Is It Always "Erotic"?

[Iwon'tgrowup]

Years ago, a major mainstream radio station in my town spent the afternoon on "erotic tickling". The host and hostess were mystified and a couple of times tried to tickle each other on the air (yawn). The topic had obviously been thrust upon them and they weren't into it. (They were fired soon after).

But people did call! Several callers (subtly) explained tickling as foreplay, some said tickling is always serious business, and one mom said she'd left her husband because he constantly tickled her daughters (his stepdaughters). "I knew it wasn't just innocent fun," she said.

Is it ever? As a newcomer to the TMF, tickling has never been "innocent" with me. Sometimes I've made it appear so. Is it fun? Certainly! But always within an erotic context, and by coming aboard here, I am surrendering (finally). I cannot see tickling in any way other than sexual.

I am highly interested to know what you folks think. As in "The Christmas Song," this question has probably been asked "many times, many ways." Do you ever enjoy tickling as simple, innocent, non-arousing fun? Or is it always erotic? Thanks for helping.

 

[steph]

For me it can be just innocent fun.
Or it can be foreplay.
XOXO

 

[Cosmo_ac]

In a nutshell, yes, tickling can be innocent fun. I'm sure you'll find more then a few people who have tickled people for other then erotic purposes. Can it be erotic? Yes. IS it always erotic? No. Tickling is many things to many people. I find that one of the hardest things for a lot of people here, is that because they themselves view tickling as almost completely sexual, they have trouble accepting that for others things are not exactly the same.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

Personally I find it "Extremely Playful" I've never meant it to be exotic or meant to be arrousing. Every girl I have ever tickled she has tickled me back in a playful manner. If others find it exoctic and arrousing its how they see it 😎

 

[KoocheeKoo]

I am highly interested to know what you folks think. As in "The Christmas Song," this question has probably been asked "many times, many ways." Do you ever enjoy tickling as simple, innocent, non-arousing fun? Or is it always erotic? Thanks for helping.

Tickling is whatever you make it; what your mindset is while tickling/ being tickled by someone.

For example, when my girlfriend and I tickle each other, it's usually quite erotic as it turns both of us on. On the other hand, when I tickle my young nieces and nephews, it's as innocent as when I was a young child and my aunts and mom tickled me (as far from erotic or kinky as it can get). When I tickled my younger sister (as we were growing up), it was typical sibling rivalry; usually my way of "getting even" after she'd hit me, or tattled to dad (i.e.- getting me grounded)....when I tickled her female friends or my female friends in those days, it was simply playfully teasing (sometimes just to hear her squeal and giggle).

Tickling can be as erotic and perverted as it perverted can be......or as precious and innocent as a young mother tickling her tiny baby.

 

[Mephistopheles]

It depends very much on the tickler, you commit the act with a certain idea in your head. In my case that's just pure lust; I don't tickle persons whom I'm not attracted to.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Tickling can be anything you want it to be.
Sensual, sexual, erotic, exotic, fun, wicked, sinister, playful, torturous....

 

[Haltickling]

If there's "erotic tension" between the involved people, it's just as erotic (if not even more so) as any other touch. If the erotic tension isn't there, the tickling is playful, innocent, or plain annoying, just like any other touch, depending on the relationship between ler and lee. People tend to be more ticklish if they like the tickler, and much less ticklish if there's antipathy between them. That's what my personal experience taught me.

 

[Mitchell]

I think it really depends on the lee and ler involved, and the attitude or intent of the people doing the tickling.
CAN it be erotic? Sure, most certainly, and often times it is, especially with couples who enjoy tickling, or even people without a tickling fetish, as a prelude to other foreplay, or sex. Is it always erotic? No, I certainly dont think so. What about brothers, sisters, and platonic friends, who tickle each other? In such cases, tickling can be playful, or even punishing, like an older sibling tickling a younger one. It really depends on the situation.
I think even people with a tickle fetish like the ones on this board would agree that tickling can be both erotic and playful, sexual, and non sexual. It depends greatly on the participants, their ages, relationships to each other, and such. Even in romantic relationships, while the tickling can be erotic at some times, it can also be playful.
So, to summize, in my view, I think tickling can be both erotic and playful, and can be different things at different times, and doesnt always have to be one defined thing, or with one defined intent.

Mitch

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

For me personally, it's primarily a fun thing...even with my hubby at times. We can definately get intimate with tickling. But, we enjoy it primarily as a fun and totally non-sexual thing that we can enjoy with anyone who's open to it and views it the same way.

Hell, I wouldn't go to any gathering if it was nothing but sexual. I'm not one to share sexual activity with anyone else. But, there are plenty who simply can't seperate the two. There's nothing wrong with that. But, I'm sure it makes things more difficult for them...both in finding ways to live out their love of it and in accepting SOs having innocent fun with others with it.

