looking for some advice please

[99skylinegtr]

ok how do i ask this?...well i want to tell my gf about my foot fetish this summer but im not sure how to do it. one of my friends told her that he has a foot fetish (which he does have a huge fetish) and she thinks its weird, nd feet are disgusting, and nasty..now i wanna tell her the truth about how..i like womans feet but its more of a if you take care of your feet and make them look nice its a huge plus..now i like sucking a girls toes and its not like im just telling her so i can do this to her..but i want to be open and finally get it out there with her. i have told othe friends and people and it kinda gets me up there with confidence..now this girl means the world to me and i have never felt this way before so i know its worth telling her and she wont change towards me im just worried how to tell her..and im sure people here will tell me how i should have already told her and stop being a baby about it and i understand thats how people feel about the subject...now i felt better telling other people when i first told my friend and she told me she had did a research on fetishes or something on the subject, and about 87% of all guys have a foot fetish of some size..they just dont tell you about it..if anybody can help me with this it would reall be appreciated

 

[blondie46]

I think telling about a fetish is a give and take kind of conversation. Like you get on the subject and ask her, maybe not even using the term "fetish," but as to "what turns her on," etc., then the logical step (if y'all have good rapport, and it sounds like you do) is to tell yours.

We step in to some pretty sensitive ground when it comes to personal remarks and suggestions.

 

[thetickleking]

Yeah, definitely don't start out using the word "fetish." It tends to sound perverse. One idea might be to let her know that you like to "spoil" her feet. Massaging, caressing, etc., etc., etc. Wait a little while on the toe sucking part. Whether you care if her feet are clean or not (I only say this because I have a friend who used to date a guy, who liked to take her shoes off, after she got home from work, and suck the sweat off of them), wait until after she's had a bath, and start "pampering" her feet. After she's had her bath, of course she won't think they're "nasty", and shouldn't be taken quite as aback, if you take that opportunity to nibble a little on a toe or two. Timing and patience is the key. My wife was the same way. She's still not really into tickling, but I can have my way with her feet (they're not hyper-ticklish). She thinks I'm silly to enjoy nibbling on her toes, and sucking her toes, but she enjoys it. I for one, though, am not crazy about "sucking the sweat off of them." I prefer them to be clean, before I start to work on them.

 

[99skylinegtr]

same here with the clean part lol...well she thinks feet are nasty, and shes a girl..most girls think they have ugly feet

 

[99skylinegtr]

done

ok guys its done i told her tonight..she said its honestly fine..i think its because we are so good together that its not a big deal at all and everything worked out..she dont like the idea of somebody sucking her toes but she said i could..i wanna thank everybody, the few who gave advice, and everybody else on this forum because being with you guys over the past i have got so much confidence to tell people....so thank you all...from the bottom of my heart, thank you

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

While she's getting used to this idea, you might try moving slowly. Give her some nice foot massages. Let her start feeling positive about her feet. As she grows more comfortable with the idea, it'll be easier for her to accept sucking on her toes etc.

When Drew (my hubby) first mentioned his foot fetish, while I'd already known people who had one, I wasn't really sure what I thought of it. I didn't mind him playing with my feet. In fact, I rather enjoyed it. It was more the thought of it as a fetish that made it feel weird at first...just like with tickling itself. I think half the battle is thinking of it as something that naturally flows into things for some people rather than as a "fetish" since that word brings odd and often negative thoughts to many people.

Sounds like you've got yourself a great gal. Good luck!

Ann

 

[Mitchell]

I've been through this with my ex girlfriend, because I had the foot fetish long before tickling, so I've had a bit of experience with this.
The way I would do such a thing, which Iam sure I will have to again, when I get a new girlfriend, is to be very casual, and almost matter of fact about it. Dont just blurt out: "I have a fetish, and I want to kiss your feet", because that makes someone who may not understand stand offish, and can put them on the defensive. Assure her that you love her, and that you enjoy her whole body, and all her qualities, and then when discussing what makes you happy, make it almost like: "I would do anything for you. That's what people in relationships who care for each other do. I enjoy feet as part of the greater sexual experience. I hope you will be okay with me paying attention to your feet as part of sex. We can start slowly, and make it brief at first, and then, hopefully, if you get more comfortable with it, it can become part of our intimacy." Doing so in this way reassures her that you care of her as a whole person, and, I think, avoids putting her on the spot. Hopefully, if she sees that, she will see that you are placing her needs as very important, and even if she doesn't love feet, she will compromise to say:" Gee, this guy really is into me, and all of me, so if I love him, and care for him, I want to do this to make him happy, which will enhance how he feels about me, and make our relationship better"
I hope this advice helps. As I said, I've been through this, and it worked this way for me, and I hope it can for you too. My philosophy is that if two people in any relationship love and care for each other, and work at it, and compromise, and engage in give and take, any barriers can be overcome.

Good Luck,
Mitch

P'S I didnt read your latest post. Sorry. I'm glad it all worked out for you. I will say that from what I've heard, many women who might have ticklish feet dont love the idea of having their toes sucked. Experiment, and find what feels comfortable for both of you.

 

[99skylinegtr]

haha well today was the first day i ever rubbed some lotion on them...and he feet havent been ticklish like they used to be but she said they got her pretty ticklish there again..nd i was rubbing the lotion inbetween the toes nd she was goin crazy it tickled her so much lol...yea i really hope she likes it...but if she doesnt i still think she loves me enough to say idc go ahead lol