Is it possible?

[Numbah-1]

I'm not gunna joke around here. OK? Real talk time. Kids go put you ear muffs on.

Is it possible to just like... STOP having a fetish? IDK Imma little pissed off right now but its because of this stupid F-ing fetish D=< !!! I really don't think I'll ever come to terms with it or even understand why... Dont take that the wrong way, I ENVY people that do. I feel like I've come to a fork in my road. Is it just possible for that to be an option?


Bet its clear which side I voted for on the 'giving up your tickle fetish' poll.

 

[Ticklish&InLove]

I'm not gunna joke around here. OK? Real talk time. Kids go put you ear muffs on.

Is it possible to just like... STOP having a fetish? IDK Imma little pissed off right now but its because of this stupid F-ing fetish D=< !!! I really don't think I'll ever come to terms with it or even understand why... Dont take that the wrong way, I ENVY people that do. I feel like I've come to a fork in my road. Is it just possible for that to be an option?


Bet its clear which side I voted for on the 'giving up your tickle fetish' poll.

I'm so sorry your love of tickling has caused you so much stress, Numbah-1. But you shouldn't feel bad about however you think is best for handling it. While for many, like myself, the struggle has been one of admitting it to myself, my loved one, and ultimately embracing and having fun with it...,that is no more it less a path than your desire to change.

There are so many factors with what might have caused the fetich to exist in the first place and why you feel drawn to it, so without knowing your personal story, I don't think anyone could answer as to exactly what you need to fob to address your fetish.

However, I'd suggest seeing a sexologist, as they are trained to handle anything related to the psychological aspects of sex, and that includes fetishes.

Here 's to your happiness - whatever it may be for you!

 

[Numbah-1]

I appreciate the advice. I would definitely not call it a love for tickling lol I dont despise it either. The thing that kinda baffles me is - even though I've only ever told 2 ppl, so I dont broadcast it myself - to me there seems to be so few people who have it. I doesn't stress me out by having it. What stresses me out is... well, people NOT having it. Its hard to explain because I feel like I'm being hypocritical.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

your not alone in this area my friend, for I too have felt this for years, and gone through this for years myself. I've always had to hide, there is no one near me into tickling and broadcasting it just leaves me hurt and left in the ground to melt on a hot summers street. I also become frustrated, discouraged, angry, pissed, sad, depressed about it because of the few people into tickling. I have told only two people, one tried to copy the fetish can claim he had it too, the other was cool with it, but doesn't have it. Anyone else who found out has shunned me for it, they call me a monster, disgusting, possessed, you name it. There are times i wish it go away, there are times i wish i never had it at all, but when it gets down too it, I have to admit its always gonna be a part of who I am. I wish there more people, especially in the areas we live in into this stuff, but so many are not, and others are hidden out there somewhere just waiting to find someone like them to come to them. We will always struggle and it makes it harder as u get older, u start wanting a partner to share it with or at least one person so you can experience what others do. I get sad when others are having fun tickling each ohter an all i do is watch, or when there's a big group from one place just constantly finding ones like us. Just keep your head in there man, this fetish is kinda like a superpower, its a curse and a blessing at the same time.

 

[TKLVR181]

It's possible.

Look at it this way--somewhere along the line in your life, you were conditioned to associate tickling with sex, or positive feelings, or something along those lines. Through behavioral conditioning with a responsible, very well trained behaviorist, that could be undone.

Personally I don't recommend it, though-the only way to do this would be to train your brain to associate it with a negative stronger than the currant positive. That involves a lot of negativity, as you might imagine. Before looking into cognitive-behavioral therapy, please be VERY sure this is what you want! Don't do this when you're feeling emotionally charged. Wait until you've thought it through and are calmer before you even start looking. I have a degree in psychology, I'm trained in this stuff but it's extreme and generally reserved for things like pedophillia.

I once felt ashamed of my lee side to the point I cried myself to sleep a LOT over it. This community has helped raise my self esteem over time and much, much love that I'm so, so happy with the way I am now. This took me literal years, but I wouldn't change a minute for the world.

If you need to talk, shoot me a pm!!!

~K

 

[chicag0]

I don't think you can get rid of it. You can surely avoid places like this as best you can and try not to think about it, but you're wired the way you're wired and tickling is not so depraved that a person should stress themselves out over trying to rid themselves of a fetish.

A better idea might be to examine what it is about the fetish that's causing you to feel this way. Is it shame? Fear of rejection? At any rate, I don't know how easy it would be to completely avoid thinking about it or, more importantly, reacting to seeing tickling or being tickled. Most humans use tickling as a means of bonding / joking with each other outside of our community, for instance.

 

[Numbah-1]

Thanks TKLVR, that seriously means alot. I dont think I'll try that though. It sounds fucking terrifying.

I was initially mad because I blew a opportunity in life and I was put there because of this curse. I get what you're saying Chicag0, but its a little different when Im trying overcome depression by being a better person and then at the end of the day enjoy watching someone being tortured. The more I ponder lifes uncertainties the more stressed I get. Its weirder to think I started my 'pursuit of happiness' by joining TT & TMF.

