Meeting someone new as ticklee

[shy ticklee1]

For those of you who have been fortunate enough to meet with someone as 'ler or 'lee, how long did you know the person before you trusted them enough to be in that situation?

 

[CoffeeBacon]

10 minutes, after talking with them I felt safe enough to allow them to tie me down.

 

[11225]

You actually put up a pretty good question there.

 

[ghosthunter0]

There really isn't a time frame for this. Tickling, like anything else in the kink community, boils down to trust.

You need to trust that this person will have your best interest at heart while you're playing, trust that they KNOW what they're doing and won't do anything that will truly hurt you, and trust that they will know their limits.

Key things to watch for is him/her asking what you are comfortable with, what you like and don't like, and whether you have any special considerations that they need to worry about (such as a latex allergy,etc). I've had this conversation in as little as 45 minutes; but some people may take longer.

RULE OF THUMB: If someone isn't giving you a good vibe, SKIP THEM AND MOVE ON. You don't want a 'ler who doesn't know what he or she is doing, or does something deliberately stupid or dangerous.

 

[shy_ticklee_m]

There really isn't a time frame for this. Tickling, like anything else in the kink community, boils down to trust.

You need to trust that this person will have your best interest at heart while you're playing, trust that they KNOW what they're doing and won't do anything that will truly hurt you, and trust that they will know their limits.

Key things to watch for is him/her asking what you are comfortable with, what you like and don't like, and whether you have any special considerations that they need to worry about (such as a latex allergy,etc). I've had this conversation in as little as 45 minutes; but some people may take longer.

RULE OF THUMB: If someone isn't giving you a good vibe, SKIP THEM AND MOVE ON. You don't want a 'ler who doesn't know what he or she is doing, or does something deliberately stupid or dangerous.

Took the words right out of my mouth about the Rule of thumb xD.

 

[CoffeeBacon]

Meet the person with a friend, if they are not okay with you having a friend there, then they have bad intentions.

or tell a friend where you will be and have them call you at a certain time to check, if no response, have them ready to call the police or give them their address.

 

[shy_ticklee_m]

If it's your first time with the person establish a safe word too. A friend there will also help or at least establishing a call time for them in case anything is too go wrong.

 

[LittleFeather1]

Almost two years....I ended up falling in love with him, so he was more than just my 'ler. But with him was my first time as a 'lee. 🙂

 

[ticklebug101]

Back in 2010, I started talking to my lee in March, and we met for a physical session near the end of May. The Friday was spent talking, making sure we were both at ease, and the Saturday afternoon, we met at the train station and I take her to see the London production of Wicked. Sitting beside your lee and moving your fingers in time to the music is fun. I've never seen someone focus so hard on a stage 😉

 

[cypress]

So far, I've been comfortable emailing/IMing with someone for a week or two and having at least one phone conversation before taking the plunge. I also make a point to verify that they are who they say they are, whether that's through Facebook, LinkedIn, or some other online "evidence" that checks out. We meet in public, and if that goes well, it's off to the races in under an hour. Like you, I'm pretty new to this life, but so far I can't complain. Just be careful, and have fun! 🙂

 

[tickle_fan031]

Back in 2010, I started talking to my lee in March, and we met for a physical session near the end of May. The Friday was spent talking, making sure we were both at ease, and the Saturday afternoon, we met at the train station and I take her to see the London production of Wicked. Sitting beside your lee and moving your fingers in time to the music is fun. I've never seen someone focus so hard on a stage 😉

Haha cant think why?! :lol


For me it varies. Just depends on the person. I try and leave it a few months at least just to see how we get on talking etc.
But then again I can talk to people for years and I still havent met them yet.
Or what I have done in the past just met up for a coffee with someone and see how that goes. If things feel awkward just having a coffee or whatever then that gives you an idea what it might be like if they were to tie you down and tickle you or vice versa.

For me we have got to have common ground and be able to hold a conversation because being able to do that can help ease the first meeting nerves etc. Besides it doesnt have to be all about tickling. In fact that is a must for me.Got to be able to have a normal conversation with me....otherwise it is goodbye 🙂

 

[ticklebug101]

We found a way to break the ice when we got back from the theatre though 😉