yes, they're exaggerating. But that doesn't mean its "bullshit". Why? They're not telling you about their ticklishness per se, but rather the subjective meaning they've given to being tickled. The mind does exaggerate and blow things out of proportion like this but that doesn't mean they're necessarily being dishonest. Think of someone who has panic attacks, for example. They feel like they're going insane or going to drop dead right on the spot but the reality is that's absolutely untrue. Likewise, while being "too ticklish" is not actually true, it maybe subjectively interpreted as being true depending on the individuals criteria for "too ticklish".

 

[Miss Serendipity]

Good question and one that I don't think there is a right or wrong answer too. I think each individual defines that for themselves!

I admittedly have said I am too ticklish more than once but I love being tickled! Granted at the times I used the phrase, I had never been to a gathering nor did I truly immersed myself into everything this common interest of ours involves. I believe I used that phrase because I was afraid. Afraid that who ever wanted to tickle me was going to take advantage of me or I was going to be hurt in some way. I also didn't understand how bondage worked, it scared me and at that time I was extremely uncomfortable with just the idea.

Now that I've experienced tickling with bondage, there is less stigma to it. I'm still growing in this area but I'm no longer uncomfortable with it as long as their is trust, which should be a given when it comes to bondage. This is just my opinion.

 

[tommee]

You cant be too ticklish, being VERY ticklish just requires less effort and alot more empathy from the ler. if the person is ticklish and doesnt like it than it matters not how ticklish they are...they will never enjoy it. So really her boyfriend cant tickle her because she doesnt like it... not because shes "too ticklish" ..aww, people say the silliest things sometimes 🙂

Well said.

 

[Powah]

For me it can exist because there is a point where the good feeling you get from tickling falls away and it just becomes torture. Now unless you are into that the total lost of pleasure is not always a good thing.

 

[Mind Feather]

I believe that it can differ from person to person. If a person is deathly ticklish and would not like to be tickled in a certain spot, it IS their body so it is their decision. Others, however, enjoy the tickling and gladly welcome it.
(P.S. When I was young I believed in being tickled to death.)

 

[hisdarkangel]

"Too ticklish" is a relative phrase. Some may find they don't like being tickled past a point, or that they are extremely over-sensitive and dislike the feeling, hence they refer to it as "too ticklish". Some are "too ticklish" in certain parts of their body, so even though they may like it most other places, there may be one or two that they can't handle or might even be painful to be tickled there, so they may say they're "too ticklish" in those spots.

In short, I think it's possible, just depends on each persons individual sensations and like thereof.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Have you always been like this, or did something happen to you?

And this is why I love Bella

Oh, to stay on topic, I think "too ticklish" here and "too ticklish" out in the vanilla world mean two entirely different things. Too ticklish here likely is BS and/or a hint that you've hit a good spot. 😉 Otherwise, who can say for sure. Some people may have had shitty lers who dug in too hard, some may have been tortured by siblings as kids and learned to hate it, some may sincerely just dislike the sensation entirely. You can't really say "it's this." Like so many things, it's different for everyone.

 

[solescratcher99]

For me it can exist because there is a point where the good feeling you get from tickling falls away and it just becomes torture.

I think what you're talking about is pain... not tickling. After all, we're not 'sado masochists' or anything like that. (Not that there's anything wrong with sado masochism, but I am saying there is a BIG difference!)

Tickling isn't about "torture", its about making someone completely animated beyond their usual hum drum way of being. As a 'ler, nothing makes me more pleased than to know I can influence the most joyful responses out of another despite their conscious objection to joyfulness. Unlike sadism, which derives enjoyment out of seeing a total loss of control through the painful responses it forces upon the other, tickling derives pleasure in allowing the loss of control to bring forced joyfulness in the other. Sometimes this is overbearing and extreme but it shouldn't be confused with "pain".