List of Reasons why being single sucks

[ndj101982]

It's been quite a while since I had a gf or even a legitimate date, and I'm starting to really realize how depressing it can get without having a significant other. Yea, I can hang out with friends on weekends, but sitting at a bar gets worn out very quickly. Basically, I've come up with a list of reasons why it sucks to not have a gf......

1. No guaranteed date on the weekends

2. Feeling inadequate and awkward when you go to family events (weddings, ect) and you're one of the only cousins there with no gf/bf.

3. Going out to eat consists of stopping by a fast-food joint because you ain't doing sitdown meals in nice restaurants alone.

4. You don't get to do things that couples do like take trips together on long weekends, picnics, random long drives to places you've never been, and other places that you wouldn't go with friends like the zoo or something (fun with a gf, strange with your buddies)

5. When you drink you just get depressed because you're single

6. When you are single all the girls that acted interested in you when you had a gf suddenly become distant and no longer interested

7. Holidays are just the worst.......don't even get me started on how depressing holidays are when you're single

8. Worst of all.....once your friends get gf's, you don't have anyone to hang out with and end up spending your weekends watching tv alone.


any other things I missed???

 

[Jagermeistered]

All of those things... Until, I find myself at the strip bar. I'm happy for about 40 bucks, and go back home.

 

[ndj101982]

All of those things... Until, I find myself at the strip bar. I'm happy for about 40 bucks, and go back home.

I don't like strip clubs. I don't like girls pretending to be interested in me so I'll throw them money. Plus the girls that go around offering massages start to aggravate me when they won't take no for an answer. I literally opened my wallet and showed the girl that I have nothing more than 5 ones last time I was at one. They won't go away until you show them you don't have any money. Funny anecdote....my friend spilled his beer on the stripper runway and the stripper came out and went to do a split and her thigh highs got soaked in beer.....lol She was pissed.

Actually, last time I was at a stripclub, the feature girl of the night was some Asian woman who did like 5 or 6 videos under then names kristine Aguchi and Diane over at Tickle Central. I nearly spit my beer out when I saw her picture on the Featured Model bulletin. I was like "I know that girl" and my friends were asking how. Just lied and told them I think I saw her in a porn before so that I didn't blow my cover.

 

[Lord Doctor]

Being single does suck, but I've come to prefer it. Considerably less painful.

 

[ndj101982]

Being single does suck, but I've come to prefer it. Considerably less painful.

I know what you mean. You get so used to being single you can't picture being with somebody. I still think it sucks though. With each passing year it gets more alarming, especially when you realize you aren't getting any younger.

 

[socktickler86]

It sounds like your problem is that you're practically making a significant other the only reason for you to be happy.

For example:

#2: Inadequacy comes from a variety of factors, how is the rest of your life? Is being so concerned about not having a girlfriend bringing every other aspect of your life down too?
#3: I tend to agree with this but at the same time, I'm not so sure. I never really went out with my ex to any really nice restaurants. We would grab fast food most of the time along with your various casual sit-down restaurants, but that's stuff I have on issue with doing with a group of friends.
#4: .... is this suppose to be a bad thing? 😛

The rest are just really signs of systemic problems in your life. Stop comparing your life to other people. When holidays come around and family gatherings and outings with friends, you're not seeing how couples truly are. Who knows, maybe your cousins are in abusive relationships or god knows what kind of crumby situations that people can get into. So chill out and be happy. I've never heard of 1 successful relationship where the girl basically was the only reason a guy was happy. Girls do not like that and they can tell and it can lead to some very very very bad things.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Being single does suck, but I've come to prefer it. Considerably less painful.

You are a scholar!!

 

[ndj101982]

It sounds like your problem is that you're practically making a significant other the only reason for you to be happy.

If you've ever gone nearly 6 years in your 20s without a gf you'd probably start getting bummed out too. It's not like it's been 5 months or something.

 

[Jagermeistered]

It sounds like your problem is that you're practically making a significant other the only reason for you to be happy.