Ann

 

[battlecat]

Tickling is whatever you make it; what your mindset is while tickling/ being tickled by someone.

Tickling can be as erotic and perverted as it perverted can be......or as precious and innocent as a young mother tickling her tiny baby.

Brilliantly put! I think you have summed it up perfectly and the last sentence says it all for me! I agree with you 100%.

 

[The_Laugher]

For me it is always innocent fun. Just like when I was 8 and tickling friends. Never anything more then that.

 

[Iwon'tgrowup]

Wow! What a thoughtful, articulate group of people and responses! Thanks for responding to my wonderment . . . I've learned a lot. However, up-close-and-personal self-examination, going back to my first experiences at 6, tells me that . . . for me . . . there's no separating the two. With the exception of my children (whom I've tickled VERY seldom), tickling and erotic thought are inextricably bound in my mind. Tickling = arousal. I guess I'm pretty one-dimensional.

 

[battlecat]

Wow! What a thoughtful, articulate group of people and responses! Thanks for responding to my wonderment . . . I've learned a lot. However, up-close-and-personal self-examination, going back to my first experiences at 6, tells me that . . . for me . . . there's no separating the two. With the exception of my children (whom I've tickled VERY seldom), tickling and erotic thought are inextricably bound in my mind. Tickling = arousal. I guess I'm pretty one-dimensional.

I appreciate your point of view but personally playful, non-sexual tickling has always played a big part in my life and will continue to do so hopefully until the day I die (along time away yet as i am only in my early twenties.) Although with all those open toed sandals and angels feathers, I am kinda hoping that there will be tickling in heaven too.

 

[NeitherSparky]

This is the issue that keeps me from attending Gathers more than anything else. 🙂 I am a virgin, and I have zero interest in sex (pretty much, I definately haven't met anyone I'd like to explore that with in any case). I have met several people who for them, tickling is arousing, period, and they can't see it any other way. I personally think its fun, it feels good, its rewarding to give someone else that kind of silly pleasure, and is innocent, although yes, I can definately SEE it as being something that could be arousing, I really do. *I* just don't see it that way. Anyways, the idea of being surrounded by people who MAY be aroused by something I'm doing - me, who doesn't want anything to do with sex especially with someone I'm NOT involved with personally - um...creeps me out severely. o_o No, seriously, that's too much for me to handle. Yeah they might keep it in their pants but hey, I just don't want to even think about it. But I *do* think about it. That's why for me tickling *has* to be very private and only between myself and someone I know very very well and trust 100% to um, not be turned on. Lol. Maybe I sound stupid, but that's how I feel. (btw cute username battlecat, I'm a big old school He-Man/She-Ra nerd 😉 )

 

[ticklkitten]

No, it isn't always intimate but it CAN be more certainly. I enjoy tickling in it's entirety.

 

[Cy/MiG]

Tickling is what you make of it or in some cases how you've experienced it/applied it.

It's not neccessarily a matter of one/two/three-dementional, it's more like a multi-storied house. Not how you see it, but what level you take it to. (That's the best way I can put it, sorry.)

I've gone months without thinking about it, it's not hard, just a matter of wanting to or not.

For me it's not always erotic, it's just that, damnit, everytime I do think of it for a prolonged time (30-60 sec.) it's arousing. It's all mental.

Sorry if I sound like 'Brad Goodman':
"People there's no trick to it, it's just a simple trick"

Rock on...

 

[kcantankerous]

I'll admit that if I see an older man tickling a highschool aged girl outside his own family constantly it would be alittle weird. Seldom does someone get that addicted to something that there's not some kinda erotic tension. Sometiems you tease and stuff and thats alright, but if an old dude or female ties a young kid up say highschool age, seems abit perverted to me. Lets say under aged to make it easier. I mean to the extent of some of the stories I read. Even though there fantasys its pretty bad if you can't stick to the 20 and older crowd. Ranks up there 28 year olds dating 16 year olds. Obviously well hopefully within the family it probably isnt a turn-on.

 

[NJLaughs]

For me it can be either. It really depends on what my tickle partner wants out of it and I need to know her thoughts ahead of time. If it is intensely sexual for her, whether I'm the ler or lee, that "energy" becames apparent during the activity and I allow it to run its course with me. However, I can also enjoy it as just playful fun, a release from tension and just being silly at times.

 

[Mephistopheles]

Hmm, when I read the replies in the thread, I feel like a lonely pervert.

Tickling definitly turns me on, no matter what or who I tickle. (except for men and little children etc, I don't tickle them) I tickle because I have this deep burning desire for power, to dominate and control another and render them helpless by means of tickling truly arouses me (and ofcourse the love of female laughter)