-
If you would like to get your account Verified, read this thread -
The TMF is sponsored by Clips4sale - By supporting them, you're supporting us. -
>>> If you cannot get into your account email me at [email protected] <<<
Don't forget to include your username
Ladies on this site?
- Thread starter HappyGilmore
- Start date
TicklishLurker
4th Level Red Feather
- Joined
- Jan 13, 2006
- Messages
- 1,949
- Points
- 0
2tickleU said:
Because when you did it to me - twice - it was CREEPY! Like something straight out of Law & Order: Special Victims Unit. I may enjoy being tickled, but I do not enjoy some cretin PMing me out of the blue offering his phone number. I wouldn't accept it from a female either. Anyone I meet from here has to come with references from people I know and trust. And I do NOT trust anyone who sends their phone number in their first PM, or second or third.
And to be frank, I don't believe your claims that you met people that way. Anyone with a bit of common sense would avoid people who throw out their phone number like that.
primetime said:
in the general discussion forum there are lots of threads dealing with personality traits, no? I came to this forum because of the commonly shared interest for tickling, agreed, but I do enjoy general discussion just as much as tickling discussion. for me it's just natural, that I want to get at least an idea about the people with whom I discuss tickling.
when I get a PM I will definitely look out for this persons posts on general topics as well - if there are none, hmmm
the perfect icebreaker for me would be any opinion no matter if shared or disagreed that came up in any thread and build from there. don't see, why it HAS to be tickling. if it is, ok, I'm fine with that as well to start with, but if it is tickling and only tickling and I get the feeling there is no interest at all in me as a person, then as many others have said before, i'm outta there pretty quickly.
fidji
To some of you folks who would like a sample of the PM's we get... I have deleted portions which may point fingers just to give you a clue.
I was PM'd about a response to a thread.
I answered that PM. (I always answer the first one) I gave a response very similar to those responses I give on the forums.
The very next PM... I'm pounced upon and all of a sudden he's talking nipples and orgasms.
I felt like writing... "Wow... I'm just fine... thanks for asking. And how was your day?" (And I have done this on occasion, just to remind the person PMing me that... hey... I'm a real person). In this case however I told the person that he came on a little too strong and that perhaps he needed to look elsewhere.
The following are the PM's plus my reply:
There is a right way and a wrong way to approach us... if you want us to talk nice to you... talk nice to us, if you want our respect, show us some... we're not asking for a whole hell of a lot, and it shouldn't be that painful to give.
I was PM'd about a response to a thread.
I answered that PM. (I always answer the first one) I gave a response very similar to those responses I give on the forums.
The very next PM... I'm pounced upon and all of a sudden he's talking nipples and orgasms.
I felt like writing... "Wow... I'm just fine... thanks for asking. And how was your day?" (And I have done this on occasion, just to remind the person PMing me that... hey... I'm a real person). In this case however I told the person that he came on a little too strong and that perhaps he needed to look elsewhere.
The following are the PM's plus my reply:
Maybe it's just me... but this isn't my idea of what the first 2 PM's should contain. Hell... I've been talking to guys on here for 2 months that have never even gone the direction that this man went. There is a big difference in the content of a PM when the man shows respect for the 'lee he is talking to. This man... showed me no respect what-so-ever and in fact was degrading in his treatment of me as a person. He made me feel as if he viewed me as cheap and slutty.anonymous member said:
There is a right way and a wrong way to approach us... if you want us to talk nice to you... talk nice to us, if you want our respect, show us some... we're not asking for a whole hell of a lot, and it shouldn't be that painful to give.
MrPartickler
1st Level Red Feather
- Joined
- Apr 8, 2003
- Messages
- 1,063
- Points
- 0
Oh well, it's an unpoplular stance but....
I think people are forgetting that what's undesirable to them, may be perfectly acceptable to someone else. Hey, it's not my style or choice to give out personal info (e.g., phone numbers) fast or to PM with erotic messages right out the gate, but honestly, it may be acceptable or even more than welcome by some women.
I don't chat online very much anymore, but years ago I used to do so often. From personal experience, I've had chats--initiated by women--who only wanted to cyber (and I dislike that) right from the start. I've also had rather dull chats where they initiate with a friendly 'hello' and have little more to contribute than that. Neither were very satisfying to me, either but I'm sure they were fine for <i>someone</i>.