For example:

#2: Inadequacy comes from a variety of factors, how is the rest of your life? Is being so concerned about not having a girlfriend bringing every other aspect of your life down too?
#3: I tend to agree with this but at the same time, I'm not so sure. I never really went out with my ex to any really nice restaurants. We would grab fast food most of the time along with your various casual sit-down restaurants, but that's stuff I have on issue with doing with a group of friends.
#4: .... is this suppose to be a bad thing? 😛

The rest are just really signs of systemic problems in your life. Stop comparing your life to other people. When holidays come around and family gatherings and outings with friends, you're not seeing how couples truly are. Who knows, maybe your cousins are in abusive relationships or god knows what kind of crumby situations that people can get into. So chill out and be happy. I've never heard of 1 successful relationship where the girl basically was the only reason a guy was happy. Girls do not like that and they can tell and it can lead to some very very very bad things.

^Good post...

Also, Sock likes to type a lot. 😛

 

[socktickler86]

If you've ever gone nearly 6 years in your 20s without a gf you'd probably start getting bummed out too. It's not like it's been 5 months or something.

Meh, had my first gf when I was like 20 and it only lasted about 2 years, I have some perspective. Getting bummed out is a negative feedback. It makes you feel worse which makes you act worse which makes you even less attractive to girls. Girls don't like (and actually this is true of any relationship, not just girls looking at guys for dating) people that don't seem to have anything going on. How are things going for you outside of the relationship world? If things are good, consider focusing on that stuff. A lot of people will tell you it's when they stopped focusing on finding a significant other that they actually find one. If things are going equally bad, try to fix that first. It'll make you feel better and make you more attractive to girls in many ways.

You may also need to rethink how you socialize with girls.

 

[socktickler86]

^Good post...

Also, Sock likes to type a lot. 😛

I don't have a big signature, so I need to talk a lot to make people think I'm important

Also, as a university lab instructor, I'm use to having students e-mail me with questions. In order for them to never ever ever e-mail me again, I respond in such a way that every base conceivable is covered in such a long rambling way that they don't dare repeat the mistake of trying to contact me.

 

[Jagermeistered]

I don't have a big signature, so I need to talk a lot to make people think I'm important

Also, as a university lab instructor, I'm use to having students e-mail me with questions. In order for them to never ever ever e-mail me again, I respond in such a way that every base conceivable is covered in such a long rambling way that they don't dare repeat the mistake of trying to contact me.

 

[ndj101982]

Meh, had my first gf when I was like 20 and it only lasted about 2 years, I have some perspective. Getting bummed out is a negative feedback. It makes you feel worse which makes you act worse which makes you even less attractive to girls. Girls don't like (and actually this is true of any relationship, not just girls looking at guys for dating) people that don't seem to have anything going on. How are things going for you outside of the relationship world? If things are good, consider focusing on that stuff. A lot of people will tell you it's when they stopped focusing on finding a significant other that they actually find one. If things are going equally bad, try to fix that first. It'll make you feel better and make you more attractive to girls in many ways.

You may also need to rethink how you socialize with girls.

Well, my friends just hang out at bars and they don't have any girls that they hang out with as friends. That essentially leaves my social life as "hang out with the guys" quite literally as there are almost never females in our company. I have no problem talking to girls whatsoever, but getting a relationship started isn't that simple. Especially since at 28 I'm back in college so a lot of girls don't see me as a prospect at the moment because I can't support myself on my own while I'm back in college full-time.


But anyways, no sense in going on about myself. This thread was just meant for fun to see if other people have other things they'd like to chime in on about single life.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Well, my friends just hang out at bars and they don't have any girls that they hang out with as friends. That essentially leaves my social life as "hang out with the guys" quite literally as there are almost never females in our company. I have no problem talking to girls whatsoever, but getting a relationship started isn't that simple. Especially since at 28 I'm back in college so a lot of girls don't see me as a prospect at the moment because I can't support myself on my own while I'm back in college full-time.


But anyways, no sense in going on about myself. This thread was just meant for fun to see if other people have other things they'd like to chime in on about single life.

Have to apologize! It did go off topic...

 

[sheisgone24]

It's been quite a while since I had a gf or even a legitimate date, and I'm starting to really realize how depressing it can get without having a significant other. Yea, I can hang out with friends on weekends, but sitting at a bar gets worn out very quickly. Basically, I've come up with a list of reasons why it sucks to not have a gf......

1. No guaranteed date on the weekends

2. Feeling inadequate and awkward when you go to family events (weddings, ect) and you're one of the only cousins there with no gf/bf.

3. Going out to eat consists of stopping by a fast-food joint because you ain't doing sitdown meals in nice restaurants alone.

