But of course---everyone knows we can turn this fetish thing on and off at will and adjust it like a Thermostat. I wonder if that same person would ask a gay guy to fill in for him with his wife Thursday while he's out of town.
Lol some classic replies
Some people just don't get the message do they like the same people who PM you every time they come in the chatroom despite the 100 times you tell the to fuck off
Serial offenders, you know who you are
Lol some classic replies
Some people just don't get the message do they like the same people who PM you every time they come in the chatroom despite the 100 times you tell the to fuck off
Serial offenders, you know who you are
God forbid some people actually talk to each other like regular people instead of instruments to be used for personal pleasure. I mean deep down when all the layers get stripped down we are all slaves to our most basic desires. For us its either Ler or Lee. We all want the same thing and some peoples preferences fit together like puzzle pieces but goddamn. Show some dignity people. Theres a time and a place for all of us to do that perverted ass shit we always think about, but for us normal people that time is definitely not RIGHT AFTER YOU START TALKING TO THEM. Act like that in real life and get arrested lol. The lack of common sense baffles me. Sorry if this is ranty. /420
There are more switches than pure 'lers among is, right? That kind of surprises me. I thought pure 'lers are the absolute majority here.
Being that this is an online site dedicated to the fetish of tickling does not excuse abusive or persistent unsavory behavior on behalf of its community.
However, I feel as though the fact that this is indeed a place where we don't have to hide behind societies predisposed normalities, with our anonymity in tact, we tend to feel a bit more at ease than we otherwise would in the physical world. In reality, a majority of us are here with the intent to find someone to talk tickle with, and it's generally assumed that everyone else is here to do the same. As a result we can come off as blunt or as assertive as a lee who is fed up with being asked if she ever lers.
The lack of ebb and flow is concerning.
And now to derail.
Regarding the original message, I’ve been on the receiving end of such a conversation. The circumstances were, in my opinion, fairly different. I contacted someone who was offering service as a lee, and I asked about her feet, as she hadn’t included where she was ticklish anywhere that I had seen. I received a pretty nasty response, and well, fuck that person, basically.
Mostly, I just wanted to say that words are fairly deceptive and don’t necessarily convey what you mean them to. I’m not defending or apologizing for anyone, rather just trying to convey caution. For example, if one were to tell me they’re a ler, that’s not the same as saying they’re only a ler or that they’re exclusively a ler. Those three tags, lee ler and switch, aren’t in any way mutually exclusive from one another.
In the case you presented, I don’t think you’re unclear given that the first message (from the other person) only provided two options and they were presented in a mutually exclusive way (by use of ‘or’). I would just advise taking the time to write a sentence if you want to avoid miscommunication. “I only lee, because (reasons)” as opposed to “Lee,” or “I only allow upper body tickling because (reasons).” Of course, I don’t know whether or not you are, or aren’t, communicating in such a way. I only have the post to go on.
I think it's wrong to assume that everyone is here for the same reasons. Doing so is probably what makes some think it's ok to make a person feel like they're being screened.for.potential wank fodder.
I really didnt intend for this thread to get this serious. It was a flippant thing I wrote to blow off some.steam.
Thanks again for all the replies.
We screen people all the time, be it consciously or subconsciously, about a great many things, financial stability, height, weight, overall health, education, etc, all qualities we find desirable when searching for a potential significant other or friend. Based on what you have shared here, your experiences have been a bit more flagrant than the causal examples you initially provided, flagrant to the point of harassment, which justifies your outcry.
And while yes it is wrong to assume everyone is here for the same reasons, at the root of this forum's foundation is the communal association we share with the fetish of tickling. Yes there are pages dedicated to non-tickling related stories, events, and general conversation, but those are merely minor threads in a tapestry.
And thank you for cooking up such a wonderful thread!
We are all here for tickling. But some are here to form friendships, chat about the subject generally rather than in personal terms "what would you do if I tickled you?" "Well, I'd feel weird because you're a random stranger."
"Are you a lee or a ler?"
"I'm a lee"
"So you never ler"
No, motherfucker, I know your lee side is wishful thinking af but if I was interested in being a ler I would have said that.
Or
"Where do you like being tickled?"
"Upperbody"
"What about feet"
"Not into talking about feet."
"Ok but are they ticklish?"
Really dude...
You would be surprosed how often I get this shit...
I will admit that it can be hard not to snap sometimes if you get a lot of negative attention online, but I'm sure I've snapped on a few well-meaning people too. Numerous shitty interactions over time has probably unfortunately colored my perception of folks who just wanted to chat, in turn likely making me hella unapproachable. Tryna work on this ...