To use an example from this thread, 2tickleU(?) has a forward approach that seems to work for him. It's not meant to offend, but some ladies are clearly put off by it. However, if it works for him there must be other ladies for whom his approach is just right. Maybe, just maybe, the <i>indirect</i> approach is the undesirable one to those ladies. I don't think that automatically makes them bad people (as some of these posts seemed to imply) either.
I can believe it too. I have a great lady friend I made online (not here) many years ago who's one of the least shy, direct, sexually agressive and confident women anyone would ever want to meet. It was five years ago and was my first meeting with anyone for tickling. It was hers too, but you could not tell it. She led the entire way--from erotic online chats (right in the beginning, she made first contact) right up untill we met the first time, where she asked to be tied & tickled with NO safe word. I was the "cautious" one by far back then. We don't see much of each other anymore, but we're still friends some 5 years later.
Finally, no one may want to say it, but this is basically a numbers game. Whether you play by awaiting the "perfect PM" or email in your inbox or play by sending a number of them out until someone you click with responds in kind, doesn't really change that. Having the "advantage" of smaller numbers means ladies have to do less to initiate contact and to gain attention from men, but it also means a lot of that contact will not be what they want. That's just reality. I don't think there's any way around that.
I think people are forgetting that what's undesirable to them, may be perfectly acceptable to someone else. Hey, it's not my style or choice to give out personal info (e.g., phone numbers) fast or to PM with erotic messages right out the gate, but honestly, it may be acceptable or even more than welcome by some women.
I don't chat online very much anymore, but years ago I used to do so often. From personal experience, I've had chats--initiated by women--who only wanted to cyber (and I dislike that) right from the start. I've also had rather dull chats where they initiate with a friendly 'hello' and have little more to contribute than that. Neither were very satisfying to me, either but I'm sure they were fine for <i>someone</i>.
To use an example from this thread, 2tickleU(?) has a forward approach that seems to work for him. It's not meant to offend, but some ladies are clearly put off by it. However, if it works for him there must be other ladies for whom his approach is just right. Maybe, just maybe, the <i>indirect</i> approach is the undesirable one to those ladies. I don't think that automatically makes them bad people (as some of these posts seemed to imply) either.
I can believe it too. I have a great lady friend I made online (not here) many years ago who's one of the least shy, direct, sexually agressive and confident women anyone would ever want to meet. It was five years ago and was my first meeting with anyone for tickling. It was hers too, but you could not tell it. She led the entire way--from erotic online chats (right in the beginning, she made first contact) right up untill we met the first time, where she asked to be tied & tickled with NO safe word. I was the "cautious" one by far back then. We don't see much of each other anymore, but we're still friends some 5 years later.
Finally, no one may want to say it, but this is basically a numbers game. Whether you play by awaiting the "perfect PM" or email in your inbox or play by sending a number of them out until someone you click with responds in kind, doesn't really change that. Having the "advantage" of smaller numbers means ladies have to do less to initiate contact and to gain attention from men, but it also means a lot of that contact will not be what they want. That's just reality. I don't think there's any way around that.
steph said:
There are way too many women (for lack of a better term) who pop up here and all but throw themselves out there. I don't know if it's just for attention or are they just so low on self-esteem that they don't care where it comes from. It's pretty pathetic and it gives the rest of us who would prefer respect to being liked or being needy a bad name!
drew70 said:
drew, as one of the people i pm on a semi-regular basis.. i can say with total honesty, that you are a true gentleman... about cliques? yes there are cliques on this forum, which is rather highschoolish. i remember back when i first joined this forum, i would pm back and forth a bit with someone. now it's like i don't exist.. but what the heck? i'll live, i have been through too much in my life to worry about whether someone answers a pm of mine or not.. as for myself? i will talk to anyone on this forum, who treats me with respect and as a person first and foremost, and not just some tickle object. i belong to no clique, nor do i wish to.. i am an individualist and have learned lately not to take the forum as seriously as i did, say last week or month... if someone doesn't answer a pm of mine, i shrug my shoulders and move on..as it is, i have to clear out my pm box at least twice a day.. i think that goes for most of the females on this forum..
isabeau
drew70 said:Thanks, Izzy! You're one of most significant reasons the TMF is so cool!
as are you drew... i wish everyone knew the funny drew as i have gotten to know very well. you are fantastic..
isabeau
ps and never asked me where or how ticklish i was on a first pm.. i don't think lolololol honestly with all the pm's i've gotten since i joined, one stands out the most.. Mitchell, a great guy, pm'd me about climbing ladders.... after i told him that heights made me rather dizzy, he never bothered me again, until i pm'd him once, just to ask how he was doing, and now he is one of my dearest friends on the forum..
