Most marriages would be saved with a little tickling

[GQguy]

Ok. Perhaps my viewpoint is a bit naive considering my bachelor status...but I believe that tickling could save marriages!

My theory. I feel that after physical intimacy leaves a relationship if the two partners have outside dating options the relationship will end. We humans NEED physical intimacy. Sometimes life gets the best of us however and we neglect this need. It's just not high on your priority list. I propose that all couples engage in tickling as the first order of business when getting home from work. Don't feed the dog. Don't check your e-mail. Gentlemen grab your wife by the foot(my fav spot, but you can choose your own!) and tickle her. Pin her down and give her the giggles. Big kiss afterward

I've dated alot of women, none of which likes tickling. But they all respond to it as a show of affection and a delicious power play infused with childhood enthusiasm. Sex usuallly follows which helps make the relationship stronger. Leaving the toilet seat up isn't such a big deal if you're pleasing your woman consistently and vice versa.

I bet you Al and Tipper Gore would still be together if Al tickled Tipper after a day of inventing the internet.

GQguy

 

[Deuce]

Ok now pretend your married and the wife comes homes after a bad day at work and then makes dinner as the kids are fighting then you help clean up and you both relax after going now maybe 14 hours non stop and you tickle her and I guess your also wondering why the E.R. room is always packed lol.

ps good luck in finding the mrs 🙂

 

[Mephistopheles]

Deary me, that's a daring statement isn't it, old chap.

 

[GQguy]

Deary me, that's a daring statement isn't it, old chap.

LOL. It is! I'm waiting for the divorcees on the forum to rip me apart!

Perhaps if they tickled me instead of ripping me apart we can keep our non existant relationship together?

Anyway this is the excuse I give the women I date that hate tickling. The girls find it funny. I tell them I tickle them because I find them attractive. If/when I stop it means i'm not attracted to them anymore. Which is true. Ironically enough if I don't tickle a girl I normally would tickle, she'll tickle me to get me to tickle her even though she "hates" it!

I love women.

 

[eric33]

I,m going with Deuce on this one ,...really have to chose your mate carefully when it comes to tickling ,..make sure she's on the same page or at least the same paragraph , that,s from experience sad to say.

 

[rhiannon]

I propose that all couples engage in tickling as the first order of business when getting home from work. Don't feed the dog. Don't check your e-mail. Gentlemen grab your wife by the foot(my fav spot, but you can choose your own!) and tickle her. Pin her down and give her the giggles. Big kiss afterward

If my husband did that to me, I would rip him to pieces. And I love tickling. Go figure what would happen if you did it to a vanilla woman!

Deuce hit the nail on the head!

 

[GQguy]

If my husband did that to me, I would rip him to pieces. And I love tickling. Go figure what would happen if you did it to a vanilla woman!

Deuce hit the nail on the head!

That's funny. I've dated MANY women, all of which are vanilla and none would/have reacted the same way you would. But like I mentioned above i'm pretty naive about how marriage works. Sounds as though it sucks. And that is sort of my point. While i've never dated a girl that would hang out on the forums and call themselves a lee/ler it's undeniable that tickling is fun and flirty in moderation. The main girl i'm seeing now is getting back into town from a week at the spa and she knows i'm going to tickle her, and I know she can't wait. For me to not express my affection in that way would be a disappointment. She'd most likely tickle me! But she is not unique. I can't think of one woman that i've been with that has reacted differently. Unless of course she was nolonger attracted to me, then i'd get the "rip me to pieces" reaction. Perhaps this is part of the honey moon stage? I'll experiment and let you know!

But i'll concede that I know little about marriage. I'm learning though! Fun theory and the women I date eat it up.

 

[rhiannon]

DATING and being together for a long time are two different stories indeed! When you are still dating, freshly dating, your partner will suck up stuff he/she doesn't like to please you. Once you are together for a while, you will - and should! - tell your partner if you don't appreciate something, or you will get pretty frustrated over time.

But like I mentioned above i'm pretty naive about how marriage works. Sounds as though it sucks.

It doesn't. Actually, it's nice being able to be just like you are around someone and the person will still love you! The thing is: not a lot of people would appreciate being tickled after a long working day when they get home and are tired! Not people who are into it and not people who are not into it. It's that simple!

 

[CuteJill143]

Um I need someone like that! Hello! Laughter is joy. Its all about the closeness tickling brings to the 2 people. Its like at that moment in time the only thing they are both thinking about is the tickling and they forget about everything else. Its a quick getaway from this stupid reality we all live in. I'd rather be pinned down and tickled any day then just an unenthusiastic kiss. mehh Its the most affectionate thing one can do to another.

 

[maniactickler]

I think the key to happiness is variety. i say dont ever get married and just tickle as many women as humanly possible. i think even tickling the same woman for years would get old just like sex. theres only so much creativity or experimenting you can do.

 

[ticklishfeetnyc]

Tickling is a fun part of marriage, but there is a time and place for it. You can not expect it to happen everyday.

 

[mb7700]

Um I need someone like that! Hello! Laughter is joy. Its all about the closeness tickling brings to the 2 people. Its like at that moment in time the only thing they are both thinking about is the tickling and they forget about everything else. Its a quick getaway from this stupid reality we all live in. I'd rather be pinned down and tickled any day then just an unenthusiastic kiss. mehh Its the most affectionate thing one can do to another.

(Sigh) If only more people thought this way!

 

[rhiannon]

Tickling is a fun part of marriage, but there is a time and place for it. You can not expect it to happen everyday.

This! Tickling is something that should stay special. Otherwise it's just boring old routine!

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Leaving the toilet seat up isn't such a big deal if you're pleasing your woman consistently and vice versa.

