So have you had it?
I would've thought with all the girlfriends I've had over the years that one would sort of go for the "sex is my territory, tickling is yours" vibe but nobody really cared about that and I always seem to end up excited after a tickling session so I just stuck with tickling.
I was married for 9.5 years so yeah I've had sex, alot in the past. Didn't enjoy it at all. Maybe its the Autistic side of me, Idk, I don't like to be touched gently its painful to a degree due to sensory overload. I also HATE and I mean cannot stand the sound of kissing. It's like nails on a chalkboard but the chalkboard is my brain. Maybe that has something to do with it. So I choose to be Asexual so people don't ask too many questions.
I'm also Autistic...
Makes sense actually. Thanks for the insight.
Interesting. I am diagnosed with ADHD and, while I was never officially diagnosed, my last therapist did suggest at one point that I might be on the spectrum. In my case the sex drive is there (based around tickling) but there is no interest in penetrative sex.
Ah you're much braver than I am.
Yeah, understandable, alot of people dont even know what Asexual is or means. They judge too quickly. IDK about brave. I served 14 years in the military and got out 5 years ago. Only found out 2 years ago i was Autistic when diagnosed. Marriage wasnt the right move because i wasnt honest upfront about tickling so it wasnt in my life really at that time and that really impacted the marriage in a negative way. Because how do you explain to someone you hate sexual activity, the sound of kissing, whispering, soft touches, tags from clothes touching your skin. When I myself didnt understand it, until i was diagnosed and life made more sense but like i said that was 2 years ago and i divorced 5 years ago.
Wow, I think that you're just the 4th Asexual with tickle fetish that has emerged in this thread!
Through tickling, orgasm control, licking the partner's feet, neck and breasts, by giving oral. It's as if I express eroticism with my hands and mouth.
Oh, you seem to be repulsive to many kinds of physical touches...A marriage would be an absolute torture for you!
The causes for you to lack interest in penetrative sex seem to be complicated...
yeah it def wasnt fun. Not all hyped up like everyone made it out to be lol.
I would say it's more of a symptom than a cause. Penetrative sex was simply never interesting to me. It doesn't turn me on. I can do it if I'm turned on by tickling or teasing and denying my partner (and I have a son to prove it) but it takes a lot of effort for me to build up the mood to make penetration work.
I'm quite curious: What made you get married with your ex?
I meet a lot of military personnel lately and a lot are quick to get married, just from an outer lens.
This 👆, although sex isn't a turn off, given the choice I'd choose to tickle someone each time. The problem is most people don't get it without an awkward explanation, and those that do are few and far between
Family pressure and the notion that to be happy i needed to be with someone. Which is completely untrue but at the time I didn't have the mindset I do now.
Military personnel tend to get married more frequently than civilians do. That's just from my perspective though, I could be wrong. I don't try to get people to understand me I will explain myself to a degree on how I am and what I like. After marriage though I quit dating. It's too much and I'd rather just focus on myself.
Which i why I just stopped dating alltogether. Finding a partner willing to not have intercourse is nearly impossible unless its a friendship. For those of us that don't enjoy sexual activity. It's rough in the dating scene.
