Letting your guard down about your fetish when drinking?

[ndj101982]

I was wondering if anyone else on here has the same problem as I do when I'm drinking? I am private about my fetishes (attraction to girls in nylons, tickling, ect) when I'm around my friends and out in public, but lately I've been noticing that when I'm out drinking I seem to let down my guard. Last weekend for example, I met this girl at a bar almost entirely based on the fact that she was the only girl on the dance floor with stockings on. When we hung out afterwards I could not stop talking about how sexy her legs looked in stockings and I kept rubbing her legs the entire night. Normally I would never be so obvious about that, but being drunk I couldn't help myself. Last night I went to the same bar and met a couple girls there and came back to my friend's place with us and I made it WAY too obvious I was into tickling. The entire ride there I kept ticklign the ribs of one of the girls, then at the house I tickled one of the girl's feet and her ribs again on separate occasions. I even complimented her feet several times, which is something I don't make obvious I'm into. I am concerned that I am going to eventually make it quite obvious that I'm into these things when I'm around my friends and they will definitely not be accepting about it, as I have known them my whole life and know how they are.

Just wondering if anyone else has a tough time "keeping it hidden" when they are under the influence of alcohol?

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

When I'm drunk and around people I'm comfortable with, I say anything and everything that comes to my mind. I have damn near outed myself on several occasions. I never really found a cure for it or anything, though LOL Sorry.

For what it's worth, though, I thought the same thing about my friends - that there was no way they'd understand or even try to be open-minded about it. Then my best friend found out, the one I thought would be the most judgmental about it, and she's totally cool with it. She respects my privacy by not telling our other friends, asks questions to understand it more, and even has met a bunch of TMFers when I dragged her to a munch 🙂 Don't underestimate them - ya never know!

 

[ndj101982]

When I'm drunk and around people I'm comfortable with, I say anything and everything that comes to my mind. I have damn near outed myself on several occasions. I never really found a cure for it or anything, though LOL Sorry.

For what it's worth, though, I thought the same thing about my friends - that there was no way they'd understand or even try to be open-minded about it. Then my best friend found out, the one I thought would be the most judgmental about it, and she's totally cool with it. She respects my privacy by not telling our other friends, asks questions to understand it more, and even has met a bunch of TMFers when I dragged her to a munch 🙂 Don't underestimate them - ya never know!

I wish that when I'm drinking I could control it better around a girl when I'm talking with her. As soon as we start to hit it off I start getting to "tickly" when I try to flirt. I don't want them to think I'm some weirdo tickle guy or something. I tell myself "no" but the alcohol relaxes me too much and I just go for it. About 4 years ago I did in fact weird a girl out cuz I was super drunk and we were flirting, next thing I know I'm pulling off her socks and can't stop tickling her. I remember saying "this really turns me on" when I was doing it, and after that I know it weirded her out cuz we never talked again and she told someone it made her feel weird when I kept tickling her. Problem is, when your drunk the little voice in your head doesn't have as much pull when it tells you "this is a bad idea"

 

[Speedbump]

I've gotten really drunk before and it doesn't change anything about me. I'm either just a more friendly, happy, more outgoing person, but without much change in my inhibitions - or I'm black out drunk and I'm not saying a lot at all, I'm just trying not to fall, die, puke, or all of the above in between bursts of conciousness.

Maybe just consistently get to the black out point so you're not really thinking or awake enough to converse.

 

[rhiannon]

You know, there is a simple solution if you do shit you don't like while you drink: DON'T DRINK! 🙂

 

[ndj101982]

You know, there is a simple solution if you do shit you don't like while you drink: DON'T DRINK! 🙂

Yea but that isn't what I'm trying to get at here. I'm just asking if other people see themselves start to slip and let out their fetishes when they are tipsy.

 

[rhiannon]

I would think it's normal that you act upon your impulses more when you are drunk!

 

[Nestor Blue]

I think if I had enough to drink to start approaching women I'd just met with the intent of introducing myself as a tickle fetishist, I would probably be unconscious and not able to actually do so. I view it as a nifty safety feature.

I figure if I'm going to do something like that, it would help to be judicious about it, i.e. sober.

 

[LD_Tickler]

I've let slip that I'm kinky/sadistic once or twice when I was pretty drunk. I'm not sure I would have chosen to divulge that to these particular people if I were sober.

