my husband has NO CLUE that I love to be tickled...

[Fantastklr]

Iris,
I wish you all the luck in the world! You seem like a very sincere person and I truly hope you find exactly what you're looking for.

AffectionateDan,
that was an amazing post!

 

[Iris]

you all are not just cool but super cool!!! i am making lots of new friends this week...and feel like lots of tickling will be going on real soon....what's that saying be careful what u wish for.....heeeheeee....i am reallly looking forward to meeting luvgirls feet in november!!!! ROCK ON WITH YOUR SOCKS ON TMF"ERs oops I mean OFF

 

[Saeria]

I kinda understand what you're going through. I was married to a man who not only was about as vanilla as it gets in bed, he had the libido of a dead horse (well he did when it came to me, anyways...). I'm one of those patient people who is willing to stick through things no matter how aggravating or uncomfortable it is and try to find SOMETHING good. It didn't happen. While he was out and about gallivanting with women under the influence, i was at home secretly perusing the forum, secretly wishing i could be a part of it myself. I already knew what the outcome would be if i had said to him "hey, this is what i'm into, it makes me happy" ... and of course, he didn't disappoint when i finally did tell him (after we split). He now sees me as a pervert. Heh, maybe he's right, but at least i'm a happy pervert.
In life, you realize just how important it is to do the things that make you happiest (provided these decisions aren't harmful to those around you). You only live it once.

 

[-Hari-]

well, ive got nothing to add, what i would have said has been said,

if it was just down to lack of tickling then i dont think i could encourage you to split over it, but if the relationship in general just isnt making you happy thats different,

Good luck in whatever action you choose to take/not take 🙂

an unhappy marrige= an unhappy life, look far ahead and think about your future, what you do now is the start of the rest of your life, and if the rest of your life isnt going to be happy, you dont get another shot

Hari

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

i am reallly looking forward to meeting luvgirls feet in november!!!!

I'm very much looking forward to meeting you as well

 

[Iris]

Saeria u totally get it!!!!! we need to chat soon for real.... i know I'm a perv and so do all of my friends....heeeeheeeeeee rock on..... glad to have met u even if YOU DID BEAT ME.....

 

[tickmankyle1]

hope all works out been there done that with bricks for girl friends. later kyle

 

[Gadilici]

Good to see you've been inspired and supported by the people here. Not so sure I agree about you rockin' on with your socks on. I think bare be better, but to each her own. 😉

Now, if you're ever up Virginia way.....😎

CJ

 

[tulipangel]

WOW! I have to say one thing here since I live with the most Vanilla man ALIVE!!!!!!! Sometimes we dont realize how important something is in our life till we are already married.

FOR ME: I got married knowing i loved tickling and my husband isnt into it..... I didnt realize how much it was a part of my life till after the wedding....

This happens to a lot of people. Sometimes we just dont know what we want till we dont get it.

Just a thought!

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I know what you are saying TulipAngel. That does tend to be the case many times. You don't really know what you are real passionate and feel strongly about until you are not getting something. When that one thing or more things are missing in your relationship or marriage-that is when you know that it is not just a like; it is a kink, true passion that you feel strongly about.

Yeah that might have been what happened to Iris, she didn't realize how greatly she loved and had been so intensely passionate about tickling-until it was missing. That makes sense. That is understandable. I am sorry TulipAngel that sadly your husband does not share the intense love and passion for tickling that you do. That is indeed a very sad and tragic thing to hear.
I feel for you. Just know I am here for you and here for Iris too if ever you both ever need to talk or want someone to listen, love to be your friends.

I understand what you are saying TulipAngel with you saying you did know he did not share love for tickling; but u did not realize how deep and how passionate your love for tickling had been at that time for you until after you and him were married. Really sorry to hear this. So what you said makes total sense to me what you are saying.
Yes, sadly like I said before this tends to be the case and happens too many times in many relationships and marriages-whether it be not sharing love and passion for tickling, or not receiving much affection and love, or not sharing similiar passions and desires and fantasies, or emot or sexual incompatibility or having trouble emotionally communicating clearly or distancing emotionally and ect. The list goes on and on.

So I know exactly what you are saying TulipAngel.
Just know I think you and Iris are great women, very strong and wonderful women. Both are real inspirations. Defintely going to keep a close eye for both of your great wonderful threads and posts, love reading what you both got to say. Have a great day. Hugs to you both

 

[wishfoot88]

i am truly sorry that he wont give you the happiness that you deserve.
i only ever read your posts and threads and even I know how important this is to you!!
i cant get it through my head. why? why doesn't he care about this side of your life?!
i would be ecstatic if (when i get a wife) my wife said she liked tickling!!!!
i am truly sorry for you.
at least you have all of your TMF friends, BTW i hope i can place myself in this category.
you seem like a really nice person who is down on her luck!

things can only get better!!!

 

[Artoo]

I don't think I could last in a long term relationship where my partner was unable to fulfill my needs, sexual or otherwise.

If I meet a partner on here, so much the better, but even if I meet someone in real life, I'd consider it paramount that they at least put up with my love of tickling, even in they wanted me to do other stuff for them.

 

[maniactickler]

Getting divorced due to lack of tickling seems a bit extreme to me.

The right thing to do, was not marry him in the first place if he wasnt into tickling.

 

[paracarl44]

Good Luck To You.

Keep on posting and you will find people who share your tickling interest.

There was another lady, who couldn't get her husband interested into tickling her, but apparently found other things in her marriage to stick with him.

 

[TKL_Rebel]

now im not speaking for all men, but some men will find it sexy to do something to there wives/gfs that turns them on.

this is ofcourse if tickling turns you on....

so if yes, tell him that you love it and that it is a turn on.

It would be better for him to do it for you and not just to fulfil his own needs but atleast you will be getting what you want... i hope that makes sense