Just curious....

[Angel77]

I know from reading prior threads and posts over the last few years that some people can be shy when it comes to telling their significant other (or anyone that they choose to tell who is an "outsider" to the community) about their tickle fetish. What do you think is the easiest way to tell someone about it? And do you find that you mostly get positive reactions?

 

[Jackalx33]

Well here how it has work for me for the few people I told. I have two fetishes , feet and tickling.

More or less my foot fetish comes out more and my tickling is kept a secret.

Yesterday I told some girl about my fetish cause of the conversation. I mostly tell girls (when I can) about my fetish and they seem fairly cool about it. How I came about to tell is when someone mention about porn and weird stuff that they like which brings me an invitation. Cause I personally think that nothing is else can be less weirder then tickling. It is a simple fetish and nothing more. SO yeah if the conversation is simple and right to bring it up. Hope this answers the question.

 

[Raytheon]

aw thats a cool post 🙂
Ive always been open about it. Chances are your partner is going to have his or her own little querks between the sheets and if you both ready to share them and play with them then go for it!

For the actual deed my girlfriend and I got naked in bed and went looking at porn on the internet with the laptop. i asked if i could show her some fun stuff so i showed her some tickling pics and a video or two and said thats what im into. She loved it. Then she showed me what she was into and we moved on from there into some great play time. I was a bit nervous but we felt better to get our likes across to each other.

(Without me being sexist, lol) As a woman climbing into bed with your partner and telling them what your into would, i can imagine, be a huge turn on for them. Something playful along the lines of "id love you to do this to me, what can i do for you?" 🙂

hehe well good luck and hope you get the fun times your looking for ^^

Ray xx

 

[LD_Tickler]

Well, I've always hinted to people that I may have some kink they wouldn't expect before I outright tell them what it is. That way, you can gauge whether or not they seem to be cool with the idea, plus it makes them really want to find out. As an added bonus, their imagination will likely make them wonder about some really bizarre or painful fetishes, that tickling will seem tame by the twisted possibilities they'd been imagining. 😉

 

[-Hari-]

hmmm

Ok, so I started off very shy, My first few girlfriends only found out after constant hints and ut was more like I was confessing to theyre assumptions rather than finding a way to tell them.

Over time I became more confident, and now I reveal it pretty quick, but tbh, ive been thru a phase of telling people WAY too early, before the person "liked me for who I am" or whatever.

I now moderate it.

And to be REALLY honest, I think its better when your shy about it, Let whoever it is really get to know you and enjoy you so when you DO tell them, they just take it on borad as part of you, they see *you* with a fetish, instead of a guy with a fetish.

Which brings me to how I used to do it, I find it best to sort of hint it, first I suggested bondage, abit of tying up for fun, then while being tied up one time, I tickled her with a free hand, naturally once I was tied down fully she wanted revenge for my cheekyness, I remember the words "just say stop if you want me to" and my silence said it all.

From then on it was a regular occurance, theres somethign blissful about finding out like this, way better than being honest and just saying it.

 

[rhiannon]

Wait till the conversation is about sex anyways and just spill the beans. Nobody ever even looked at me weird. If people talk to you about sex, they are generally open towards it.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

The easiest way for me to say anything that's hard to say is just blurt it out. If I try to figure out how to dress it up to make it more gentle or appealing, I fuck it all up inside my head and get everything all confused. I just take a deep breath and say what I need to say. It's not always the best or most well-received method of communication, but it's usually how I do things.

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

Just straight up tell them. There really is no other way to go around it.

 

[Angel77]

Thanks guys (and gals)! I really appreciate your feedback.

 

[sasaxrah]

The easiest way for me to say anything that's hard to say is just blurt it out. If I try to figure out how to dress it up to make it more gentle or appealing, I fuck it all up inside my head and get everything all confused. I just take a deep breath and say what I need to say. It's not always the best or most well-received method of communication, but it's usually how I do things.

