Living with tickling fetish

[FootballGuy]

Do you play with both men and women?

No but I've considered playing with men just because of the availability. I've PM'd or talked with a number of men but could never go through with it.

Are there no normal, down to earth females here? I know they're hard to find among the dudes pretending to be female, but that's how this statement reads...

Also, I almost never see a female make a post in personals. Just sayin'.

Of course, I don't mean to sound so absolute. It's just that they are pretty hard to find or they are flakey or in a relationship or a million miles away or have no interest in ever meeting someone online/me. I wasn't referring to just personals but I can see how you might think that based on the way I said it. I meant any post anywhere really.

What do you count as the "tickle world"? Just this website or...?

Nah. Anywhere where people like us gather.

 

[chicago]

Of course, I don't mean to sound so absolute. It's just that they are pretty hard to find or they are flakey or in a relationship or a million miles away or have no interest in ever meeting someone online/me.

I have had those exact same problems when trying to meet people numerous times.

 

[CaptainValiant]

The hardest thing about it was going through the early teenage years, being more interested in tickling than sex. Being on the fringe with everything else made me feel like I was not well adjusted and just plain weird. We're all a special snowflake, we really are.

 

[Emishticklish]

It used to be, for me, but now I'm so open about it. I was nervous about bringing it to my Girlfriend's attention....like always, but she was accepting. So for the moment living with it isn't so bad.

 

[Alliekat]

It's gotten much easier. I'm open about it with my husband of 20 years, who has no problem with me being active on the TMF and he knows I like to chat with others for fun. Since he doesn't share the fetish he's glad I have an outlet for it. To me, the fact that my husband is wonderful man, father, and still love of my life after 20 years is way hotter than tickling. So yeah, get my fix online and that's that 🙂

 

[FootballGuy]

I have had those exact same problems when trying to meet people numerous times.

Right but numerous times. Not every time.

Keep in mind what I'm saying here. Women with our fetish don't have it easy. Just easier than men. If you started a thread right now saying you were looking to chat with men, your inbox would likely explode but you'd definitely find a few worthy dudes in there. I think we can both agree that that would not happen if I did likewise. Again, just being real here.

FWIW, I do think men have it easier in vanilla world. There are way more dateable women there than men in my opinion.

 

[jkb]

It's hard for someone like me because I'm not particularly ticklish. I'm not NOT ticklish, but it swings back and forth depending and I never get full on 10 out of 10 ticklish, so a lot of the tickle fantasies I have are destined to go unfulfilled. By "a lot", I mean "all".

 

[Thatsecretchord]

Right but numerous times. Not every time.

Keep in mind what I'm saying here. Women with our fetish don't have it easy. Just easier than men. If you started a thread right now saying you were looking to chat with men, your inbox would likely explode but you'd definitely find a few worthy dudes in there. I think we can both agree that that would not happen if I did likewise. Again, just being real here.

FWIW, I do think men have it easier in vanilla world. There are way more dateable women there than men in my opinion.

I think I see where your coming from with this but honestly if you were a chick would you want 20+ weird/old/gross/perverted/socially retarded guys flooding your inbox every day? Having the pick of the bunch is overrated when the bunch is rotten right? It would just be a headache. A lot of people that come on here don't actually want to talk to people or meet up with people but it's like if your female you've got a responsibility to entertain the masses! It's fucked man!

 

[chicago]

Right but numerous times. Not every time.

Keep in mind what I'm saying here. Women with our fetish don't have it easy. Just easier than men. If you started a thread right now saying you were looking to chat with men, your inbox would likely explode but you'd definitely find a few worthy dudes in there. I think we can both agree that that would not happen if I did likewise. Again, just being real here.

FWIW, I do think men have it easier in vanilla world. There are way more dateable women there than men in my opinion.

I mean, assuming that's you in your signature and based on our interaction in this thread (you don't express yourself like an ogre like a lot of people on here - both men and women), I'm surprised you've had ZERO luck. I'm not calling you a liar by any means, just that certainly strikes me as odd. I still don't think either gender has it harder / easier, but you make good points..