Oh well. I probably shouldn't be asking for answers when I dont have the right questions.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

no one truely has the answer for this one bro, because there really isn't one. Just a matter of dealing with it even with all that happens to ya, ya know. everything you say i go through as well, watching others have fun, beating depression, thinking sites like these would help and sometimes they do, but it doesn't help you in the real world ya know. It gets worse when u see other making close friens or meeting and then your like "when's my turn? when will I get that lucky? when do the gods smile upon me and bring me some good fortune?" and while people say "it will come, you just gotta be patient," it wears on you after a while because u wait, and wait and wait and when nothing happens we get angry, upset, and more depressed. So take to heart man, you ain't alone on this one, sometimes talking bout it helps, but in the end, there is nothing like the real thing to really give u a peace of mind.

 

[rerumfontis]

Some really thoughtful and intelligent posts on this thread ... nice to be in such a smart and caring crowd! 🙂

 

[MrTicklefeet1]

I use to be that way. A beautiful woman propping her bare feet up on a chair, and I'd go into panic attacks. Being able to play more helped cooled the waters down, having a friend I was able to indulge in foot worship sessions that'd run late into the wee hours of the morning, later, renting models for home made tickling videos, it all eventually helped. You may be a bit young, but you have your life stretched out before you.
I use to pray to be able to get rid of this obsession as it wasn't doing me any good, but finding playmates to be able to explore this fetish with tickling and being tickled, it was so much fun, and the relief was so appreciative. Give it time.
It sounds like these kind of things can be hardwired into the brain at an early age, so its best to be friends with it, and thank God you don't have any other darker obsessions.

 

[chicag0]

To be fair, we throw the word "torture" around, but most people in the videos are being paid to be tortured or at the very least it is consensual tickling going on. It sounds like you're being overly critical of yourself, which is part of the cycle of depression / anxiety. There are others here who enjoy the same things you do, would you tell them that they are "wrong" for enjoying what they enjoy the way you're telling yourself? I doubt it, so why so hard on yourself? The less you beat yourself up about stuff, the more at ease you'll feel. I know it's difficult to change your perception, but it's possible over time. I think the way you're looking at this is just one of the ways your depression is manifesting itself.

Also, what some people have said before me: if you have an actual outlet for indulging in your fetish, it doesn't seem like such a big deal as it does in your mind when you go long periods (or never) without experiencing it. You start to obsess, repress, become ashamed, etc. Tickling is one of the most playful and harmless things to be into I feel like.

 

[TKLVR181]

Online role-playing works for some and not for others-have you considered it? I know people who say its just not the same, and I know people (including myself) who get a huge jolt of adrenaline from it--even those like myself who do have the real-life outlet. The chatroom here if frequently populated by those who like to rp. And rp can be anything from casual, environment-less tackle-and-tickles to long, thought-out adventure scenarios, and you'll find fans of both here.

Also I know it sounds like a platitude, but finding somebody to talk to can change everything. From a paid therapist to a friend/family to somebody on here willing to listen. You'd be amazed how much better you feel when you don't feel like you're bottling this up anymore.

~K

 

[rerumfontis]

Online role-playing works for some and not for others-have you considered it? I know people who say its just not the same, and I know people (including myself) who get a huge jolt of adrenaline from it--even those like myself who do have the real-life outlet. The chatroom here if frequently populated by those who like to rp. And rp can be anything from casual, environment-less tackle-and-tickles to long, thought-out adventure scenarios, and you'll find fans of both here.

Also I know it sounds like a platitude, but finding somebody to talk to can change everything. From a paid therapist to a friend/family to somebody on here willing to listen. You'd be amazed how much better you feel when you don't feel like you're bottling this up anymore.

~K

Good advice dear friend .... not the same as rt but an important outlet! :blush

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

Online rpings can help a bit, but only helps to an extent and sometimes makes the cravings for wanting tickling more. Finding people to play with, depending on your preference, creating characters (at least in my opinion) help give me an idea on what it would be like to be tickled by different people. So it may help a bit, not a whole lot, but it would help a bit.

 

[Senshi1]

I don't think it's possible to utterly remove it. It's like Karen said, your only chance would be to associate it with more negative things.

I sort of understand your point about feeling uneasy about "liking to watch people being tortured", though. I think it's how you look at it, to a degree. Two people will watch the same clip of a woman, tied down and tickled until she begs for mercy, and will have different takes on it:

The first person might say: "Oh, that poor woman! Driven to this, her begging ignored, how terrible."

The second person might say: "She looks like she's having fun. Despite the begging, she's with-"

ah, I don't know. Point is, it's all in how you look at it. You're not hurting anyone - I'm sure you wouldn't actually subject someone to non-consensual torture (which isn't the same as someone letting you tie them up and begging you to stop - I know people who actually get turned on by having their begging ignored). It's an outlet, that's all, and it's not a bad one.

