is it wrong to like tickling someone who hates to be tickled?

[SadCuzNotTcklsh]

...or does it just belong in the fantasy world?

 

[Cif]

For me, it is wrong, yes.

 

[rhiannon]

If the person tells you to stop and you don't stop - yes! Very freaking wrong! In my opinion it comes pretty close to rape!

I mean, if you like it and just fantasize about it - cool. No problem whatsoever! Thoughts are free! But actually doing it - big no go!

 

[TicklesFemales]

A lot of ticklees tell you to stop when they are tickled but they really don't mean it or they just need a break so they can catch their breath. Tickling is not rape, having sex with out someones permission or forced sex on them when they say NO is rape. At most tickling is only an assault like hitting someone or slapping someone. But then again this is just my opinion on it. I feel that anything that is done between a man and a woman whether it be tickling or sex should be consensual between both parties involved or all parties that are involved if there are more than two involved.

TicklesFemales

TicklesFemales

 

[The Bandito]

If your getting a vibe that the person you're tickling hates to be tickled, then...yeah...it's wrong.

But I lump that into a category of: if you're doing anything to someone which constitutes violating their personal or emotional space and they hate it and tell you to stop, then you really need to stop.

Like many fetish worlds, ours has a lot to do with the push and pull between wanting it and not wanting it. But when they really hate it. It's wrong, imho.

^^

B

 

[rhiannon]

A consenting ticklee usually has a safeword! A non-consenting ticklee doesn't!

And "only" an assault is bad enough in my opinion!

 

[ViperGTS]

Depends on the circumstances.

If you're having a playful conversation where the person in question refuses to tell you something, a tickle attack may be just what the doctor ordered to loosen their lips.

Or, if you're good friends with them, I see nothing wrong with giving them a quick tickle just to mess with them a bit.

But if they say "Stop it", it's a good idea to listen - believe me, I LOVE a good non-consensual tickle, but not if it's going to in any way damage your relationship with that person.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

But if they say "Stop it", it's a good idea to listen - believe me, I LOVE a good non-consensual tickle, but not if it's going to in any way damage your relationship with that person.

Agreed. There are some folks where it probably really fucks with them psychologically, I wouldn't want to tamper around with that.

 

[ViperGTS]

Let's face it, when you're tickling someone and they mewl out this whiney, sing-songy "Quit it!" they probably aren't very serious. They may actually mean that they want you to stop because of how much it tickles, but the underlying, subliminal bonding that occurs during a playful tickle fight may be enjoyable and comforting enough to make it bearable.

For a little while, anyway.

Just be careful - some people truly HATE being tickled (fuckin' crazies), but I'd say 90% of people find it fun at first, for a certain amount of time. Your results may vary.

 

[rhiannon]

Usually you will find out the hard way when it's really time to stop, too....my dad once had a bloody nose after tickling my mom's feet.

 

[solescratcher99]

Um, the terms right and wrong are too moralistic to me personally. It has a tendency to make things like this 1 arise in people's minds when we use those terms.

Its more or less unskill depending on the context. If someone's playfully screwing with someone because they hate to be tickled, then its a little mean (and probably funny to everyone else) but certainly not anything objectionable.

On the other hand, if they have like some kind of phobia regarding being tickled or are really uptight about stuff like this, then the more skillful thing to do is just not bring anything like that up around the person. In fact, it'd probably be best not to even go around that person because 1.) they just don't like it, so live and let die and 2.) it would take all the spontaneity out of everything for us (who like tickling) and make us feel like we're walking on eggshells around them.

Its much more comfortable and freeing to be around carefree people for whom things like this aren't an issue.

 

[rhiannon]

You say if someone has kind of a phobia being tickled we, who like it, should not go around the person?

Why would you do that? I mean, it's not like all lers are running around just tickling everybody around them, now is it? 🙂

 

[solescratcher99]

You say if someone has kind of a phobia being tickled we, who like it, should not go around the person?

Why would you do that? I mean, it's not like all lers are running around just tickling everybody around them, now is it? 🙂

I didn't use the word "should" in an absolute sense. As in, I didn't say anyone should absolutely not go around someone with a tickle phobia.