 

[aonix]

I've lived with it since I was 12 or so and never tickled anyone (like actual tickling, not the quick 3-4 second kind) or been tickled. This forum has been my only outlet or even communication regarding the subject for my entire life. I got on this forum when I was 18 and never met anyone from it, never really had the nerve to. Never really even communicated on this forum much (4 posts in 12 years, wow) In all of the relationships I've been in, no one has ever liked being tickled so I've had to squelch the fetish.

It sucks. It's a whole side of myself that I have to oppress and it's really frustrating.

edit: that's not entirely accurate, I did sign up for a few of the regional gatherings but they kept getting cancelled or rescheduled, and I couldn't fly out during the new times 🙁

 

[SilverCherry]

Nice thread 🙂 I'd like to throw in my 2 cents if I may.

I've had a tickling and foot fetish for as long as I can remember. I may have just been really lucky, but every single one of my girlfriends were open to my fetishes, both foot and tickling. I'm no Casanova by any means. But what seemed to work for me was not putting it out there right away. My feeling was, after a little while she'll see that I'm not a bad guy and that I treat her with respect and I'm relatively normal. Then after a while, and during one of the inevitable discussions about sex and turn-ons etc., I can reveal to her one of my "silly little things" and then go from there. I'd have to feel around for when the time was right. Sometimes it took a little longer. But that has always worked for me. One thing is, you absolutely have to get over the embarrassment of opening up. That is so key. And the moment you do, and she seems cool with it..man it's a rush! I've opened up, only to learn that the girl had her own kinks and that she "couldn't believe" she told me, but she felt comfortable because I opened up.

So to me it's been about timing and how it's presented. At least from my experience anyway.


I do believe that, in general, MOST girls are pretty open-minded about these type of things. Not everyone is going to be into our fetish. But there are many who won't mind exploring.

 

[FootballGuy]

I mean, assuming that's you in your signature and based on our interaction in this thread (you don't express yourself like an ogre like a lot of people on here - both men and women), I'm surprised you've had ZERO luck. I'm not calling you a liar by any means, just that certainly strikes me as odd. I still don't think either gender has it harder / easier, but you make good points..

Oh yeah that's me. Well thanks, that's nice of you. You may be right and I have just had bad luck. I'm not giving up hope by any means though. 🙂

 

[aussietickler1]

I've absolutely found it difficult, and I think it really stems from a strong sense of embarrassment that I have about my thing for tickling. I mean, I've been in relationships and never felt comfortable bringing it up for fear of losing the relationship, being ridiculed, or whatever. And it's all well and good to say "well why would you want to be with a person like that anyway", but the fact of the matter is that tickling as a fetish is preeetty taboo and it's hard to know how any 'vanilla' person would react - even if they seem lovely in every way. And then being single is a whole other thing, it's virtually impossible to incorporate tickle play into a fling or a one-night-stand without coming off as a complete weirdo. But all that aside, I definitely haven't lost hope of having a relationship in which I feel comfortable to express this part of myself with the knowledge that even if the other person doesn't share it (I mean, what are the chances really), I won't be condemned for it.

 

[FeatherEndeavor]

I don't know why someone would tell a person if they weren't interested in them sexually or interested in possibly playing with them. Why even bother having that conversation with someone you're close to, otherwise?

If it's just a friend and not someone I'm attracted to then I'll just tell them about the fetish but not go into any detail about what I do with a partner, during playdates, etc. But the fetish is a part of me. It's one of the aspects of who I am. So my friends have a better chance of understanding who I am if they're at least aware of the fetish. And it's not like I would tell anyone I happen to be having a conversation with, just very close friends.

 

[chicago]

If it's just a friend and not someone I'm attracted to then I'll just tell them about the fetish but not go into any detail about what I do with a partner, during playdates, etc. But the fetish is a part of me. It's one of the aspects of who I am. So my friends have a better chance of understanding who I am if they're at least aware of the fetish. And it's not like I would tell anyone I happen to be having a conversation with, just very close friends.

I dunno. I just don't feel like it affects my personality towards platonic friends so I guess it's hard for me to understand why someone would willingly have that awkward conversation with someone that they wouldn't play with and risk having them judge you or feel strange towards you / read into something about why you are telling them lol. But it sounds like you have found something that works for you and that's awesome.