Maybe if you do a little introspecting, you'll find the answers for yourself. Maybe, on some level, you're just afraid of it because you don't understand it. Ask yourself why you like it? What about the whole spectacle turns you on? The sight and sound of laughter? The power of having a lee under your control? Maybe the idea of being bound and immobilized? The humiliation of being forced to laugh? Tickling may be simply a branch of a deeper sub-fetish that you aren't aware of yet. Just ask yourself questions, give honest answers, and don't be afraid if you discover a couple unpleasant truths about yourself - you are human, after all.

 

[rerumfontis]

To be fair, we throw the word "torture" around, but most people in the videos are being paid to be tortured or at the very least it is consensual tickling going on. It sounds like you're being overly critical of yourself, which is part of the cycle of depression / anxiety. There are others here who enjoy the same things you do, would you tell them that they are "wrong" for enjoying what they enjoy the way you're telling yourself? I doubt it, so why so hard on yourself? The less you beat yourself up about stuff, the more at ease you'll feel. I know it's difficult to change your perception, but it's possible over time. I think the way you're looking at this is just one of the ways your depression is manifesting itself.

Also, what some people have said before me: if you have an actual outlet for indulging in your fetish, it doesn't seem like such a big deal as it does in your mind when you go long periods (or never) without experiencing it. You start to obsess, repress, become ashamed, etc. Tickling is one of the most playful and harmless things to be into I feel like.

chicago, you make an important point, and most eloquently! There are ... most assuredly ... clubs full of people doing things to each other which totally freak me out .... I have seen it ... but it is not my place to judge them .... they are all there voluntarily .... and ticklees gleefully volunteer for their 'torture' ... is it really torture if you beg for it ... it is playful and harmless and fun and sexy ... of all the fetishes one might have, I am quite happy to have this. one ... and believe me l. a lot of lovely females in this world love the idea and the reality .... many, many more than you realize .... they simply rarely advertise it :rolleyes :wub

 

[Numbah-1]

Welp, you guys were right. I did my own R&D, and I won't be able to stop. I guess its not a huge deal though. Still the same person? I was just wondering if it could happen.. Its what ever I guess.

I wear my emotions on my sleeves so for the record, I enjoy watching someone being tickled, not tortured. And I'm not that bad of a person lol Which means WE* collectively ARE NOT. The way I put that the other day was incorrect.



I feel like this thread should be deleted cos its discouraging in a way.

 

[TKLVR181]

On the contrary, I find it rather encouraging. There's nothing wrong with a member feeling guilty and turning to the community for encouragement-that's what this family is all about. Just check out the turnout of people in each other's corner 😀 !

You aren't the only one who wears your heart on you sleeve, not the only one to need encouragement every so often-Dont feel ashamed of that. When people need help, that's what we're here for--and this thread is likely to help others down the road as well.

Nobody thinks you're dumb for asking the question.

~K

 

[rerumfontis]

On the contrary, I find it rather encouraging. There's nothing wrong with a member feeling guilty and turning to the community for encouragement-that's what this family is all about. Just check out the turnout of people in each other's corner 😀 !

You aren't the only one who wears your heart on you sleeve, not the only one to need encouragement every so often-Dont feel ashamed of that. When people need help, that's what we're here for--and this thread is likely to help others down the road as well.

Nobody thinks you're dumb for asking the question.

~K

Well said! 🙂

 

[rerumfontis]

Welp, you guys were right. I did my own R&D, and I won't be able to stop. I guess its not a huge deal though. Still the same person? I was just wondering if it could happen.. Its what ever I guess.

I wear my emotions on my sleeves so for the record, I enjoy watching someone being tickled, not tortured. And I'm not that bad of a person lol Which means WE* collectively ARE NOT. The way I put that the other day was incorrect.



I feel like this thread should be deleted cos its discouraging in a way.

I assure that most of us have gone through this .. I more than once! You be fine .... embrace others as they are ... and yourself as you are! You will figure it out .... 🙂

 

[chicag0]

Yeah, I have to agree with the previous posters that this is a POSITIVE thread and SHOULD stay up! Having a fetish can be confusing and frustrating for anyone (even people into harmless silly stuff like tickling :lol) but it makes all the difference to be able to talk to someone who can relate to where you're coming from. It's awesome that we were able to help you out of your funk, so-to-speak, and perhaps people who are not so brave as you as to ask for advice from the forum may read this and also feel better about their circumstances, or be inspired to create their own thread seeking help.

Ah, bless. Group hug, guys! lol

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

most definately should stay up! it encourages the discourage, we are a family haha and i guess hugs are in order, but hugging here could be dangerous with some people lol

 

[TKLVR181]

I'll hug ya dragon 😉

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

no no no no no! you do not hug me! i know whats gonna happen and i will never be able to get out NOOOOO! i'll hug chicago

 

[Cryptic71]

I'm not gunna joke around here. OK? Real talk time. Kids go put you ear muffs on.

Is it possible to just like... STOP having a fetish?

*Equips earmuffs*

Bro. ANYTHING is possible. Hell, becoming god himself is possible. Astronomically unlikely, but possible.

I mean, just look at Justin Bieber.. Or Miley Cirus. We never thought those.. THINGS were possible, but there they are. Living incarnations of atrocity. Abhorrence embodied. The true beacon of humanity's lowest.

If those were possible, then anything is possible.