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Lee, Ler, or Switch - When and How Did You Decide

huskys said:
I have always loved tickling for as long as I can remember. But only recently have thought about being a lee.
The reason being that I'm hyper ticklish in so many spots that I'm sure I would almost die, lol.
But I am willing to give it a go. Though finding a female ler willing to tickle a hyper ticklish male into near insanity, (cause that is what would probably happen lol), isn't going to be easy I think. :upsidedow :dog:
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I find it hard to believe that it would really be all that difficult to find a female ler to tickle you if you are that ticklish. Take the plunge. Come to the 'lee darkside.

Artoo said:
I'm a born 'lee, it's something I hated yet secretly craved since childhood. However, due to the mass of m/f material compared with anything else, I sort of conditioned myself into the mindset of the 'ler. Now that mindset comes a little easier to me, for various other reasons (my more sadistic side coming out as I got older :firedevil)
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I can sort of relate to this. Although I got tickled a bit by my parents when I was very young, I'm pretty sure I was born a 'ler. But I was a playful 'ler until I matured. Now I can definitely be a more sadistic or merciless 'ler, which is fun as it only promotes worse revenge against me.

Also, you shortened your sn!! What prompted that?

Sammy Scales said:
I never really made a decision... I was just always into all of it... being a switch... and I always assumed anyone else who was into tickling was into both aspects as well... That is until I found message boards like the TMF and realized there was an entire subculture of Lees, Lers, Switches, and Tickle Monsters with their own sets of rules, bylaws and safewords!!!
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Nor did I. All this discussion comes after years of education or realization for me. I don't think I every really analyzed tickling on this kind of level growing up.

xSamanthax said:
As for being a switch...that would require a conscious choice. Not opposed to it either, just don't have a ton of confidence in my 'ler abilities, lol.
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Oh come now. I saw you get revenge on Lilly in your recent video. You clearly have substantial 'ler skills.

tickleshotel said:
5 years ago I went to my first tickle party on the east coast in New York and with the encouragement of a female switch who wanted me to join her in tickling her extremely ticklish S/O who was a switch is when I realized I had a devious ruthless ler lurking in the shadows and her and I tickled this guy showing no mercy :blaugh:
Since then,I love being the lee ,love being the Ler too for those male lee's who love being Lee only ,or those lee's that enjoy being lee and alternating😀
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That's a great story. The kind of insight I'd hoping some people would be able to provide in this thread. Thanks so much for sharing.

Tckleme said:
Because I´m one of the most ticklish persons ever, I don´t know if I´d like the lee part as well.
I sure like the thought of getting tickled, but I´m not sure if I could stand it.
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What's with your screenname then if you don't actually want to be tickled. That's false advertising, hehe. Something I know a little about. 🙂
 
For me I didn't really decide-you could say it was decided for me. For as long as I can remember I have always enjoyed and I have always loved being a ler and being a lee-so for me it is pretty simple, not a lee and I am not a ler-I am a switch-love both roles as intensely passionate!
For me I am a switch because love to be dominant-playful and love to take control-execute it tickling sense and also in my private sensual sense when it comes to bedroom.

I love inducing my lees into hysterical helpless laughter, love to see either him or her squirming and wiggling and pleading and begging and going absolutely berserk as I dish the tickles out on them and especially love big time as a favorite of mine-when my lees or switches that are my helpless vulnerable tickle victims-are restrained and bound and can not escape. I LOVE THAT !!!! I love being the one dominant and also love being submissive-love being tickled and verbally and ticklishly taunted verbally while being tickled big time not rough, but soft gentle and lightly yet intense and powerfully, no pinches and no rough harsh intense tickles for me. The slower, softer lighter-more teasing and intense the greater😛

That is how the role of being a switch was decided for me
 
I never made a conscious decision. I just always liked both tickling and being tickled. 😀
 
Hello Baldadonis!!!!

Look who is back in town 🙂 Glad to see you my friend.

I got stuck in germany and i could not enter here on any company pc...wonder why 😀

Your question will end up relating closely to how and why we got into tickling. To me it was the responsability of my upstairs neighbors...or more precisely, their daugthers (3 of them!!!). Just to give some details, the younger was my age, just a few months younger, the other 2 were 2 and 4 years older. All in all this means when they decided i was going to be their tickling baby i could fight but they would always overpower me (i should have met snail back then with his fighting tips).

But after such a promissing start my tickle life took several turns. To start i developed asthma and discovered that getting tickled could prove very harmful. After getting in trouble lots of times with my neighbors somehow i developed the ability to "kill my ticklishness" which was deadly back then. And once i was no longer the victim i became the hunter seeking revenge! So i pretty much turned completely from lee to ler still as a child.

Now the funny thing is that i spent most of my life so far as a ler (special thanks to my younger cousin and several female friends). But...lately, once i really found out the fetish side, already closing 20 years old, i craved to be also a lee once again. I would say that now i don´t have asthma problems i want my time back as a lee.