I remember a time... and it doesn't seem THAT long ago when there were not very many "visible" ladies. When I come to the forum and see all types of threads started or responded to by all different types of women with different personalities and gifts to offer, it makes me happy. The numbers may say this is a man's forum, but it wouldn't mean nothing... NOTHING without our women's hearts to share. Yeah, I'm taking artistic liberties! It's just nice to see balance.
Oh and by the way, naah, no negative experiences with women on TMF.
Oh and by the way, naah, no negative experiences with women on TMF.
I can totally relate! I was talking about this with mike today... It seems almost every time I get pmd or even on messenger I'll get messages from guys (not all of them only some) on the forum and they forget that there is a human on the other end! So guys try to be respectful!
Mz Chaos said:
natural tickler
Verified
- Joined
- Oct 10, 2003
- Messages
- 20,625
- Points
- 0
hopefully this settles it...maybe
Now I have read all the pages, and to some degree the ladies are right...however, I would just like to add this, so ladies please don't be upset
Remember where you are, and what this place is. This is a tickling forum, and the first thing out of the mouths of many is tickling. The one thing I've noticed with a lot of these posts, is that many of you forgot where you are.
Small talk will eventually come, but tickling is what is on the minds of those guys PMing you. Now if you are tired of this ladies, you can simply ignore these guys
as far as the ladies thinking they are not tickle toys: you're right, you're not. Not until we've had a few sessions with you, anyways
NT, now leaving, because it just got hot in here, and he doesn't feel safe 😛
Now I have read all the pages, and to some degree the ladies are right...however, I would just like to add this, so ladies please don't be upset
Remember where you are, and what this place is. This is a tickling forum, and the first thing out of the mouths of many is tickling. The one thing I've noticed with a lot of these posts, is that many of you forgot where you are.
Small talk will eventually come, but tickling is what is on the minds of those guys PMing you. Now if you are tired of this ladies, you can simply ignore these guys
as far as the ladies thinking they are not tickle toys: you're right, you're not. Not until we've had a few sessions with you, anyways
NT, now leaving, because it just got hot in here, and he doesn't feel safe 😛
Now, I'm not saying that every pm to me has to be of a serious nature and not about tickling, that's why we're on the forum, right? I think the chief complaint is the CONTENT of the pms that we get. Some pms read like an interview, and some read like HUSTLER! I, like most of these women, try to respond to my pms, because I do wanna get to know others interesting in tickling. Call it networking....lol. I may be travelling, and it would be great to meet the people that I've talked to for so long.
On another note, NT, you say "small talk will eventually come." Well, I can tell you from experience, sometimes it NEVER comes. Some people have a one-track mind (yes I KNOW it's a tickling forum) but if that's all you have in common, doesn't really make for great conversation after the tickling stops.
Okay, I'm done now, I know ya'll get tired of me sometimes....heheheh
--T
On another note, NT, you say "small talk will eventually come." Well, I can tell you from experience, sometimes it NEVER comes. Some people have a one-track mind (yes I KNOW it's a tickling forum) but if that's all you have in common, doesn't really make for great conversation after the tickling stops.
Okay, I'm done now, I know ya'll get tired of me sometimes....heheheh
--T
TicklishLurker
4th Level Red Feather
- Joined
- Jan 13, 2006
- Messages
- 1,949
- Points
- 0
jk666uk said:
You have to understand - yes, we ladies are here for tickling - but damn it, we're also human beings and tickling isn't all we're about. Plus when a PM comes off as creepy in a "God, could this guy be a serial killer?" sense - well, we don't like it much.
Ask about our ticklish places, sure, but also ask us about our favorite music, books, hobbies, etc.
Also keep in mind some of us don't like certain things. One lady mentioned she's strictly a 'Ler and guys keep expecting her to be a 'Lee for them. While I can't stand submissive men and will not tickle a man no matter how much they beg. We all have different likes and dislikes. For instance, talk about Hillary Duff or other tone deaf pop tarts in a favorable manner and you're out the door.
I have to admit I have only just back into to posting again after being away from it for a while but In total I have posted now well over 200 times (I know that's a tiny amount compared to some of you) and the majority of ladies I have come across on the TMF are lovely, fun to chat to and some of the nicest, friendliest and funniest girls I 'know'.....Ticklkitten, Mimi, Isabeau, Chickles and Sultry (please excuse me if I have left anybody out!!).