 

[b0xr]

I quit drinking in 1990 for reasons familiar with this thread. If I was still drinking I'm sure my tickling fetish would have been public knowlege. The only people that know about it is my wife and kids...they can hear. and you guys

 

[ndj101982]

I quit drinking in 1990 for reasons familiar with this thread. If I was still drinking I'm sure my tickling fetish would have been public knowlege. The only people that know about it is my wife and kids...they can hear. and you guys

Yea, well I didn't drink a sip for 2 years. I had a falling out with my friends cuz all they do is get shitfaced every weekend. I've been back with them for 3 months now and again all they do is get shitfaced. I see bad things to come so I think I'm gonna put a stop to the drinking again. Don't really want to be known as "the creepy guy who tickles everyone" 🙂

 

[TickVix]

drinking hasn't made me let my guard down about my tickling and other interests to friends or anything. HOWEVER, I am guilty of letting my guard down when it comes to other things. for example, I become too open and honest, not saying that's a bad thing, but sometimes it has its place and alcohol should not always be the conductor on the "too open and honest" train lol. But hey like they say, that's natures truth syrum right?

 

[ndj101982]

drinking hasn't made me let my guard down about my tickling and other interests to friends or anything. HOWEVER, I am guilty of letting my guard down when it comes to other things. for example, I become too open and honest, not saying that's a bad thing, but sometimes it has its place and alcohol should not always be the conductor on the "too open and honest" train lol. But hey like they say, that's natures truth syrum right?

Absolutely. When you have too much you tend to just say what you otherwise would keep in your mind.

 

[JUICEBOX]

I never let my guard down..i get more friendly , funny as hell..wake up the next morning and pull the car out of the pool ..and feel good about it,...

 

[Mephistopheles]

I've been massively drunk on many occasions, and I've been on loads of drugs including massive amounts of LSD, and even if I cannot distinguish what dimension I'm in or what's real or not and I'm trying to communicate with people whom I'm not sure whether they're real or not, my secrets never leak out. I never open up, to nobody, no matter what state I'm in.

 

[c7_assassin]

^Same. I've never slipped up, even when shitfaced.

 

[AmericaRocks]

Actually, if anything, I probably give less of my secrets away when I'm drunk. I usually let things slip out of nervousness, and alcohol relaxes me, so that doesn't happen as much.

 

[Ticklish9's]

Yea, well I didn't drink a sip for 2 years. I had a falling out with my friends cuz all they do is get shitfaced every weekend. I've been back with them for 3 months now and again all they do is get shitfaced. I see bad things to come so I think I'm gonna put a stop to the drinking again. Don't really want to be known as "the creepy guy who tickles everyone" 🙂

I think you're overestimating the creepyness factor. You could just as easily become known as "the cool guy who tickles everyone."

I definitely drop the inhibitions when I drink, and I drink a lot :lol: My friends have all clearly come to accept that hanging out with me is going to mean getting tickled and they all clearly are fine with it. In fact, this has led to several of my friends feeling comfortable enough to tell me about their own interest in tickling.

If I'm out and about with new people who I haven't known very long I may be more careful about it, but even then I find that nobody has ever really minded. I'm clearly not a creepy guy, I'm not interested in dating or having sex with any of them, so it's never a big deal.

Even when I've encountered people who really hate tickling, they've always just made it clear that they don't like tickling, so they don't have a problem with me, they just want me to not tickle them, so I don't. That's happened like twice ever. Everybody else - and I have met a LOT of people - has never had a problem with it.



So I actually encourage drinking and lowering your inhibitions, because the one or two people you might offend are probably not going to be your friend anyway, and the harm you do yourself by trying to hide your true self from your friends is certainly much worse than the harm of losing one or two people who can't accept you for who you are. I would never have had the guts to come clean about tickling - I could hardly say the word for a long time - and the relief of knowing that all my friends clearly don't care is just incredible.


One disclaimer - my friends are largely drawn from the ranks of ravers and super-liberals, both whom are very accepting groups. Your mileage may vary if your friends are older, more conservative, religious, and so on. My advice remains the same though; people who won't accept you for who you are aren't your friends anyway.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

Just wondering if anyone else has a tough time "keeping it hidden" when they are under the influence of alcohol?

Not really. Though I'll sometimes let my guard down about my drinking-fetish when I'm under the influence of tickling.

 

[Carsomyr]

Wouldn't say I do, unless the peeoplez I drink with actually ask. But I've only opened up about it to people I would have been honest with even if I were sober, so I dunno... I know people who I definitely would NOT open up to no matter how shitfaced I was.

I only told my best friend that it was tickling though, but there are two other occasions where I have let it slip that "I'm a kinky bastard", basically. 😉 xD One of those occasions was because the girl had been flirting and acting generally subby all evening (even asked if she could tie my shoes when we were going outside, lol), and given the subjects she brought up later in the night it was kinda hard not to divulge as much. Turned out she was a "kinky bastard" too... XP