I'd much rather the seat be down then being tickled daily. I don't prefer to have to look at where my man missed the huge round thing with water in it.

 

[asutickler]

Given that I love tickling and hate the idea of getting married, that might have been the most frightening thread title I've ever seen...

 

[..Glamorous..]

Being in the middle of getting divorce.. and having had a relationship with A LOT of tickling and intimacy.. I'm going to say your theory is wrong.

 

[rhiannon]

I'd much rather the seat be down then being tickled daily. I don't prefer to have to look at where my man missed the huge round thing with water in it.

Now there's the hard reality! 🙂 To women, sex isn't quite as important as it is to guys! 😀

But then...today I saw on TV that they sent a really hot model out to the public soccer viewing and she tried to get guys to go home with her rather than watching soccer. NOT ONE went with her. I was truly amazed! 🙂

 

[mb7700]

Now there's the hard reality! 🙂 To women, sex isn't quite as important as it is to guys! 😀

But then...today I saw on TV that they sent a really hot model out to the public soccer viewing and she tried to get guys to go home with her rather than watching soccer. NOT ONE went with her. I was truly amazed! 🙂

Hey, sex is important, but never underestimate the allure that the right sporting event can hold for us guys either! lol

 

[ticklebunny 2]

While yes I would agree that a playful aspect of tickling would help and also would spice up and enhance a marriage and while it might help it improve and get better. I think tickling alone is not and should not be treated or seen as a magic cure all -all size fits one answer for every marriage.-I mean yeah while it could help-add an element possibly of something new and a sense of variety and playfulness -but however I think it also has to go farther than just adding tickling into a marriage for those married couples that enjoy and love tickling. While yes tickling could help jump-start affection being shown and physical intimacy happening it is not the total cure all.

Tickling can enhance and help but also I think it also boils down once again to the emotional dynamics in a marriage or also saying what happens in a relationship between two people. It often has been said if the emotional dynamics and verbal communication are lacking and are not going good during a daily basis, continuously have trouble communciating as a couple his or her wants and needs -or just have trouble talking about certain issues or topics, without fighting-find themselves to be strangers outside the bedroom-more than likely that is going to follow later when at home and inside the dynamics of the bedroom. A sad truth but a truth that many times proves to be the case, not all the time but a big majority of the time. Hence the whole lets not go to bed angry, a great concept in theory but not realistic, lets face it lots of times impossible to keep.

I do think though with good communication between the couple or married couple, respect, friendship, compromise, and being there for each other during the rough times and also during the good times-also striving to fight fair and not fight dirty-keep honor and respect for one's partner-lots of listening and love and dignity shown to one's partner-along with the playful element of tickling with bit of spontaneity and fun-anticipation-this could be a great recipe for a great marriage that is emotionally fulfilling and also dynamic when it comes to sexual intimacy shared in a marriage or in a loving long term relationship- whether the couple are tickle die hard fans or whether one or both might be vanilla or one vanilla...think it is a universal that could help or enhance, help save any marriage or long term relationship.

If tickling is not the enhancement for those that don't share love of tickling, it could be whatever his or her needs might be-for a element of excitement being added, fill in the blanks. That is my view, thanks for sharing this thread, sure it will be very beneficial and very appreciated and loved by many.

 

[GQguy]

I think some might have taken the tickling too literally. I'm not advocating tying your spouse up after a long day. But simply bring the playful side out of her/him after work.

As for the toilet seat, it wasn't literal either. I simply meant that it is FAR easier to overlook your partners faults if there is great sex involved.

Of course tickling can't overcome differences in upbringing, infidelity, money issues and all of the other reasons people divorce. But it can bring out joy in someone that is otherwise living a banal existence.

While i've never been married I must say theres a magical positive change in dynamic that tickling brings in my interactions with women....regardless if they hate it or not. Moderation and being in tunne with her are all key of course.

 

[rhiannon]

But simply bring the playful side out of her/him after work.

Seriously....I know nobody who would want to be tickled after work! Literally everybody I know wants at least an hour of peace, quiet and relaxation after work, including me and my husband.

Playful or not, I would consider being tickled every day after work just ennerving, not even talking about how terribly planned it would be if I knew I'll get tickled right after I get through the door. That would kill spontaneity completely!

I simply meant that it is FAR easier to overlook your partners faults if there is great sex involved.

You are so wrong! 🙂 Everybody has some faults and habits that annoy their partner to no end! And the moment you are pissed, you will not want to have sex. Friends of mine just are getting divorced over that problem.

regardless if they hate it or not

You are dating these girls. They want to be touched by you, no matter how! Unless you are meeting someone who TRULY hates it, you won't have a problem!

 

[Babbles]

(Deleted quotes, just look up 😛 I don't personally enjoy taking up half a freakin' page for no reason... )
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I think you're both (or all 3) right, coming at this from two slightly different perspectives ---- (just dating "vs." married)

Blend these two, with the right, considerate spouse/husband/best friend who communicates (!!!!!)
---loves tickling & shares it nicely, enough to maybe be a bit surprising and not insensitive
and you might have a lucky match.

(Shouldn't be too much to ask... I'd guess couples would want to learn & are tolerant in the process... If you're creative that's a bonus...)

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[Artoo]

Oh lol.

 

[sasaxrah]

Meh, while I agree that every relationship should have laughter and joy... I know when I'm sad or angry, the LAST thing I want is to be tickled. It would really piss me off. If you're doing it in good times, cheers. But I wouldn't tickle as a detour to bad times.

 

[Diego]

Agree with Glamorous

Being in the middle of getting divorce.. and having had a relationship with A LOT of tickling and intimacy.. I'm going to say your theory is wrong.

The same for me Glamorous. Good Luck (and wish me the same please)

Diego