my ex girlfriend is very ticklish, but hated being tickled. It took a while, but after giving her some slow soft tickles in places she liked, she began to like being tickled. Mostly on her back. She never liked being tickled on her feet.
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My new GF is ticklish but she hates it :( how do you fight the urge?
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There you go. Easing into it without disrespecting her is the way to go.
Holy shit...how about trying to understand HER way of thinking?
Moose, at first you might want to find out if she actually REALLY hates being tickled or if she just isn't used to it. Maybe encourage her to tickle you, too. But forcing tickling on her, especially if she can't get away from it, is definitely the wrong way to do it!
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i did this with one of my friends way back, im bi, my one frined hates being tickeld, we have poke wars time to time when she find out im ticklish she liked getting me back, so try to be flirty a bit but dont tickle, start off with pokes, and see if she gets you back then start of with something higer like tickles
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Try to introduce tickling slightly. Offer her foot massages, that turn in tickling massages (without telling it), but it should be very slight tickling, she needs to know that is feeling tickle, but you are not doing it on purpose, so she, by herself discover that tickling is delightful. Do it softly.
Then, in other times, interact with things like that. Kiss her neck sometimes -that is, I am not sure, if tickling, or other thing, but it is still something very intense, like tickling-. Slightly, eventually, introduce tickling in your tender games.
Then, in other times, interact with things like that. Kiss her neck sometimes -that is, I am not sure, if tickling, or other thing, but it is still something very intense, like tickling-. Slightly, eventually, introduce tickling in your tender games.
Hi moose!
Once I was in a similar situation. After a long period of girlfriends who were only mildly ticklish or not ticklish at all, I finally met a "really" ticklish girl. I was in heaven, walking on clouds and the only thing I could think about all the time was tickling her - and forgot about her as a person.
At first she would accept it as a kind of "playfull" thing, soon she became irritated and finally she was offended.
I can only repeat what has been said here before: Do not forget that you're dealing with a living person and not some kind of mindless "tickle-puppet", do not listen to those who keep telling you to go whole hog and "tickle-rape" her. Be mindful and considerate in exploring how far you can go. Maybe there is a way you can live out your tickling desires, but you can only do that in correspondance with her.
Once I was in a similar situation. After a long period of girlfriends who were only mildly ticklish or not ticklish at all, I finally met a "really" ticklish girl. I was in heaven, walking on clouds and the only thing I could think about all the time was tickling her - and forgot about her as a person.
At first she would accept it as a kind of "playfull" thing, soon she became irritated and finally she was offended.
I can only repeat what has been said here before: Do not forget that you're dealing with a living person and not some kind of mindless "tickle-puppet", do not listen to those who keep telling you to go whole hog and "tickle-rape" her. Be mindful and considerate in exploring how far you can go. Maybe there is a way you can live out your tickling desires, but you can only do that in correspondance with her.
Tickling is NOT rape.
You've just offended every rape victim ever.
This has got to be the most idiotic post I've ever read.
Although I agree with you on certain points, I wouldn't go as far as to call the post "idiotic." I think he's trying to make a valid point, but he should've used different wording as opposed to comparing tickling to rape. Many around this forum consider non consentual tickling almost as bad as rape, even still they aren't the same thing.
I hope the OP did learn his lesson and respects the needs and wishes of his partner. Not everyone likes being tickled and although I happen to there are times I don't and I want those respected.
I've been "abused" and I can say if you are getting off on something and the other person is miserable, its like rape. I love being tickled, but also have times I don't want it, for whatever reason. It's so important that no is respected.
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I object no one has ever suggested anyone be raped... Only tickled!
Dandy Jack!
I agree and you are right.
And my apologies and hope I haven't led you to believe that I thought any differently from what you said above. I even said that many consider non consentual tickling as rape.
To the OP:
You can't make someone like something no matter how much you try. If she's really that repulsed with being tickled, then please don't tickle her. Either get an understanding with her about tickling others, or find another girlfriend that is like minded. If she hates it that much and you must have tickling in the relationship, you are unequally yoked together and in the end, it's not going to work out.
