Journey of Self-discovery

[Ita24]

I'm in my mid-20s and I've never been the "typical" guy. I've never been interested in sex. In fact, I'm actually somewhat repulsed by it. Not in the sense that I'd never do it because I could do it if I was with someone I love, but it just doesn't do much for me. For a while I thought it was just a phase, but the older I get, these feelings grow stronger.

I've been told I may be asexual in the past but that didn't make sense to me because I'm actually a very romantic guy. I am very much attracted to women and I love all that stuff that comes with being in a relationship, including the physical stuff, which is where the tickling fetish comes into play. I've dated one woman who was big time into tickling and I'd say 90% of our physical relationship was various types of tickling. It was amazing. The thing that really kept me from thinking I couldn't be asexual was because I very much get aroused by tickling. It's not something I feel super confident discussing but for the sake of this post, it's necessary. How could I get turned on and be asexual?

Well, I recently discovered that all being asexual means is that you're not sexually attracted to anyone, which literally just means you don't want to have sex with anyone. You can be physically/emotionally/mentally attracted without desiring sex. That's totally me, and it may not seem like a huge deal, but I'm so happy that I figured this out. It's a significant part of who I am. Now I just hope I can find a woman who understands it!

If you read this, thanks. Just wanted to get that off my chest.

 

[Libertine]

I'm in my mid-20s...I am very much attracted to women... I'd say 90% of our physical relationship was various types of tickling... I very much get aroused by tickling... How could I get turned on and be asexual? You can be physically/emotionally/mentally attracted without desiring sex...

If you're fiddling about with a naked woman and develop an erection, it's not there to be a disinterested observer. It is trying to tell you something. While it is doing so, explain to the lovely cause thereof that you haven't any experience but that she is special, and ask her to help you put on a condom.

Then you'll find out, apart from the fact that it's all going to be over with in a few seconds this time and for a few more times thereafter, that you're not as abnormal as you think you are.

Move beyond your comfort zone with an open mind and see what happens.

 

[Ita24]

If you're fiddling about with a naked woman and develop an erection, it's not there to be a disinterested observer. It is trying to tell you something. While it is doing so, explain to the lovely cause thereof that you haven't any experience but that she is special, and ask her to help you put on a condom.

Then you'll find out, apart from the fact that it's all going to be over with in a few seconds this time and for a few more times thereafter, that you're not as abnormal as you think you are.

Move beyond your comfort zone with an open mind and see what happens.

I appreciate that, but I've had sex lol. It legitimately doesn't do much for me. I mean, it's fine, but the other aspects of the relationship do so much more for me. I've joined asexual communities that have the same experiences as me. They get aroused like anyone else, but literally the act of sex is underwhelming. Can't really explain it. On top of that, when I read sexual stories in here or try to watch a porn, I'll be turned on by the stuff leading up to the sex, but as soon as it gets there, I lose interest and close it. I'm just different, and I'm okay with that!

 

[BlueFlame]

Your sexuality is 100% valid. You are seen and appreciated. I am very happy that you have figured this out about yourself. Asexuality is rarely talked about, but it is just as legitimate and deserving of respect and acknowledgment as any other sexuality.

Intimacy is not limited to sex. Arousal is not limited to sex. Pleasure is not limited to sex. Connection is not limited to sex.

Tickling is not limited to sex.

Our community should celebrate and support the diversity of our fellow ticklephiles, regardless of whether their experiences, feelings, specific desires, or levels of sexual interest mirror our own or not. Our greatest commonality is our infatuation with tickling, and from there we all differ in unique and beautiful ways. I hope that you find the support here that you deserve.

Thank you for sharing your truth.

 

[SmallTown]

Your story is so very similar to mine. I'm 34 years old and just remarried recently. I had sexual intercourse for the first time in my life in April of this year. I spent my whole life wondering if I was asexual as well. I never wanted actual intercourse and the only thing that turned me on was tickling and sometimes feet. I felt very weird and alone and didnt understand myself. So you're definitely not alone because I'm the same exact way. Fortunately my wife is the same way too, and we enjoy intercourse now if it's preceded by lots of tickling and play. If you ever want to chat and know about my journey, share about yours, and just get some encouragement, then shoot me some PM's and I'd be happy to chat! You're definitely not alone!

 

[Edge]

I've always said this but sex is the most overrated thing in the world.
When I say that I mean actual "sexual intercourse." I'm not saying it's bad or not fun...but it's overrated. Now some people live for it. I don't care about it.
I'd rather do other things "sexually" than sex. To me there's 100 things better (don't ask me to name them lol)...of course bondage/tickling is one of them.

 

[KitzelPixie]

I'm very similar, and a good friend suggested once that I might be more demi-sexual. I occasionally enjoy sex but wouldn't care if someone told me I could never have it again. On the other hand, I couldn't imagine life without tickling...I crave it the way most people crave sexual contact...and it does cause physical arousal (I get more wet from tickles than from any form of sexual contact). I don't know if that makes me demi-sexual, or if that's just typical fetish manifestation...but it's how I'm wired and I enjoy it.