4. You don't get to do things that couples do like take trips together on long weekends, picnics, random long drives to places you've never been, and other places that you wouldn't go with friends like the zoo or something (fun with a gf, strange with your buddies)

5. When you drink you just get depressed because you're single

6. When you are single all the girls that acted interested in you when you had a gf suddenly become distant and no longer interested

7. Holidays are just the worst.......don't even get me started on how depressing holidays are when you're single

8. Worst of all.....once your friends get gf's, you don't have anyone to hang out with and end up spending your weekends watching tv alone.


any other things I missed???

Being single sucks that is true, no denying it! However as someone that was in a LTR that went on for way too long I will give you an equally depressing list as to way having a GF/BF can be just as bad ...... here goes:

1. Your guaranteed date on the weekends will say she/he is too tired to do anything on Friday because of stressful week at work and then won't make plans with you until 5:30 on Saturday night.

2. Feeling inadequate and awkward when you go to family events (weddings, ect) because all everyone is asking you why you guys aren't married yet.

3. Going out to eat consists of you going back and forth for an hour trying to figure out where to go "Where do you want to go, what are you in the mood for, have you heard good things about ......" and the reply you will get is usually "Whatever you pick." Then you get to said restaurant and the wait for a table is over an hour and you just end up stopping by a fast-food joint.

4. Romantic trips usually end in disaster ...with someone in emergency room or nearly arrested and the hotel sex never materializes....

5. When you drink you get depressed because you wish you were still single.

6. When you are in a relationship all the guys/girls you thought were cute, funny, would be great to go out with, but aren't interested in you suddenly become interested in you.....

7. Holidays - see #2.

8. Once you are in a relationship your single friends call you a sellout and a trader.

Ok Ok my list is a little tongue in cheek, but being single and being in a relationship both have their ups and downs. And yeah I will admit that is why I am here, isn't that why lots and lots of us are here, looking for that
special person that gets us.....

Well, my friends just hang out at bars and they don't have any girls that they hang out with as friends. That essentially leaves my social life as "hang out with the guys" quite literally as there are almost never females in our company. I have no problem talking to girls whatsoever, but getting a relationship started isn't that simple. Especially since at 28 I'm back in college so a lot of girls don't see me as a prospect at the moment because I can't support myself on my own while I'm back in college full-time.


But anyways, no sense in going on about myself. This thread was just meant for fun to see if other people have other things they'd like to chime in on about single life.

Its great that you are going back to college! And if the girls that you hang with don't see that investment that you are making in yourself as a heck of a lot of potential - screw 'em!

This is a fun thread. I giggled quite a bit making up my list.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

You have the power to change all this.

 

[Bohemianne]

You have the power to change all this.

^ LOL! Hit my head please, I need those words in my head for some other reason.

 

[Artoo]

Eh, I've resigned myself to being single for the time being.
Does it suck? Yes.
Do I feel like I'm missing out? Sometimes.
Have I realised that there are sometimes more important things in life than having someone at your side? Yes.

 

[Dave Pavet]

The grass is always greener on the other side.

 

[ndj101982]

You people do realize this list is a generalization and not self-loathing right? It is just a list I made up of things I assume most people view about being single. I think people are misinterpretting what I was trying to do. And oh yea, for the guy that made that big long list about why having a gf sucks....seriously...."your friends will call you a traitor????".. Yea, wouldn't want to go have sex with a girl when I can continue being part of the sausage club.

 

[tickledorange]

2. Feeling inadequate and awkward when you go to family events (weddings, ect) because all everyone is asking you why you guys aren't married yet.

I have one for this one. After you do the wedding thing, people ask you all the time, "So when are you going to have kids?"

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

List of Reasons Why Being Single Rocks

1.) You don't have to do shit you don't want to do.

As if that wasn't enough...

