I have a question for those of you in relationships with people not into tickling... how do you channel the extra "energy"?
I'm a 36 year old woman who LOVES to be tickled. There's literally nothing I love more. I was very active on the scene in my early to mid twenties and considered myself insatiable. I simply could not get enough of tickling. I met my now husband when I was 29.
When I met him I had stepped down from the tickle scene for about a year. I'd had some complicated experiences which had put me off - feelings developing for tickle partners, boundaries getting overstepped, it got messy... I decided at 28 that I wouldn't have casual sessions anymore and would instead be honest with any future romantic partners about my tickle fetish.
It worked out well... at first... my now husband was the second boyfriend I ever shared my love of tickling with. He has a foot fetish so tickling was the perfect companion to it and our sex life was electric. He was so invested in tickling me and I had some of my very BEST tickle experiences with him (and keep in mind I was tickled by some pros in the past).
However.... it's been nearly 7 years later and his interest has dimmed. He'll tickle me a bit during sex (like once a week if I'm lucky) but the intensity, length of sessiond and spontaneity has stopped. He's just not that into it anymore. It's heartbreaking for me.
Last week, after I spoke to him about how much I miss it, he gave me an intense tickle, just pinned me down and tickled my underarms while lickling my neck and verbally teasing me. It was a good 20mins of heaven and then it was over. All I can do is keep thinking about it and wondering when I'll get to experience it again and wondering what to do with all these cravings. If anything, it only made the obsession worse like an addict who got a little taste of their drug of choice. Even though he knows how to blow my mind if he wants to, I feel he's just going through the motions which kind of kills it for me.
I love my husband and wouldn't want to do anything to jeopardise my marriage. He's not comfortable with me being tickled by someone else and I know that to travel that path would end my relationship. But tickling is on my mind like ALL the time. And it's somewhat of a chore to him now. I don't know what to do.
Is there anyone in similar situation who can tell me what they do? I am thinking to channel the energy into writing and reading tickle stories, or find better videos, or get new toys? Something because I feel like I'm going crazy and I am open to suggestions...