Still this leaves me in a hard spot. 1st i´m a trained ler (to say skilled would be overrated considering the company) and i can still do it and enjoy it despite really wanting to take it also. 2nd i´m not the easiest lee around, as i still have some mind ability to fight the feeling. Luckily this ability tends to go away as trust grows and i´m able to let go.

So...to say it simple, switch but these days mainly lee.
 
When I was 14 I read a Forum or such letter "from" a female ler. Melted a few synapses and rewired the rest. Life-changing, really.
 
A Very Ticklish Guy

At first, I thought I was a Ler, perhaps because those were the only opportunities that presented themselves or maybe it was some of that early machismo young men tend to have. Then, in college, I met a girl who loved to Ler. She tied me down and had her way with me and from that point on I have primarily been a Lee.

MrTicklee
 
I was always a lee... Since as far back as I can remember! With in the last 2 years I been wanting to switch...... Now I enjoy switching......
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Good topic. My answer may be a little different. I realized before I was a teenager that I loved being a 'ler, though I didn't actually know this was a fetish until I gained access to the net. Anyhow, part of me has always wondered how switching roles and being a 'lee would go for me. On the one hand, that thought it exciting. On the other, I concede that I may not be a very good 'lee, as giving up control is not something I do easily in this type of scenario. That's my wacky personality for ya.

P.S. 600th post! I'm all Masteriffic now. 😀
 
Bringin it back...LOL

This is what happens late Friday nights when I'm stuck at work -- thread resurrection (sp?) 😀

So anyway - I can't remember a time that I was at all interested in tickling other people. I've always loved being on the receiving end. I can't really explain what I enjoyed about it as a child, but as an adult, my answer is similar to Steph's.

In every day life, I'm assertive, opinionated, and in control. I'm a take-no-shit kinda gal, and being a lee is just an AMAZING break from all that. I love when my ler calls all the shots. I love having no control. The power exchange is totally amazing. Even in light and playful tickling, having someone else be able to MAKE a reaction come out of me is like a high for me.

So yeah...that's why I love being a lee 😀
 
In the beginning, I thought of myself mostly as a lee with a small interest in being a ler. That all changed when I started wrestling around with someone at my first gathering. I was hooked!!! Now I know I'm definately a switch and I love the give and take of it all and I can't wait to explore that more!
 
Well watching others get tickled and wishing I was in that situation has always been me. I have considered though doing the switch thing. I don't know if it would be right for me, but I would give it a shot before absolutely turning it down.

Who knows, maybe there is a ler waiting inside? I doubt that, but you never know.
 
I've always been a 'ler, a dom, and a top, as far back as I can remember. My earliest childhood memories are of inventing games that involved making girls helpless so that I could tickle them.

I'm barely ticklish, and that only if I'm caught by surprise or already laughing at something, but even if I was, I could never get into that headspace of letting go, or even wanting to let go. I want more control, not less 😎
 
baldadonis said:
Does anybody else have any incidents they can point to when they realized they were ler, lee or switch? Or has your decision always seemed a natural extension of your personality? If so, in what way?
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I can't really think of one event that made me decide. Personally it's more of a mind set for me. I guess I can be seen as a switch but it really depends on the situation.
In a group scene I will more than likely take on a ler role because then in my mind I have more control. It's more a matter of my comfort level. If there are a bunch of people I just met, nothing against them, but it haven't reached that trust level to surrender completely. With people that I am familiar with I have no issues turning control over to them. I just have to have that security knowing that the person in charge knows my comfort level. As long as I have some one I trust in charge I can relax enough to lee for a group.
 
I've been thinking about this... I don't think it was something I decided. But I fully realized I was a switch when I was watching some free f/f clip and in my head, I kept putting myself in both perspectives. It was hard to concentrate on one, so I figured I must really be into both.
 
I think I was born a switch, must be the Libra in me who likes balance and enjoys thoroughly both sides of the coin. I love giving up control as much as I love taking it. I love when someone takes me...just takes control of my sensations, makes me beg, plead and laugh, I always want more. But the Ler side in me is always present. So I don't think it was some lightbulb that went off the made me a switch, I think as long as I have loved tickling I have been a switch...

Great question Baldy and you will be nicely rewarded next time I see you..:wavingguy
 
MTP Jeff said:
I've always been a 'ler, a dom, and a top, as far back as I can remember. My earliest childhood memories are of inventing games that involved making girls helpless so that I could tickle them.

I'm barely ticklish, and that only if I'm caught by surprise or already laughing at something, but even if I was, I could never get into that headspace of letting go, or even wanting to let go. I want more control, not less 😎
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Inventing games since your were a kid? Your scary! LOL
 
MTP Jeff said:
I've always been a 'ler, a dom, and a top, as far back as I can remember. My earliest childhood memories are of inventing games that involved making girls helpless so that I could tickle them.
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LOL what kinda games...just outta curiousity
 
MTP Jeff said:
Nothing ingenious, just things in the category "try to hold still while I do things to you that no sane human being can hold still for."
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Which is basically what he still does to this day.

We're working on the creative process. But it lags.

... I'm joking. :shock:
 
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