Lustful tickling vs. Pure heart-joy tickling

[yeayeayea]

My whole life I've had a tickling fetish; since I was 4, nothing has turned me on more than tickling a girl's bare feet. I have an impressive tickle porn collection and I bet I could tell you the names of most the girls I know if you only showed me a picture of their feet.

I've recently started to look at tickling deeper than lust. My girlfriend loves to be tickled and I love to tickle her, but it seems that there is much more beauty and joy in tickling than can be contained by an orgasm. For too long, lustful tickling has blinded me to this beauty and joy. Now, I want to love tickling with my HEART and not my penis. I want to be free of, "This turns me on, then after I have an orgasm I won't care." I want to feel only heartfelt joy and appreciation of the beauty of my 'lee as she laughs sweetly and submits to the tickling of her beautiful body.

Do any of you experience tickling in this way? Have any of you made this type of transition? Could you help me out? 🙂

Thank you,
--Mike

 

[-Hari-]

with me, it came with age and experience, i first just wanted to do it cause it turned me on. I eventually reached a stage where i just love tickling as a whole, and this opened up many doors, i don't feel weird if a friend tickles me as it doesn't have to be a sexual thing anymore and when it is sexual, its a shared activity that i enjoy and feel happy about for days after, the whole thing stopped feeling like a dark dirty and wrong feeling like it used to and became something beautiful.

 

[E-Dawg]

for me...........

It's hard to avoid being turned on when I tickle my girlfriend (especially if I tickle her feet). Tickling her and watching her squirm is fun, but I can't help it when I get turned on. If I have to undress her feet first, then I will be turned on instantly (espcially with the sock-stripping).

 

[drummerboy]

Its certainly hard for any kind of prolonged tickling not to automatically become a turn-on. Thats just me!

 

[Texas_Tickle]

Its certainly hard for any kind of prolonged tickling not to automatically become a turn-on. Thats just me!

Ditto.

For me, tickling is a form of foreplay.

 

[ticklethisangel]

My whole life I've had a tickling fetish; since I was 4, nothing has turned me on more than tickling a girl's bare feet. I have an impressive tickle porn collection and I bet I could tell you the names of most the girls I know if you only showed me a picture of their feet.

I've recently started to look at tickling deeper than lust. My girlfriend loves to be tickled and I love to tickle her, but it seems that there is much more beauty and joy in tickling than can be contained by an orgasm. For too long, lustful tickling has blinded me to this beauty and joy. Now, I want to love tickling with my HEART and not my penis. I want to be free of, "This turns me on, then after I have an orgasm I won't care." I want to feel only heartfelt joy and appreciation of the beauty of my 'lee as she laughs sweetly and submits to the tickling of her beautiful body.

Do any of you experience tickling in this way? Have any of you made this type of transition? Could you help me out? 🙂

Thank you,
--Mike

For me tickling has always been the beauty of it first and for most. I tried to explain to some members in the forum but I was screamed at because they did not understand me and what I was saying.
I think that if you tickle because it is a turn on for you and you only see tickling as sexual than that is good for you....BUT there is a another side to tickling too that is wonderful, and it sounds like you are seeing that side now Mike.
I love to be tickled like crazy, to be able to laugh and scream and go totally nutz without the sex added to it....AND YES sex is great I love sex too. I could engage in sexual activities all day without stopping but, I also love just being tickled as well.
Imagine your loved one, or a friend coming in and attacking you, pinning you down and tickling you to no mercy and you there just being able to laugh, scream, beg and plead for mercy it is a most wonderful feeling. I think that any type of tickling is great but honesty, I love the playful side of it. I think it also brings you closer to your loved one because they see a side of you that no one else sees.

 

[DimpleToes]

There are different kinds of tickling: with freinds that has no sexual aftermath and with your partner which can be hours of sensual foreplay and arrousal. Both are exciting in there own way and both can lead to eachother, yet with time and understanding of yourself and mutual true freinships you can have play time with out crossing the lines, Meaning you can have play time with freinds with out it turning sexual.
Play time with your GF, think of it as a learning expereince. As you first started exploring her body and every time you are with her, worship her body and every nerve ending with you touch.. drive her crazy to the point of a heavnly experence and always leave her wanting to come back for more. It is an art of expression one's love for eachother if done correctly. It is a sensual thing. Show her that she is the most important thing in the world to you and ask her what her likes and wants are. Also, talk about fantasies you both have & waht your both willing to try at least once, find out what you like and dont like, each of you.

I hope this helps you with your question, this is a great place to ask. I am sure you will receive lots of advice from both men who know how to treat women and from women who know how they like it themselves.

Hugggs/Lisa

 

[yeayeayea]

Thanks guys, this really helps so far. 🙂 It seems that tickling really has the potential to have like, a spiritual vibe about it. 🙂

 

[yeayeayea]

It seems that for me, the secret to the transition from lustful tickling to pure heart-joy tickling is doing it totally for the 'lee's pleasure! My girlfriend and I are talking about having her 'lead' a tickle session, asking me to tickle her exactly how she likes it, and me focusing on her enjoyment and giving, rather than how much I love tickling her. It's totally changed the vibe.

 

[DownUnder]

It seems that for me, the secret to the transition from lustful tickling to pure heart-joy tickling is doing it totally for the 'lee's pleasure! My girlfriend and I are talking about having her 'lead' a tickle session, asking me to tickle her exactly how she likes it, and me focusing on her enjoyment and giving, rather than how much I love tickling her. It's totally changed the vibe.

I like the way you say it. Isn't that just like the basis of human interaction - that everything should bring along a mutual benefit?

Friendly, playful tickling with friends brings about an increased closeness; although I must confess, if I get the change to tickle some of my beautiful lady friends (even on a playful basis), I would find it hard to NOT be turned on! 😀

But the key is to know where the boundary is. Being in a committed relationship, where you KNOW who to go to for more sexual-oriented tickling, helps establishing boundaries when it comes to engaging in tickling play with friends.

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

I know its really surprising, but for me tickling someone isn't really a turn on. SEEING someone tickled, or thinking about tickling them, does, but when I'm actually tickling someone... its just really really fun. =D They squirm and laugh and flop all over the place and you can't help but smile and just wanna do it more. lol With every touch you get some different reaction, from them trying to say "quit" while laughing too much, to just laugh-yells.

Now, since I really only tickle girls I am going out with (not quite comfortable with just tickling a girl I'm not seeing... dunno why, just seems a little too intimate I guess), unless they are tied up I use it as a good excuse to snag a quick hug. If they are tied up... oooo I can amuse myself for hours. =D

I guess I get so caught up in the moment I don't think about it being a turn on. lol