Need advice, how do I tell my bf about my fetish?

[cute_ellie]

Well my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and I wanna tell him how much I love being tickled, to be honest not so much the "honesty" part of it because he knows I like being tickled and he'll playfully tickle me for say a few seconds maybe every few times we hang out. Just "normal" tickling
But I wanna tell him it turns me on and I just enjoy it so he can tickle me the way I want him to lol which is like, being tied up and him tickling me for maybe a half hour or so idk
I feel like he would understand because we do a ddlg thing so he's already dominant sexually and playfully and I'm submissive and he already does stuff like armpit licking and for worship but it's pretty brief so I wonder if he's just doing a little at a time to not scare me well how do I tell him I like it and I want more?? Im just embarrassed because I've never confessed anything like that before I'm embarrassed even just typing this lol well does anyone have advice for me🙂

 

[Myriads]

Considering the solid nature of your relationship, on all levels, including sexual I'd say the best thing to do would be to be upfront. And tell him directly and honestly. No need for a game of subtle hints and guessing at the level of relationship you have.

Tell him you like to be tickled, and have fantasized about being well tied and tickled, and would like to make it part of your normal play cycle.

Myriads

 

[ISUmark]

Im assuming you're young. The first time you tell a significant other about it its weird. Just accept that its going to be weird but if you truly want to be happy you've gotta be up front and honest. You've been with him for a year so Id say its a good time to reveal that information. Truth of the matter is that if he cant accept it then its not meant to be, and you don't want to be stuck in a relationship where you aren't completely happy and fulfilled. You've waited a year and that's good, but believe me as you get older youll reveal that information much sooner, because when you hit a certain point and you know what you want you wont want to waste time with something that may or may not be. Hope this helps, and good luck revealing the truth. Just telling him is the best way.

 

[robmic]

Just make sure when you tell him that you set boundaries so he knows how much is too much. If he doesn't know, it could go too far, which would spoil it for both of you.

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

The issue here is not HOW to tell him. Your communication skills are not at all lacking at all. You articulated your situation to us easily.

I think what you're really asking is how to find the courage to tell him. It's a big step to reveal something that deeply personal. It seems to be particularly difficult for women and it's somewhat ironic as women are generally more about sharing feelings then men are.

There's no mystery here. You are simply standing dry at the edge of swimming pool on a hot day and working up the courage to dive into the cold water. All it takes is a decision to proceed.

Just do it.

 

[Wolf]

Sounds like you're already more than halfway there. Just tell him. Anyone who cares about their partner wants to know what turns them on.

 

[TS41]

Comment deleted

 

[TigerChick22]

I also told my boyfriend for the first time within the past year. The moments before telling them is the difficult part. I promise, if your relationship is solid, you will be immediately SO glad that you told him! It really is just getting up the courage. I started with telling my boyfriend I have a fetish and let him guess. Then, his mind will wonder to the strangest parts of the fetish world, and when it turns out to be tickling, he ought to think its kinda cute. Good luck and don't stress out!

 

[daryl]

Keep in mind that most men love to feel like they know how to turn their women on. It makes men feel more secure. All you need to do is whisper that you are really getting turned on when he is doing it (or right after) or even just a "more please" after he stops and everything will flow from there.

 

[ticklerokla]

Next time he has you tied up, tell him then. You could guide him to it by saying you have a really bad itch on your foot and see if he takes the bait, then tell him how much it affects you and it's something you want to try.

 

[OfficerMIke89]

Well my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and I wanna tell him how much I love being tickled, to be honest not so much the "honesty" part of it because he knows I like being tickled and he'll playfully tickle me for say a few seconds maybe every few times we hang out. Just "normal" tickling
But I wanna tell him it turns me on and I just enjoy it so he can tickle me the way I want him to lol which is like, being tied up and him tickling me for maybe a half hour or so idk
I feel like he would understand because we do a ddlg thing so he's already dominant sexually and playfully and I'm submissive and he already does stuff like armpit licking and for worship but it's pretty brief so I wonder if he's just doing a little at a time to not scare me well how do I tell him I like it and I want more?? Im just embarrassed because I've never confessed anything like that before I'm embarrassed even just typing this lol well does anyone have advice for me🙂

Well, I have been blessed with a boyfriend who absolutelly loves to tickle, but also cursed with a boyfriend that also lives kind of far and it's hard for us to meet as often as I would like. I have been as shy as you, but eventually I started to tell people I date that I am an absolute sucker for being tickled, and that is also the reason I found a boyfriend who loves to tickle, because I expressed my wants openly. My advice is to just tell him bluntly you love being tickled and you want him to torment you (works for sadistic people who are not much into tickling) for x ammount of time without holding back. If he is not into it he may not be very enthusiastic about it, but I see no reason he would refuse, since being the tickler is not unpleasant, and he pleases you by doing it.