LA is so big, how can it be so quiet????

[Newguy]

Hi everyone,

I'm a male switch who's been living in LA since last August. I really thought that once I moved out west to a major city (and one with such a reputation for being wild) that I'd find a girl that's into tickling really easily. But so far, the personals and posts and even attempts at group meetups all seem to be a guy that sounds sort of similar to me, looking for women into tickling and there's never really any replies. There must be women who love tickling and being tickled in LA, right? If so, hop on this post and let us know you're out there! 🙂

 

[NotJeff]

Sorry, but LA in particular has a lot more guys chasing women than there are women being chased. NYC is the place to go if you want good odds. Or the heartland, where girls are just bored and looking for adventure.

 

[dvnc]

Or it could be that there are many people down there, and they're either too discreet due to biz or personal circumstance, or they're just not into personals. I know over 50 in that area, nearly even mix of men and women, some partnered, some not, some straight, some not. I haven't seen a lot of women from that area posting here in over a year.

Since I used to host gatherings down there regularly, I'm not saying this as speculation. I mean I got mail, got attendance, and married someone from the West Coast Gatherings in LA. Great wife.

It's just not simple or easy. Requires a reasonably positive approach, and offer of something beyond just tickling. A woman in LA, in most of CA actually, knows this from the events, whether they just attended or interacted with an attendee. A smart guy will meet them halfway, figuring out what they want and creating that exchange that happens when people couple, whether for a night or a lifetime.

Those guys don't stay lonely. It's not simple, but it's not tricky, either. It requires opening communication with MANY people, and not just women.

Used to be, once upon a time, I connected many people, one to another. There are other guys who are socially inclined that way, that want to see folks connect. Find one, be one, or pick an interest you REALLY dig and post THAT as a meeting point. "I want to get together with someone into this who likes Y, Z and drinks Q. Want to meet in Santa Monica/Silver Lake/Orange County? Reply or PM me."

Double bonus to the guys that, like me, admit they met someone. Admit that not EVERY connect was excellent. Admit that there's many and The One. It's good to find The One. Some people, those who can keep up with a polyamourous lifestyle, find more than one, even. I know a few of them, too. It's not that large a scene, really.

Just sayin' this, SoCal - have hope, figure out what you want BEYOND the kink, and solicit for THAT. Everyone here wants tickling. You may meet a great friend who's a ler like you, opposite gender. Two friends have an easier time meeting folks than someone solo. Truth. Peace.

 

[Newguy]

All good points dvnc, thanks!