I meant it's preferable (preferable meaning: much more personally agreeable, although not necessary) since it cuts off a lot of spontaneity. I wouldn't personally make an effort to go out of my way to avoid someone with a tickle phobia, but I probably wouldn't be making plans to hang out with them either because of the reason I just stated.

 

[Wolf]

So you wouldn't 'go out of your way to avoid them'..

I didn't use the word "should" in an absolute sense. As in, I didn't say anyone should absolutely not go around someone with a tickle phobia.

I meant it's preferable (preferable meaning: much more personally agreeable, although not necessary) since it cuts off a lot of spontaneity. I wouldn't personally make an effort to go out of my way to avoid someone with a tickle phobia, but I probably wouldn't be making plans to hang out with them either because of the reason I just stated.

But, when you boil it down, these people don't have anything to offer you, if they don't make your dick hard? And as for 'walking on eggshells' around them, what if they just don't like being touched? Or is that too weird to fathom?

What you call spontaneity, other people might call intrusive.

 

[solescratcher99]

But, when you boil it down, these people don't have anything to offer you, if they don't make your dick hard? And as for 'walking on eggshells' around them, what if they just don't like being touched? Or is that too weird to fathom?

What you call spontaneity, other people might call intrusive.

Ever heard of a straw man fallacy?1 That's pretty much all you did there.

 

[Em Es]

If you tickle someone who hates being tickled

If you tickle someone who hates being tickled, you won't have to stop because he or she will stop the tickling for you - by leaving!

 

[TicklesFemales]

Consensual tickling between a ler and lee is fun, and not all lees want a safe word, I know and have tickled some lees who are extremely ticklish and will tell you before you start to tickle them, no matter what don't stop unless you want to stop no matter how much I am begging you. Those are the women that really love to be tickled. I have known some ticklee women who have many orgasms while being tickled it triggers something inside them when they are tickled. The whole point is consenuality. Its like sexual harrassment any unwanted sexual advances when told to stop and leave you alone with someone who is a co-worker someone whom you really are not friends with then you should stop and say your sorry you meant nothing by it and it will not happen again is the proper thing to say and do. If it is a true friend and your being playful and she says stop it tickles and you don't stop tickling may mean she really does not want you to stop, now if she moves away and says please don't I don't like it at all then you should stop and leave it alone with this friend. A lot of different theories and opinions on this subject for sure.

TicklesFemales

 

[Wolf]

ok, ok, you got me...

Ever heard of a straw man fallacy?1 That's pretty much all you did there.

I pounced on your semantics when I saw you subtly demeaning people who might not like having your hands on them. Point taken. Maybe it's deep-seated guilt, maybe it's because I have vanilla friends, or maybe it's because I get weary of the "anyone who doesn't like what I like is the one with the problem" mentality.

 

[rhiannon]

I didn't use the word "should" in an absolute sense. As in, I didn't say anyone should absolutely not go around someone with a tickle phobia.

I meant it's preferable (preferable meaning: much more personally agreeable, although not necessary) since it cuts off a lot of spontaneity. I wouldn't personally make an effort to go out of my way to avoid someone with a tickle phobia, but I probably wouldn't be making plans to hang out with them either because of the reason I just stated.

Correct me if I'm wrong, I am just going to say how this sounds to me:

You know how every single one of your friends feels about tickling? You spontaneously tickle all your friends every now and then, and it doesn't matter if they are male or female?

 

[solescratcher99]

I pounced on your semantics when I saw you subtly demeaning people who might not like having your hands on them. Point taken. Maybe it's deep-seated guilt, maybe it's because I have vanilla friends, or maybe it's because I get weary of the "anyone who doesn't like what I like is the one with the problem" mentality.

I don't "hate" people who hate being tickled or think they have a problem (unless its a tickle phobia, then it technically is a "problem".) Its just that I prefer to hang around people who are either ambiguous about it or cool with it. Also, when I say this, I'm thinking of playful or flirtatious tickling with a woman I'm interested in (I'm not even talking about sexual tickling). Not walking around with a ripping boner and tickling people just because I want too.