In terms of divulging something difficult, I agree. I hold my breath, count backwards from 5, and on zero I force myself to say it. I also probably wouldn't use the word "fetish" in the first conversation. I'd just say I *really* like.

 

[Canadian_Eh]

I came out to my fiance' about 7 months ago now.. Before I did I hid this part of my life from him. It never felt quite right hiding something like that from him. So, one night I just came out with it. (The whole story is in my "coming out of the closet" thread). Honestly, it was smartest and healthiest thing I could have ever done for our relationship.

I know not everyone has a "sucess story" with telling their signifigant other, but I guess the way I see it, is it's a good way to "test the water", to see how they react to being told stuff like that. It may be hard for them to accept at first (In my case it happened right away), but if the other person never really accepts you for you really are, I guess if it were me I would question why I was with them in the first place, especially if it meant I couldn't be the person I really am!

 

[paracarl44]

I'VE NEVER USED THE WORD FETISH.

When your relationship gets to the point of intimacy, you need to think of ALL manners of giving pleasure to your mate.

 

[Phineas]

I'm of the opinion that most people who've had bad experiences telling people about their fetishes secretly hate having them, and reinforce that by subconsciously choosing the wrong people to tell. That way, when those people freak out over them, the person's original poor self-image is validated.

That said, I've found it best to just come right out and say it, and to make sure the person you're about to tell won't have a problem with it. You can usually suss that out beforehand if you know how to go about it.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

I think I pre disclaimer-ed it about 5 billion times before I finally got to the point, which was that I had a tickling fetish. I also made sure I was doing everything but looking him in the face. LOL

 

[JS805]

I usually jump off the Empire State Building with a parachute and a megaphone and scream "honey, I have a tickling fetish."

 

[texastickler]

The easiest way for me to say anything that's hard to say is just blurt it out. If I try to figure out how to dress it up to make it more gentle or appealing, I fuck it all up inside my head and get everything all confused. I just take a deep breath and say what I need to say. It's not always the best or most well-received method of communication, but it's usually how I do things.

Skippy said it all for me. I just say it. I know that may not be what you are looking for in an answer Angel. I am selective on who I blurt it out too however. I have had two significant others and a gal I condidered to be one of my greatest friends (and still do) about my fetish. They were all very accepting. I did tell one friend once and he told me I was a freak.

 

[Canadian_Eh]

The easiest way for me to say anything that's hard to say is just blurt it out. If I try to figure out how to dress it up to make it more gentle or appealing, I fuck it all up inside my head and get everything all confused. I just take a deep breath and say what I need to say. It's not always the best or most well-received method of communication, but it's usually how I do things.

This!! - When I told Daniel about everything, It was like 3am and I just happened to blurt everything out into my pillow. Thank god he was able to understand, cause if he hadn't, i'm not so sure I would have been able to repeat it. I usually don't get that kinda courage very often! - Oh, and for some reason, it being pitch dark helped alot too.

 

[gypsyhanna]

I was extremely shy but with my ex I waited until our first time being intimate, and then I said something along the lines of "I feel shy talking about this, but I get extremely aroused and a bit of an animal in bed if I am tickled. It kind of turns me into a submissive wreck."

Somehow I think any weirdness associated with the word "tickled" was weighed out by the words "extremely aroused animal in bed" and "submissive wreck." Coincidence in word choice? HA!

Bottom line, most people want their partner to be helpless with pleasure at their touch, it makes them feel good as lovers especially if they are caring people. I was fortunate enough that my ex actually made me a hand-drawn outline of my body and asked me to label all the best spots and rate them LOL. I not only did so but I also threw in some pointers on techniques. Maybe some prefer it to be a complete mystery but we had great fun with that info to go on, and besides he found plenty of spots on his own 😉

 

[Maestro1874]

I put it in my Facebook status line like everybody else. Or tweet. Yeah, tweeting is better. I think I sandwiched it between tweets of "I <3 sunny delight" and "YAY! Colonoscopy went GREAT!"