Good luck
You can't make someone like something no matter how much you try. If she's really that repulsed with being tickled, then please don't tickle her. Either get an understanding with her about tickling others, or find another girlfriend that is like minded. If she hates it that much and you must have tickling in the relationship, you are unequally yoked together and in the end, it's not going to work out.
Good luck
I think the OP has enough advice from various perspectives on this.
Sometimes ticklers in a relationship or even close proximity with a very ticklish person who hates it are like moths flittering around a hot light bulb. The desire to fly ever closer, to even touch (tickle) is powerful and seductive. We know the usual nasty result of that moth touching that hot light bulb. So is likely the fate of the tickler who can't resist.
Let's hope common sense and common decency guide our frustrated OP tickler.
Sometimes ticklers in a relationship or even close proximity with a very ticklish person who hates it are like moths flittering around a hot light bulb. The desire to fly ever closer, to even touch (tickle) is powerful and seductive. We know the usual nasty result of that moth touching that hot light bulb. So is likely the fate of the tickler who can't resist.
Let's hope common sense and common decency guide our frustrated OP tickler.
Call me sexist, but it's a man's job in a relationship to lead, and if you can't get your love prospect to satisfy your needs, or you can't satisfy hers, than it just isn't going to work.
Guys wonder all the time how they end up in the friend zone, 99% of the time it's cause they're pushovers, just saying.
Anyways, in my own humble opinion, I truly believe that friendship is what defines a relationship with a girl, sex comes after. If you love this girl and really want to make it work, than you'll have to look past your fetish. However, if you're not satisfied in the relationship, you'll never be happy....so you gotta figure out if she's worth it or not.
Guys wonder all the time how they end up in the friend zone, 99% of the time it's cause they're pushovers, just saying.
Anyways, in my own humble opinion, I truly believe that friendship is what defines a relationship with a girl, sex comes after. If you love this girl and really want to make it work, than you'll have to look past your fetish. However, if you're not satisfied in the relationship, you'll never be happy....so you gotta figure out if she's worth it or not.
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I honestly wouldnt know how to word it to a woman that I no longer wish to be with her anymore because she happens to be ticklish and hate it where i enjoy tickling her. without it hurting her feelings because everytime she sees you she'll remember that moment of breaking up because of something she is and hates ( ticklish/tickling ) and what you like tickling. I know women who hate me because I LOVE tickling and I never touched them before now that is a problem in neverending story book of my failures...Best of luck to you
Honestly, if someone told me that he didn't want to be with me because he couldn't do something to me that I hate, it wouldn't hurt my feelings. I would think that the person is a major idiot and be glad to be rid of him!
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I object no one has ever suggested anyone be raped... Only tickled!
Dandy Jack!
How about assault with a deadly weapon? Keep those fingers in your pockets! Unless, she says "hello," and gives you that special wink.
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That corresponds to my experience. Insisting on doing something that your partner finds repulsive is a sure way to end the relationship.
This. I'm not going to fuck up a potentially great relationship with a girl that can make my life a lot better, just because of some stupid fetish that I have. Just watch tickling videos.
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This x10000. Though I wouldn't say the fetish is "stupid" it's not important enough to me to base life changing decisions around it
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Wisest words I have ever read.
As I'm reading the replies, the first question in my mind is.. Does she know why you're tickling her, and that you like tickling.. as a sexual thing?
I would try having an open conversation with her about it, asking if you could perhaps introduce tickling very slowly. I saw someone mention where your gf is a ler. Perhaps offer to let her tickle you, and then switch.
If she absolutely refuses to do this, you have three options as I see it. Either enjoy your relationship with her for the other things besides tickling, ask her if she would allow you to tickle another girl outside of the relationship, or, if you havent reached the point where your feelings are that deep for her yet, perhaps you are best finding another girl who will indulge in your tickling fetish.
I would try having an open conversation with her about it, asking if you could perhaps introduce tickling very slowly. I saw someone mention where your gf is a ler. Perhaps offer to let her tickle you, and then switch.
If she absolutely refuses to do this, you have three options as I see it. Either enjoy your relationship with her for the other things besides tickling, ask her if she would allow you to tickle another girl outside of the relationship, or, if you havent reached the point where your feelings are that deep for her yet, perhaps you are best finding another girl who will indulge in your tickling fetish.