I don't know anyone who actually has in mind the ideas some people on the forum seem to be badgering me about lately. Do some of you guys really think that someone with a tickle "fetish" would just go around tickling people, walking stiffy and all, only if they had an excuse too? I find the idea so laughable that it doesn't even bother me. It sounds a lot more like you guys are worried you might do that given the right opportunity. In other words, me thinks the lady doth protest too much.

I mean, I wouldn't be interested in doing that. I'm personally interested in other things and I'm not obsessed with tickling that much. I realize some people here are pretty crippled by their "fetish" but this isn't something that describes me personally. So, could you please stop projecting your personal stuff onto me when I come on and simply state my view on a certain topic? Questions are fine when they're not disguised as accusations.

Good day!

 

[solescratcher99]

Correct me if I'm wrong, I am just going to say how this sounds to me:

You know how every single one of your friends feels about tickling? You spontaneously tickle all your friends every now and then, and it doesn't matter if they are male or female?

I said Good Day!

 

[Ace Riley]

When I was a kid, it was probably my favorite thing in the world. Hard to get in trouble for tickling someone to death against their will. Then I grew up. Things changed. True story.

 

[rhiannon]

Its just that I prefer to hang around people who are either ambiguous about it or cool with it.

"Hanging around" sounds like you are talking about all of your friends. If you were talking about "dating", that is a different story and would be understandable.

I don't know anyone who actually has in mind the ideas some people on the forum seem to be badgering me about lately. Do some of you guys really think that someone with a tickle "fetish" would just go around tickling people, walking stiffy and all, only if they had an excuse too?

Nobody thinks that. Because we all do have a tickling "fetish", and I would suppose nobody of us does that! But when you say you would try and not even hang around someone who doesn't want to be tickled, then you are the one who makes it sound that way!

Maybe you don't mean it that way, but then you maybe should make the effort and express yourself differently instead of getting all defensive if people ask about what you mean!

Questions are fine when they're not disguised as accusations.

Sometimes a question is just a question! Apparently you are the one feeling accused of something here.

 

[Wolf]

Fee, Fi, Fo, Fambles...

I don't "hate" people who hate being tickled or think they have a problem (unless its a tickle phobia, then it technically is a "problem".) Its just that I prefer to hang around people who are either ambiguous about it or cool with it. Also, when I say this, I'm thinking of playful or flirtatious tickling with a woman I'm interested in (I'm not even talking about sexual tickling). Not walking around with a ripping boner and tickling people just because I want too.

I don't know anyone who actually has in mind the ideas some people on the forum seem to be badgering me about lately. Do some of you guys really think that someone with a tickle "fetish" would just go around tickling people, walking stiffy and all, only if they had an excuse too? I find the idea so laughable that it doesn't even bother me. It sounds a lot more like you guys are worried you might do that given the right opportunity. In other words, me thinks the lady doth protest too much.

I mean, I wouldn't be interested in doing that. I'm personally interested in other things and I'm not obsessed with tickling that much. I realize some people here are pretty crippled by their "fetish" but this isn't something that describes me personally. So, could you please stop projecting your personal stuff onto me when I come on and simply state my view on a certain topic? Questions are fine when they're not disguised as accusations.

Good day!

I smells a whiff of Babyshambles.

Seriously, though, if you'd made all of those more precise statements (or, more concisely, backpedaling) we wouldn't even had had this discussion.

 

[Evil Dave]

Depends on the circumstances.

If you're having a playful conversation where the person in question refuses to tell you something, a tickle attack may be just what the doctor ordered to loosen their lips.

Or, if you're good friends with them, I see nothing wrong with giving them a quick tickle just to mess with them a bit.

But if they say "Stop it", it's a good idea to listen - believe me, I LOVE a good non-consensual tickle, but not if it's going to in any way damage your relationship with that person.

Yeah what he said.

If you know the person reasonably well then you know how far you can push your luck without really pissing them off.

If it's someone you don't know very well then I'd just leave it. They probably wouldn't take it as a joke and you might come off as a creep.