My Mom said the strangest thing to me yesterday

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Wow...according to your Mom I'm a dike....wait till my husband hears that! 🙂

Wow! Sorry about that!

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Thank everyone for your support so far

I just want to thank everyone for your support so far . A lot of what people are saying I agree with, however, I think I'll try and wear skirts more at least (because I want to, not because my Mom says).

 

[Crash Brickwall]

Has anybody besides me noticed a correlation between the tightness of a girl's jeans and the degree of femininity?

 

[TangerineTicklee]

Has anybody besides me noticed a correlation between the tightness of a girl's jeans and the degree of femininity?

I have.

I have also noticed that the same concept can be applied to the females with the most glitter and designs on their jeans. That usually signifies that they more feminine. Or so I believe.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Sorry but I got to say this: I think that was terribly rude and out of line for your mother to say such a cruel and hurtful comment like that. I am really sorry you had to deal with that and hear crap like that. That was totally uncalled for and totally not cool. I mean come on how did you go from her being concerned and talking about managing your finances -from the topic of she thinks you are a lesbian because of the way you choose to dress casual in shirts and jeans. That is just crap in my book. That was not something a mother should say or behave towards her own daughter. I don't get how she could say such a thing, not very loving to say that. I mean I am sure your mother is a nice person but that was way out of line. I can't blame you for being upset about this. I can't believe she thinks that lesbians just dress masculine "dyke" fashion because that is a total stereotype. I am sure there are some lesbians that do dress masculine but sure are there those that also dress feminine. That is stereotyping.

What did you say when she said this hurtful stuff to you?! I would be very upset myself if my mother said such a hurtful thing and it was not true, being straight be a real insult and I would feel it be a personal attack of my character. I mean does she actually think that all lesbians wear masculine clothes or for that matter-that if a woman is a lesbian-than that means she would not wear skirts or dresses-has to stick to wearing masculine clothes. Oh my. I am sorry she said this to you. I would advise in the future-if you can maybe try to put some emotional distance between you and your mom. If she is going to say hurtful things like that-then not even apologize for insulting you, that is not being a loving mother, not being a friend. It is wrong and hurtful.

Oh and you know if you feel like you don't want to wear make up everyday you do what makes you comfortable and be yourself. A woman does not have to wear make up everyday and a woman does not have to wear frilly dresses and fancy feminine skirts. I mean I think it goes deeper than that, a woman's appearance is not true feminity, least not in my book. It takes a lot more than clothes to make a person-same goes for a woman. A woman can be feminine whether she decides to wear jeans or dazzle up-those that say a woman can't be sexy and can't be feminine without have to dazzle up don't really understand and really can't grasp what true feminity is about.

So be yourself friend. This is your life and don't be afraid to live it and seize your true happiness. It sounds like she is not upset with you but might have some personal issues herself she might be suddenly having to deal with. Sorry this happened to you. Don't let anyone ever tell you who and what to be just be yourself dear friend and you will go far. Peace, and hugs to you.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

Has anybody besides me noticed a correlation between the tightness of a girl's jeans and the degree of femininity?

IMO it shows a comfort level, dated fashion, or perhaps one's personal preference; not a degree of femininity.

Do you also suggest that men who wear tighter jeans are more feminine than those who don't?

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Sorry but I got to say this: I think that was terribly rude and out of line for your mother to say such a cruel and hurtful comment like that. I am really sorry you had to deal with that and hear crap like that. That was totally uncalled for and totally not cool. I mean come on how did you go from her being concerned and talking about managing your finances -from the topic of she thinks you are a lesbian because of the way you choose to dress casual in shirts and jeans. That is just crap in my book. That was not something a mother should say or behave towards her own daughter. I don't get how she could say such a thing, not very loving to say that. I mean I am sure your mother is a nice person but that was way out of line. I can't blame you for being upset about this. I can't believe she thinks that lesbians just dress masculine "dyke" fashion because that is a total stereotype. I am sure there are some lesbians that do dress masculine but sure are there those that also dress feminine. That is stereotyping.

What did you say when she said this hurtful stuff to you?! I would be very upset myself if my mother said such a hurtful thing and it was not true, being straight be a real insult and I would feel it be a personal attack of my character. I mean does she actually think that all lesbians wear masculine clothes or for that matter-that if a woman is a lesbian-than that means she would not wear skirts or dresses-has to stick to wearing masculine clothes. Oh my. I am sorry she said this to you. I would advise in the future-if you can maybe try to put some emotional distance between you and your mom. If she is going to say hurtful things like that-then not even apologize for insulting you, that is not being a loving mother, not being a friend. It is wrong and hurtful.

Oh and you know if you feel like you don't want to wear make up everyday you do what makes you comfortable and be yourself. A woman does not have to wear make up everyday and a woman does not have to wear frilly dresses and fancy feminine skirts. I mean I think it goes deeper than that, a woman's appearance is not true feminity, least not in my book. It takes a lot more than clothes to make a person-same goes for a woman. A woman can be feminine whether she decides to wear jeans or dazzle up-those that say a woman can't be sexy and can't be feminine without have to dazzle up don't really understand and really can't grasp what true feminity is about.

So be yourself friend. This is your life and don't be afraid to live it and seize your true happiness. It sounds like she is not upset with you but might have some personal issues herself she might be suddenly having to deal with. Sorry this happened to you. Don't let anyone ever tell you who and what to be just be yourself dear friend and you will go far. Peace, and hugs to you.

You are awesome Ticklebunny2! Thanks for your kind words. Hope you're going to NEST because I will be there.