2.) No worrying over meeting the parents.
3.) You don't have to make sure that your apartment is always clean in case they "happen to be in the neighborhood." (i.e. come over uninvited).
4.) Shaving daily becomes an option.
5.) You don't have to push anyone onto their own side of the bed in the middle of the night.
6.) You don't have to worry about getting an extra invite every time someone asks you to do something.
7.) You can come as go as you please without anyone getting jealous, asking questions, or wanting to tag along.
8.) Having friends of the opposite sex isn't an issue.
9.) You can go to gatherings and do whatever you want with whoever you want without having to make sure your significant other is comfortable with it.
10.) No spending money you don't have on gifts or dinners for birthdays, anniversaries and stupid holidays like Valentine's Day.
11.) You can go on trips with your friends without listening to someone bitch.
12.) You can flirt with other people without someone getting all butthurt.
13.) You don't have to figure out how to spend time with your family AND his/her family on holidays.
14.) You don't have to consider someone else's opinion when deciding what movie you want to watch, what you want to eat, how you want to spend your weekend..or really anything ever.
15.) You don't have to mediate disagreements between that person and your family/friends.
16.) Once again, you don't have to do shit you don't want to do.

 

[Snail Shell]

You have the power to change all this.

1.) You don't have to do shit you don't want to do.

As if that wasn't enough...

2.) No worrying over meeting the parents.
3.) You don't have to make sure that your apartment is always clean in case they "happen to be in the neighborhood." (i.e. come over uninvited).
4.) Shaving daily becomes an option.
5.) You don't have to push anyone onto their own side of the bed in the middle of the night.
6.) You don't have to worry about getting an extra invite every time someone asks you to do something.
7.) You can come as go as you please without anyone getting jealous, asking questions, or wanting to tag along.
8.) Having friends of the opposite sex isn't an issue.
9.) You can go to gatherings and do whatever you want with whoever you want without having to make sure your significant other is comfortable with it.
10.) No spending money you don't have on gifts or dinners for birthdays, anniversaries and stupid holidays like Valentine's Day.
11.) You can go on trips with your friends without listening to someone bitch.
12.) You can flirt with other people without someone getting all butthurt.
13.) You don't have to figure out how to spend time with your family AND his/her family on holidays.
14.) You don't have to consider someone else's opinion when deciding what movie you want to watch, what you want to eat, how you want to spend your weekend..or really anything ever.
15.) You don't have to mediate disagreements between that person and your family/friends.
16.) Once again, you don't have to do shit you don't want to do.

And the winners are....

There's nothing necessarily wrong with being single so long as you're happy. If you're not happy being single, you can do things to change it.

SS

 

[Bugman]

It's been quite a while since I had a gf or even a legitimate date, and I'm starting to really realize how depressing it can get without having a significant other. Yea, I can hang out with friends on weekends, but sitting at a bar gets worn out very quickly. Basically, I've come up with a list of reasons why it sucks to not have a gf......

1. No guaranteed date on the weekends

That was never a big deal to me, even when I was younger.

2. Feeling inadequate and awkward when you go to family events (weddings, ect) and you're one of the only cousins there with no gf/bf.

Can't say that ever bothered me either.

3. Going out to eat consists of stopping by a fast-food joint because you ain't doing sitdown meals in nice restaurants alone.

I eat wherever I feel like eating, alone or not.

4. You don't get to do things that couples do like take trips together on long weekends, picnics, random long drives to places you've never been, and other places that you wouldn't go with friends like the zoo or something (fun with a gf, strange with your buddies)

Done all those things, and many more, all solo. Never stopped me from enjoying myself.

5. When you drink you just get depressed because you're single

Nope, not me. 🙂

6. When you are single all the girls that acted interested in you when you had a gf suddenly become distant and no longer interested

I've heard that all my life. I guess it might be true sometimes but I've had it work both ways.

7. Holidays are just the worst.......don't even get me started on how depressing holidays are when you're single

I stopped observing, and caring about hoildays in my teens so it has never been an issue. I know many single people do feel that way.

8. Worst of all.....once your friends get gf's, you don't have anyone to hang out with and end up spending your weekends watching tv alone.

As mentioned, I've never let the lack of a girlfriend keep me from doing things I enjoy. I'm only cheating myself that way. If I was dating someone, great. If not, I did (and do) things I like doing.

any other things I missed???

 

[sheisgone24]

You people do realize this list is a generalization and not self-loathing right? It is just a list I made up of things I assume most people view about being single. I think people are misinterpretting what I was trying to do. And oh yea, for the guy that made that big long list about why having a gf sucks....seriously...."your friends will call you a traitor????".. Yea, wouldn't want to go have sex with a girl when I can continue being part of the sausage club.

Um - I am a woman and my list was equally a generalization and for fun. Hmmmmm.