My GF isn't Ticklish :(

[ra2punk]

Alright, so I've got kind of a sad story, and am open to any suggestions. My girlfriend and I have been dating on and off for about 15 months - and one of the reasons why is because I couldn't open up about my tickling fetish. This last breakup we had over the holidays was rough, and I finally decided to tell her the truth because I'd rather have her know the truth than think we broke up for other reasons. I told her about my tickling fetish, and the reasons why I never could get in a 'serious' relationship with her in the past. She didn't mind at all, and even said that she already had thought I might've had a thing for tickling.... damn, I was excited.

However, now we've tried a few times to start up the tickling sessions... and she just isn't really that ticklish! I've done research on these forums to increase sensitivity - I've tried lotion, restraint, 'tickle talk', and all different types of tickling with my fingers. I get literally NO reaction on the feet, and an occasional reaction on the underarms and sides. I truly really care for her, but it's rough knowing I can't tickle her...

At this point, we're open to really any suggestions... she's upset because she can't fullfill my fantasies, and I'm just frustrated that nothing works. PLEASE HELP!

 

[11225]

Oh snap! That is serious.

 

[Bashiku]

My advice is this... if you love her then don't make a big fuss about her ticklishness. Tickling for us is adventure, something that makes us enjoy in the single instance, but tell me this. Would you rather date with the queens amongst the bitches who would annoy you, torture you and use you any way she can find because she is ticklish, or would you be in serious relationship with your current girl even without tickling.

This is what I would do... make a romantic atmosphere in one of the rooms, take her there, put some romantic music, start kissing her neck etc. Then tell her that you love her more than your fetish and that only she matters. There are two reasons for this. Reverse psychology and notation. She will note that you care about her and would try to please you herself any way possible, and through reverse psychology who knows she might getting some ticklish sighs.

Trust me in the end it is more important a good girl than ticklish girl.

 

[Insanitys_Gal]

well put Bashiku.

 

[Barefoot_Sis]

hmm.. you want something from her, but what are you giving in return? If you were giving smiles and appreciation, since she IS letting you look at her foot while you grab her ankle and tickle her sole all day long, she'd be comfortable enough to smile and squirm for you.

So, give something back, first of all.

Let her tickle you. Let her tie you up, give her some electric toothbrushes and feathers and whatever, and let her her go to town on you. Then laugh and giggle and tell her you love her and that she matters to you more than anything. Be sincere, though.
Show her how aroused you get from tickling. Show her how crazy you react. Show her what you want to see. Roleplay for a few minutes.

Then reverse roles. When you're the tickler, talk and act like this, but SINCERELY MEAN IT:

Be a force of nature, tickling not because you are wimpy girl like me, and thus frustrated and angry at the world that it treats you like you treat yourself, (which is how I feel, I mean.. using myself as an example of what not to do) but because you're All That, you know it, and you sit on who you want, when you want, and tickle feet like a Dad or Uncle tickling his little girl.

Talk like this, and SINCERELY SUBCONSCIOUSLY believe it: "Girlfriend, handsome and amazing though I am, I must have you. I can't stop thinking about you, you're smart and funny and everything I dream about. With anyone else I'm in control, but with you.. you are so exquisite, I can't help but want to ravish you. It's you, personally, something only about you. I.. I have to tear your clothes off, drag you by the hair and ankles onto the bed, tie you up and do unspeakable things to you with my fingers. Oh.. I could just look at you, drink you with my eyes. I have to... I want you so much, you are so everything to me.. I just have to tickle you, I can't contain the strong, hard feelings I have for you.. . I want you so much it frustrates me.. ah, I can't even speak any more, the passion is overwhelming! Tickle Tickle Tickle!" And just go to town with kisses and hugs, sneaking in sudden and daring pokes and tickles at random and unexpected moments.

 

[ftmench]

hmm.. you want something from her, but what are you giving in return? If you were giving smiles and appreciation, since she IS letting you look at her foot while you grab her ankle and tickle her sole all day long, she'd be comfortable enough to smile and squirm for you.

So, give something back, first of all.

Let her tickle you. Let her tie you up, give her some electric toothbrushes and feathers and whatever, and let her her go to town on you. Then laugh and giggle and tell her you love her and that she matters to you more than anything. Be sincere, though.
Show her how aroused you get from tickling. Show her how crazy you react. Show her what you want to see. Roleplay for a few minutes.

Then reverse roles. When you're the tickler, talk and act like this, but SINCERELY MEAN IT:

Be a force of nature, tickling not because you are wimpy girl like me, and thus frustrated and angry at the world that it treats you like you treat yourself, (which is how I feel, I mean.. using myself as an example of what not to do) but because you're All That, you know it, and you sit on who you want, when you want, and tickle feet like a Dad or Uncle tickling his little girl.

Talk like this, and SINCERELY SUBCONSCIOUSLY believe it: "Girlfriend, handsome and amazing though I am, I must have you. I can't stop thinking about you, you're smart and funny and everything I dream about. With anyone else I'm in control, but with you.. you are so exquisite, I can't help but want to ravish you. It's you, personally, something only about you. I.. I have to tear your clothes off, drag you by the hair and ankles onto the bed, tie you up and do unspeakable things to you with my fingers. Oh.. I could just look at you, drink you with my eyes. I have to... I want you so much, you are so everything to me.. I just have to tickle you, I can't contain the strong, hard feelings I have for you.. . I want you so much it frustrates me.. ah, I can't even speak any more, the passion is overwhelming! Tickle Tickle Tickle!" And just go to town with kisses and hugs, sneaking in sudden and daring pokes and tickles at random and unexpected moments.

I think I'm in love!! Yikes!

 

[ra2punk]

Bashiku - Thank you for the advice, and I definitley understand that love is more important than tickling. When we were on our 'breaks,' I hung out a lot with another good friend of mine who is extremely ticklish, but I just ended up missing my gf's companionship and well, love I guess. I've come to understand that although it's a huge turn on, love and companionship is much more powerful - I mean hey, that's why I have entertianments like this forum and the TMF! haha. I will definitley consider getting very romancy with her one night and throwing in a couple tickles to see if it makes her a bit more sensitive emotionally and physically.

TickleCat - I definitley understand that I am asking a great, bold thing. Even girls that are extremely ticklish may not open up as easily as she has to me, so I definitley appreciate and respect that. She KNOWS how aroused I get with tickling, and she has tickled me as well. Only thing that is frustrating is that I am actually REALLY ticklish, and she isn't too much... lol. We generally include some tickling in foreplay, just because of the fact that it's so arousing. We are both sincere, and are extremely adaptable to each other - it's just that she doesn't have any 'quirks' like I do, and I was her first as well if that means anything. We have a strong attachment among eachother and a strong, honest relationship. Fact is... she just isn't ticklish.

I suppose I can let her tie me up and tickle me a few times, and maybe things will turn around... I know I love her, and care for her - so I suppose I have all the time in the world to adapt.

Thanks for the support so far, I still am encouraging suggestions, and will keep you posted on any progress! 🙂