Those of you who have read my posts know that sometimes I can be a hopeless flirt. I honesty don't mean any disrespect... I am a playful, happy sort of bloke and just like to have a laugh and tease a girl or two. Thankfully most of the time, girls play along and we have some fun....at the end of the day tickling for me is a fun and happy thing.... but I definately would not be crude or nasty to any lady who posted or PM'd back and honestly if ever I go to far with my flirting or am being a dick...just tell me. I promise I won't be offended....I like to think of myself as one of the good guys!!!
I don't PM people very often (although there is one very special lady I try to keep in touch with who's my American Soul-mate) but it is my opinion that sending a message is all about respect....treat a girl like a princess not a plaything. If you talk dirty and you get some grief or more likely no reply whatsever....don't be surprised....you deserve it you jerks. Anyway there are plenty of sites on the net who can cater specially for that kind of thing and will be only to happy to take your business....leave our ladies alone and log onto them instead!!
Anyway that's my opinion. I look forward to chatting to all you ladies again soon.
Those of you who have read my posts know that sometimes I can be a hopeless flirt. I honesty don't mean any disrespect... I am a playful, happy sort of bloke and just like to have a laugh and tease a girl or two. Thankfully most of the time, girls play along and we have some fun....at the end of the day tickling for me is a fun and happy thing.... but I definately would not be crude or nasty to any lady who posted or PM'd back and honestly if ever I go to far with my flirting or am being a dick...just tell me. I promise I won't be offended....I like to think of myself as one of the good guys!!!
I don't PM people very often (although there is one very special lady I try to keep in touch with who's my American Soul-mate) but it is my opinion that sending a message is all about respect....treat a girl like a princess not a plaything. If you talk dirty and you get some grief or more likely no reply whatsever....don't be surprised....you deserve it you jerks. Anyway there are plenty of sites on the net who can cater specially for that kind of thing and will be only to happy to take your business....leave our ladies alone and log onto them instead!!
Anyway that's my opinion. I look forward to chatting to all you ladies again soon.
Last edited:
it is true. most women on this forum have been great anytime they interacted with me. i have met some of them before and they are special people (you know who you are ladies...).
from my previous post, basically all i'm want to get across is, please treat women with respect. that's all they are asking for. granted, some women dont care and are just as happy with an explicit PM as well as a "safe" pm. but the majority are normal nice women who need to be treated with respect.
the only thing i saw strange was the fact that there were complaints when the content of the PM was about tickling. like when someone asks where you are most ticklish. if they are coming off crude and sexually explicit, feel free to ignore the guy and yes, i would be afraid myself. but to get upset over a guy who PMs a lady and asks her where her most ticklish spot, should not necessarily read all the posts made by the person he is messaging. some people have thousands of posts and i dont think someone is really going to research all of that. that's all.
to sum it up, treat people the way you want to be treated. simple enough?
from my previous post, basically all i'm want to get across is, please treat women with respect. that's all they are asking for. granted, some women dont care and are just as happy with an explicit PM as well as a "safe" pm. but the majority are normal nice women who need to be treated with respect.
the only thing i saw strange was the fact that there were complaints when the content of the PM was about tickling. like when someone asks where you are most ticklish. if they are coming off crude and sexually explicit, feel free to ignore the guy and yes, i would be afraid myself. but to get upset over a guy who PMs a lady and asks her where her most ticklish spot, should not necessarily read all the posts made by the person he is messaging. some people have thousands of posts and i dont think someone is really going to research all of that. that's all.
to sum it up, treat people the way you want to be treated. simple enough?
Which is exactly the reason why I am thinking this isn't the place for me. I joined this forum to be part of a community of people who share my fetish, not to cybertickle or have cybersex.natural tickler said:
I didn't realize that these things were part of the package, I was just looking to make friends and to meet those with similar interests. Of course I expected to talk about tickling, but not to the extent that some of these guys take it.
I'll gladly talk about my ticklish spots, and methods that I find enjoyable, but just because I say it turns me on doesn't mean I want to talk about tickling pricks and balls and pussys and nipples and having orgasms. I never realized that being open about how tickling effects me was an invitation for cybertickling or cybersex.
I'm sorry now that I ever mentioned as much as I did or that I was so open on the threads here. Maybe from now on I'll stick to very short unrevealing answers... hopefully in time the earlier threads I have posted will fade into the background and maybe I'll become boring enough so as not to attract the attention I have brought upon myself by being open and honest.
