Innocent conversation

[romedy06]

I've been at this job for about a year,a lot a women work there.mostly friendly.On monday I was helping two women after I asked if they needed anything else and one of them said a foot massage. When I said sure she said her feet were too ticklish for that.Those 7 words have been ringing in my ears since.That fact that I have a small crush on her doesn't hurt either.Love those 7 words....

 

[TheTickleMonster]

lol, yeah, hearing someone you're crushin on is ticklish, does kinda make u like her more 😛 or get your attention or whatever lol..

you were so close to getting to touch her.. i mean she said she needed one lol..

 

[Babyshambles]

i dont know.

i try not to believe in coincidences.

maybe she picked up on your desire to tickle in some way (have you ever came on here at work, your IT department would have discovered that in a heartbeat) or maybe you were seen staring at her feet.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

okay since you don't believe in coincidences, maybe it's fate 😛

i think that she could have been joking about wanting a foot massage and didn't expect him to say sure, and then she said no because her feet are too ticklish.. i think that might be what happened if u don't like coincidences 😛

 

[Adam]

Always important to be careful on the job. I don't blame those words for ringing in your ears, though. They'd be doing the same thing in mine.

 

[milagros317]

She didn't take your offer even though she had asked for a foot massage, so she never expected you to say yes. Too bad.

But it must have been wonderful to hear, "My feet are too ticklish for that."

 

[Em Es]

Think of yourself as a vampire

As I understand, according to vampire lore a vampire won't attack unless you first invite him into your home. romedy06, is this female colleague available? If so, keep you cards to your chest but of course remain friendly though not too forward. Because if she would like to get to know you, this woman will send more signals.

Think of yourself as that vampire. Once she lets you in, you make your move.

 

[rhiannon]

I think her declining is a signal that she doesn't want an approach like that.

 

[Em Es]

Rhiannon

Well, his offer was in reply to her stated desire for a footrub.

Let's see what happens.

 

[ViperGTS]

Do not mix pleasure with work.

You'll get fired.

 

[rhiannon]

Well, his offer was in reply to her stated desire for a footrub.

Let's see what happens.

Well yes....and she declined the offer. 🙂
That means she wants a footrub, but not from him! Not such a good sign!

And I agree, stuff like that at the workplace can be really dangerous.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Do not mix pleasure with work.

You'll get fired.

it's always a risk...

but you don't always get fired i think.. as long as one of you isn't a manager, or some other person higher rank than the other. and you keep it professional in the work place..

 

[mabus]

If you actually like her, in that "I could eventually marry this girl and live with her as my wife for 58 gloriously happy years until we both die of old age..." then I say Fuck it, ask her out!

You were just two co-workers joking with each other. I doubt they'd fire you over something as insignificant as that. If they would, fight them. As long as you're not crawling around the office on all fours, grabbing at the women's feet and licking them while they work (I'D fire someone for that!) or creepily staring at their feet while they are on break.

I guess I'm getting fed up with this tight-ass terrified political correctness that has enslaved the American population. We in this country need to grow the hell up and act like adults. Sexual harassment rules and laws made perfect sense when it was to defend women from having to fuck their butt-ugly boss to get any kind of raise or promotion, or coffee break. But when it got to the "you can't even tell your workers their brand new outfits or hair do's look nice," it got absurd. I've decided to say "Fuck it!" and be the person I am, and I have yet to run into trouble. I deal with janitors to average workers to high ups, to very high ups. They all like me. I'll use sex humor around the president's secretary, and she laughs and loves it. I'll talk about pretty girls to the big wigs I'm cool with, ....and usually they agree! You kind of scope it out first, and I'm not some raving pervert, so they all know who I am and are cool with it. I think because I'm someone who isn't fake at all, but am actually genuinely nice to them. I think they subconsiously know that if they were ever down and out, I'd still be as nice to them as I am now since I'm so rough around the edges, and they know I'm not brown nosing.

Millions upon millions of people have met their significant others at the workplace. They can't stop people from hooking up at work, and I'm sure you win that lawsuit if all you did was ask a co-worker out, or make some minor reference to giving a foot massage to a worker with hurting feet. Jesus. The people who get folks in trouble for that stuff are the bitchy, anal workers anyway, so just make sure she's not one of those. (Kind of like, there are cops, then asshole cops. If you drive under a yellow light, and it turns red when your bumper is still in the intersection, a normal cop could care less, but an asshole cop will pull you over and give you a ticket. And actually, my normal cop friends all hate asshole cops!)

 

[Em Es]

Right on, Mabus

Mabus, you said, "The people who get folks in trouble for that stuff are the bitchy, anal workers anyway . . . ".

Woman who have been through sexual harassment know it's hell on Earth. But your words are also true, as anyone who's ever known a troublemaker can tell you. If they have nothing factual to report, these lunatic drama queens will just exaggerate or fabricate in order to cause a commotion.

If you feel you hit it off with a colleague and suggest getting together only to have her tell you, "No," that is not sexual harassment or any form of intimidation. But should you persist in asking her for dates or try to make her feel uncomfortable because she turned you down, then you are harassing the woman.

Of course, women do the choosing. If this woman likes Romedy06 and he plays his cards right, she will make the connection happen. Judging from his post, her signals are at best mixed, so he should keep it polite but keep moving.

 

[rhiannon]

The problem here is if the person you are trying to hook up with appreciates the approach or not. You don't know that beforehand.

If he/she doesn't approach it, it could get you in a lot of trouble.

And I personally believe you should 'never fuck the company'. If you hook up and it doesn't work out, THEN it gets really nasty.

 

[dad1]

I agree with Mabus and Em Es. It's silly to suggest that asking out a co-worker will get you fired. Sexual harassment laws are not that invasive. I know one or two guys at my work that are very paranoid about mixing pleasure with work. But that's because they've gotten strict warnings by HR for being too forward and not taking no for an answer.

If you're one of these overly domineering macho guys then definitely don't mix pleasure with work. If you're respectful and don't take yourself too seriously, you should have no trouble. 🙂
XO

 

[romedy06]

I'm just taking it as it is, a casual response.We chat when we see each other but nothing but that's all.This was just big bonus.

 

[solescratcher99]